When I heard grandma say this, my mother must stop it in time. Many people will ask the elderly at home to help take care of their children, but some words of the elderly have invisibly affected the children. Parents need to stop it in time. Here's what grandma said. Mothers must stop it in time!

When grandma said this, mom must stop 1 1 in time, hitting the table, who told it to hurt our baby! "

It is normal for children to trip when they can walk and run. I don't know how many times I have to touch a naughty day. Of course, it hurts when it hurts. This is a natural reaction, but at this time, our grandmothers always rushed to pick up the children, smashed the desks and stools and said, "Who wants you to touch our baby …" This was originally a way to take care of the children, but the impact on the children was negative: it was not my fault that I fell, it was all the fault of the desks and stools! Do you expect such a child to save himself when he grows up? Maybe everything is someone else's fault!

2. "Don't tell your mother, she won't let you eat!"

For those grandmothers who always play the good COP in front of their children and let their mothers play the bad COP, sometimes my teeth really itch. No mother doesn't want her children to be fine, so many times she will restrict their children from eating some junk food that is not good for their health or prohibit them from playing with some toys that may be dangerous. Originally, grandma should be on the same side as mom at this time, but in fact, most grandmothers can't resist their children's coquetry. They not only indulge their children, but also say things like "Don't tell your mother, your mother won't allow you …"! So in the child, "Mom is not good to me, but Grandma is good!" "Psychology, this is simply to sow discord!

3. "Nothing, take one!"

I believe you have been to the supermarket with your children and their grandmother? Or at least you have seen such a scene: children can't help but want to eat all kinds of delicious food in the supermarket, such as jelly, candy, bulk biscuits and so on! Sometimes they are too young to know that the bill belongs to us, so when they see something they like, they take it away. At this time, mothers often stop their children and tell them that they can't have them without paying, but grandmothers come again. "Nothing, take one to eat!" What does it matter to give him one! "Did you just give in? As a result, the child took it for granted that "as long as you don't take more, you can!" ",turned into a man like a thief!

4. "What does such a small child know?"

When grandma said this sentence, it really made people feel unintentional to explain! Were you a fool when you were a child? What did the child do wrong? Your old man said that he was not sensible and could be forgiven. I taught the child to do his own thing. Your old man also said that the child is too young. Don't force him to grow up ... the child is always smart. After a long time, what do you want him to do? You may even say "Grandma says I'm too young ..." You'll regret it!

5. "Your mother doesn't want you, and your mother ignores you."

Are you particularly disgusted to hear that? But it doesn't seem so good. Are you angry about this? Because people are obviously joking? If you really put up with people saying such things to your children silently, I can only say that you are really stupid! Especially when this person is your child's grandmother or grandmother! Children's' world is much simpler than adults', and they can't tell what is a joke and what is a fact. Maybe it wouldn't be so harmful if it were replaced by other irrelevant people, but grandma said it was different. In their hearts, they will only think of "even grandma said so, then mom may really want me", and then fear and sadness will quickly occupy the children's hearts, and some will even have resistance to their mothers! For this kind of grandmother, I just want to ask, "Is this a mother who bears a grudge against you?"

6. "If you don't eat well, I will call the police to arrest you!"

Intimidation is a common trick of old people, even in fairy tales, isn't it? Threaten the child with what he is afraid of, so that he can achieve one of his goals! In this way, children often obey, even if they don't want to ... In the long run, on the one hand, children will lose trust in adults, on the other hand, they will be conveyed the idea of "making others obey, you can use threats"! Think about it. Can such children become good citizens when they grow up?

7. "Enjoy it, and I'll take you to buy BearBiscuit after eating!"

Different from threats, many grandmothers like to use this kind of reward to make their children obey. Of course, even if their children meet their requirements, they will not really be given the promised rewards. This way looks much worse than threatening gentle civilization, but it actually has the same bad influence on their children, except that the word threat is replaced by a false promise …

In fact, it may not only be grandma who said these words, but also grandpa, grandma, grandpa, neighbors and even some parents themselves. It is important that no matter who said these words, for the sake of children, mothers must take them seriously, stop them in time, appease their children, and tell them the truth and the correct way! Only in this way can children grow up healthily and happily!

