Overexploitation is harmful and useless. There are many different situations about children's education for us, so the cultivation of talents also needs moderate adjustment. It is important for children's control to develop their potential, but over-exploitation is harmful. The following is the relevant introduction.
Overexploitation is harmful and useless. 1 Too young to stand excessive exploitation.
Zhangyan, a young mother, told reporters: "Last year, my daughter recited hundreds of Tang poems in a few months. Later, we stopped grasping this thing, and now we have forgotten almost everything we once knew." I spent so much time and energy training her, but I still can't resist forgetfulness. This makes people ask: what is the purpose of our parents' persistent efforts to let their children recite Tang poems? "
Professor Meng believes that the phenomenon of "reciting" is common in early education, such as reciting poems, which is beneficial to enhancing children's memory and language ability, but has limited effect on developing children's intelligence.
Cao Yunchang even thinks that training a child too early and teaching him too much knowledge may have side effects, such as disturbing the child's mind. The consequences of disturbing the mind are "hyperactivity" and "easy distraction" "For example, I think there is no doubt that asking a child to recite pi may lead him to' be tired of learning' or hate numbers after school," said Cao Yunchang. "Parents must let their children learn to perceive the world and form the ability to consciously recognize, adapt and change the world."
In this respect, Yu Yan is a successful parent. Her daughter is four years old and has just won the second prize in a national children's singing competition. Her children are also doing well in kindergarten. Dancing, singing, roller skating and literacy are the best in the class. What makes Yu Yan most happy is that children have a conscious awareness of learning and a strong "thirst for knowledge". Yu Yan also likes to teach children to recite Tang poems, but she is very particular about skills. "You can give your child a scene, a picture, or use audio-visual images to help him remember, which will help him better understand the artistic conception of Tang poetry," Yu Yan told reporters. "I remember when my daughter was over 2 years old, I took her on a trip and saw a waterfall. She opened her mouth and said, "I'm afraid the Milky Way has set for nine days after flying down three thousands of feet. I was surprised that all the tourists laughed. I think it's because I really let her know the waterfall when I was singing poetry. "Yu Yan's experience is that our ability and energy are limited and it is impossible to cover everything, but if we teach our children the ability to learn, they will benefit for life.
Get out of the misunderstanding of intellectual development
"Don't let your child lose at the starting line." This is the voice of parents. Which parent doesn't want to make their children smarter? Many people think that children will become smarter by learning more knowledge and skills, but many education experts think that this has little effect. So, how to develop children's IQ?
Dr. Cao Yunchang pointed out three most effective means, namely, outdoor heavy exercise, fine movements (hand ability) and language stimulation. Exercise can strengthen the brain and cultivate children's perception and interest in things around them. Fine movements can make children "ingenious", and the cultivation of language ability can promote the development of children's brain cells. In addition to intellectual development, parents should also help their children form rich emotions, have a correct understanding of people, events and society, and form a positive attitude towards life. Parents should have more parent-child activities with their children, take them to play and communicate. Gradually let children form their own feelings, cognition and habits.
Reporter Angela Yu Jian
Overexploitation is harmful and useless. There are many blessings and many evils in life. It is a very lucky thing to have a smart child, which is God's special care for parents and children themselves. However, some insatiable parents do not cherish and over-exploit. They always want to cultivate a genius, a super genius, skip, skip and skip again. In this way, things will be reversed. Instead of cultivating a genius, they left themselves with lifelong regrets.
Case 1: A Qing (pseudonym) is my colleague and his lover is a doctor. Because the couple got married late, they didn't have a son until they were in their thirties. By this time, most of his classmates' children could already make soy sauce. Fortunately, his son is very clever and learned a lot before he went to school. After children go to school, they jump directly to the second grade at the end of the first semester. After the second grade, children's studies are still good. In the third grade, the child became the first in the class again. Teachers like it and classmates envy it. At this time, with the praise and encouragement of some friends, they directly advanced their son who should have been in the fourth grade to the fifth grade. Of course, they also have small plans in mind: our children are born late, but our children will certainly catch up with their classmates' children.
Who knows that their abacus is not good? Since the child entered the fifth grade, his grades have suddenly fallen behind. Math is ok, but Chinese is poor. Losing the love of teachers and the support of classmates is undoubtedly a heavy blow to this child who has always been a top student. In addition, he is used to listening to praise and praise, and he has to face the indifference, criticism and ridicule of some teachers, so he has a strong aversion to learning and school. He didn't pay attention to the lecture in class and didn't do his homework seriously, so his academic performance was naturally poor. Later, he simply played truant and mixed with gangsters in society. ...
Originally an excellent child, he became a poor student and a punk because he kept skipping classes; The advanced placement that parents used to be proud of has become a permanent pain in their hearts.
Case 2: Amin (a pseudonym), a student I once taught. He is special, timid and procrastinating. A high school student, from the appearance, he is a junior high school student with a baby face, half a head shorter than the average classmate. Because he is small, everyone calls him "Tiny". Speaking of intelligence, Amin is also a clever boy, but he doesn't like learning and his grades have been poor. Because of procrastination, naughty, and poor grades, I am always teased by my classmates, so I am very timid and feel inferior. I heard that he studied very well when he was a child and advanced placement. I decided to visit his house and find out why.
I went to his home, and his mother told me that Amin was lively, smart and a lovely and confident child when he was a child. Because the children are lively and smart, they are not old enough to go to school, so parents will find a relationship to let Amin go to school in advance. The children in Grade One and Grade Two studied well, so Amin skipped a grade. I didn't expect this jump to jump out of the question. Children are younger than other children, so they are younger than their classmates. Although Amin's academic performance at this time is not bad, he is no longer top-notch, and because of his young age, he is worse than his classmates in other aspects except study. The child's self-confidence has been severely hit, and he has become more and more timid, losing interest in learning ... "I have always wanted my child to study early and graduate early, but who knows that today is the end ..." Amin's mother said with tears. I feel sorry for her, too. But who can blame for such a thing?
Now our country is rich, family conditions are good, parents have high cultural quality, and we attach great importance to children's education. Almost more than 80% families educate their children in preschool education. Everyone wants their children to learn knowledge and become talents as soon as possible, and they don't want their children to lose at the starting line. There is nothing wrong with this idea. Moreover, some children finish their studies ahead of time through early family education and advanced placement. From time to time, we also hear reports that a child 14 or even 12 was admitted to the university. As for the story of Harvard girl Liu Yiting, it is an example for everyone to learn. But have you ever wondered how many Liu Yiting have been produced in our big country? /kloc-how many children aged 0/2 have been admitted to the university?
I am both a teacher and a parent. I don't advocate letting children skip classes, whether from the perspective of teachers or parents!
We let our children go to school, not only to learn cultural knowledge, but more importantly, to cultivate their sound personality and improve their ability to adapt to society by getting along with classmates and participating in social activities together. Moreover, cultivating children is a long-term process, and children's growth also has its own laws. Why care for a year or two? What are the advantages of children graduating one year earlier? Why should children be encouraged to grow artificially? Although there are a few children who can still keep in good condition in constant skipping, this is an individual phenomenon after all. More skipping is not joy but regret! Many parents and students who have experienced advanced placement regret it very much.
Parents and friends, we should learn from the above examples and get inspiration. Let's jump out of the utilitarian circle and cultivate children in a normal way. We don't want our children to be Harvard girls or Cambridge boys. It is enough for us to cultivate our children into ordinary people with good physical and mental health and excellent quality. Parents who have given birth to smart children and are eager to succeed should pay attention to: there is nothing wrong with taking the normal route, and excessive development can only be counterproductive!