Your child, how are you going to raise him?
"Eat, wear and play, give him the best material life;
Early education, kindergarten, primary school ... let him go to the best school and receive the best education. "Even if you raise children according to the previous ideas, there are still many parents who sigh:
"Why do I pay so much for my child, and the child still hasn't grown into what I expected?" Educating children is a long-term and arduous undertaking, which needs the careful cultivation and care of parents.
What a child will grow up in the future is often hidden in the family education of parents. No matter how you make your child rich materially, it is better to cultivate a child who is rich spiritually. "Children with rich hearts are independent, confident and optimistic, and can see their own advantages clearly; We can also accept our own shortcomings and face any setbacks and difficulties independently and strongly. " Everything we do to a child will have a result, which will not only affect his life, but also determine his life.
Before the age of 3, meet the needs of children's sense of security.
0-3 years old is a critical period for children to build a sense of security.
Whether parents can give their children a sense of security in this period determines the emotional connection mode with the outside world in his life.
If you can adopt a loving attitude towards your baby, and this kind of love is frequent, consistent and reliable, your child will feel comfortable and satisfied and establish an initial sense of security.
A child's sense of security is lacking, and it can't be made up for all his life.
Before the age of 6, set rules for children.
Before the age of 6, children will go through many sensitive periods, such as self-awareness, hand and mouth, order and gender. 3-6 years old is the most critical period for children's personality and behavior habits.
85%-90% of children's personality, thoughts and behaviors are formed at this stage.
No matter how good the education is, it is useless if you don't set rules for your children before they are 6 years old.
Don't arrange, let the children try.
The hardest thing for parents is never to give their children too much love, but to let go at the right time, so that children can try to eat by themselves at the age of 3 and clean up their jobs: at the age of 5, they can wear clothes and shoes independently; At the age of 8, you should work regularly and learn to manage time;
Truly farsighted parents will constantly give their children opportunities to practice independently and cultivate their self-care ability.
Always love, accept and appreciate children.
Educator Rousseau once pointed out that the three most useless educational methods in the world are: reasoning, losing your temper and deliberately moving.
Unfortunately, these three educational methods are exactly the most enthusiastic parenting methods for many parents at present.
Successful family education, parents will always be willing to spend time with their children; Communicate with children in an equal manner and fully affirm their correct thoughts and behaviors.
Understand the ceremony and sow happiness and hope in children's hearts.
Life needs a sense of ceremony, and a sense of ceremony can bring us great happiness. For example, every time I go out or go home, I will hug my children, take a family photo once a year, and receive surprise gifts from my family on holidays or anniversaries ... For children, the sense of ceremony is not only an expectation, but also a rich connotation. Children can learn more knowledge and become educated people. Even a simple sense of ceremony will arouse children's love and positive attitude towards life.