After hearing grandma say this, my mother must stop coming home from work for 2 nights in time. Seeing the tip I haven't seen all day, the little guy raised his hand and said, "Mom, eat!" " "I was beaming and thinking, hey, kid, I didn't raise you for nothing. The next sentence he said: "I eat fresh, and my mother eats what I have left!" " "After listening, a mouthful of old blood didn't come out.

It turns out that when the old man takes care of the children, he always leaves the best for the children, so that the children feel that he takes it for granted to eat fresh fruit. This phenomenon is not unique to my family. Once I saw an old woman eating in a restaurant with her children. The fist-sized Hong Kong pineapple bag is delicious. Grandma is reluctant to eat, and the dessert residue that the child dropped in the bib was picked up by grandma and put in her mouth. This scene is really sad.

Once upon a time, we were the apple of our family's eye, and we had something to eat and wear first. When I was a child eating chicken, my father accidentally caught the drumstick, and the chopsticks were not firmly clamped. My mother knocked off my father's chopsticks with one hand, accompanied by violence: "Don't eat the child's legs!" " "

Now, our children have taken our place and stood at the top of the food chain. The food chain at home becomes: children-us (parents)-old people. The hardest thing is always our parents, our children's grandparents, grandparents.

It is very happy to have an old man to help with the children. On the other hand, I really sympathize with them. After all, after entering the workplace, I have to entrust the day to the elderly. However, because of the love for children, the old man said something, but it invisibly influenced the children, leading them to think that they are the center of the universe. These words need to be communicated with the elderly as much as possible and as little as possible.

1, I won't take you if you do this again!

If there are any sentences, saying them can make children cry. This sentence "I won't take you" can be said to be tried and tested. Parents in the workplace go out early and return late, and the elderly bring more children. Even in some families, the elderly take their children to sleep, so that children and the elderly have particularly deep feelings.

However, children are still young and have more time to be naughty. Sometimes he jumps up and down like a macaque, and the old man can't help it. When he is angry, he will say: I won't take you! I'm leaving! This sentence is absolutely effective, and children are likely to converge because they are worried that the old man will not take him. But the negative effects are: children are insecure, more dependent on the elderly, and their sense of independence is worse, which is not conducive to personality growth.

2, mom won't buy it for you, grandma will buy it for you!

Take the children to the mall to see the toys that can't walk. The child began to roll around and buy, but the mother resolutely refused to buy it. I have seen a lot of early teaching, and I must cultivate financial and business awareness. "Buying toys is not in our itinerary." I am earnestly persuading, but the old man can't see the past, and the child's voice is crying dumb: "The baby doesn't cry, the mother won't buy it, and the grandmother will buy it for you!" Said, patting the backpack, indicating that there is money to buy it.

The child smiled through tears, but the mother held back her internal injuries. What is the authority of parents? You know, educating children is the unshirkable responsibility of parents. Children make mistakes and disobey, and the family is as unified as possible. Never say one to your parents and two to the elderly. Children nowadays are very smart. He found that it was necessary to get rid of the old man only if he won over his parents. Isn't he in charge after that?

If you care about your grandson, you must unite your child's parents. Otherwise, the grandson/granddaughter will suffer in the end.

3. "If you are naughty again, mom will not want you!"

Every time I hear these threats to my children, is my mother particularly disgusting? Such languages include: if you don't eat well, I'll let the police take you away! In the child's mind, he can't tell whether it's true or not. He just feels that "even grandma said so, and my mother may really not want me."

If it happens that the mother is pregnant with a second child, the child's sadness will be deeper. All kinds of fears and fears are mixed together, and negative emotions occupy the child's heart. He may be like a different person, making trouble when his mother is at home: there is only one reason behind it, hoping to get more attention from his mother.

There are old people with children at home. On the one hand, we should be grateful, on the other hand, we need to communicate more. Language can make or break a child.

Back to the beginning of this article, when the child said this, I immediately corrected him: "We don't have this rule in our family. The best food is given to grandma first, then to mom, and finally to the baby! " Feed grandma a fresh grape! "I'm glad I corrected it earlier when I watched my children run to find my grandmother.