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Is there a two-year-old baby in your family? Has he been arrogant, disobedient, often angry and often rebelled against what his parents asked him to do recently? She often says "no" and "no" to everything you say? Or suddenly don't like to wear socks, no matter how cold? I like to choose clothes to wear. If I tell him to go east, he will go west. Do something that makes you angry? These are the behaviors of children in the rebellious period of 2 years old.
There are actually two rebellious periods in a person's life. Two years old is our first rebellious period, and 16 years old is our second, also called adolescence. Let us know more about the psychological state of children in rebellious period, which can help us understand and accept children's behavior more easily.
Children around the age of 2 are self-centered in the rebellious period, like to do exaggerated behavior to attract others' attention and take pleasure in antagonistic behavior; At this time, the child suddenly felt like an adult and didn't like others to help her finish anything. ; At this time, children's psychology also needs special respect, which is an equal respect, so they don't like being commanded and ordered; So you tell her to go east, and she goes west. 2-year-old children will suddenly be attached to adults, afraid of losing their closest relatives, and suddenly need a lot of parents' security. At this point, the baby's mood is fierce and changeable. He will swing between two extremes: "yes-no; Yes-no "; Some babies still find it difficult to accept new things, such as unheated food and new clothes, but old and familiar things can give him a sense of security.
In view of the above psychology, give parents some suggestions:
1. More freedom and more love! (Less interference, less interference)
Rebellious children like to explore and take risks, because she thinks she can do anything, so we should give her more space to practice freely, with less interference and less interference; In addition, because she seems to be psychologically independent, she really needs the care and love of her parents, even if she is a little less than before, she will be quite sensitive. Therefore, in this short time, our parents should always hug, touch and kiss their children, so that she can always feel the deep and long-lasting love of her parents; This helps to ease her mood and temper.
2. Use multiple-choice questions instead of giving orders.
If you want your baby to do something, don't give orders, such as "baby, put away your toys!" We have dinner! " In this way, the baby will not listen, and even throw toys all over the floor. You can try to say to your baby gently, "Baby, shall we continue to play with toys or eat your favorite XXX?" To give a choice is to give respect. Children will not only suffer, but also think about their own choices.
3. Eat soft but not hard-remember to avoid destroying parent-child relationship.
If the child disobeys or does something wrong, parents can't severely punish or criticize or beat the child, because her mistake is caused by rebellious psychology, not intentional, so everything can be forgiven. Never hit the child at this time. If you hit your child, her rebellious mentality will be strengthened, and she will feel that her parents don't love her and don't want her. In this way, the situation will become more and more serious, affecting the parent-child relationship. Warm children's fragile psychology with love, and let children understand that parents' tolerance and understanding are the most important. If necessary, you can take cold treatment, put the child aside and let the child and yourself calm down.
Use a diversion method.
When the baby loses her temper willfully, she can divert her attention to other places to avoid getting into trouble because of one thing.
There is no need for parents to be really angry with their children and control their emotions.
In the face of rebellion, the child can't control his emotions, either criticizing him fiercely or locking him in a dark room or bathroom. These behaviors will only strengthen their rebellious psychology; Actually, relax. If the baby breaks a cup, treat him as a trivial matter for the time being. Just clean him up silently. When he is in a good mood, hold him and tell him the danger of what he is doing. Therefore, parents should set an example to control their emotions, and babies will gradually learn how to control their emotions from their parents.
6. Let the baby participate in more activities.
In view of his adult psychology, the mother can try to make the baby do some housework that he has never done before; It is best to let him participate in more activities, such as children's parties and early education courses, which can help children release energy and improve their mood.
Behavioral symptoms in the rebellious period usually last for about 3 months to half a year. After this time, everything returned to normal.
Tolerance, patience, love and freedom are the most effective drugs in the rebellious period.