But how to make children successfully surpass the physiological period, not afraid of strangers and new environment?
Recently, I chatted with the parents of small-stage babies. What parents said more was to recognize strangers. A mother said that in the past, my baby laughed at everyone. When you talk to him, he responds to you by babbling. Strangers can hug him, but they like the excitement.
But then I don't know when it started. It's a disaster when children start to recognize strangers. The most obvious thing is that you start to change your face when you see strangers. Don't hug strangers. Mom always hugs when she goes out. No one can hug her.
Some are more serious. They know the environment and start crying as soon as they enter a strange environment.
In our early education center, I came into contact with the stranger baby, a little girl. Her mother said that when she came to the corner of our center and saw the sign in our center, her face began to change and tears began to flow. When she entered the center, she kept crying, crying everywhere she looked. If a stranger greets her, she will cry even more. Mom and dad are also very helpless, and there is nothing they can do about her.
So how to solve it, how to let the children pass the identification period smoothly?
First of all, parents should realize that knowing strangers is actually an improvement of children's cognition. However, if this kind of cognition is not well guided, it will lead to children's inability to understand the world well and social obstacles may occur.
Why do you say that?
Because children are unfamiliar with new people, things or environment, they feel unhappy, because they begin to feel that this is different from the people and things they usually know, which is the progress of their cognition. In their brains, what they see is different from what they saw before. They have a contrast in logical thinking, and they begin to realize the difference!
On the other hand, children always have this new cognition, and refusing to contact new things and integrate into the new environment will hinder their further growth.
Babies first get to know strangers around 4 months. At this stage, in addition to caregivers who are familiar with themselves, such as parents or grandparents, they will show curiosity about strangers, while others will show fear.
The stranger greeted them, and the picture that came to mind was who this man was. I didn't know him, and he laughed at me fiercely. What's more frightening is that he touched me. Oh, my God! The baby's next reaction is crying, and strangers make them feel scared.
Followed by about 8 months, at this stage, children's cognition has been greatly improved, and they can understand and distinguish familiar caregivers from others. Especially for the environment, they will adapt well to the environment where he often stays, but if he is in a new environment, or if someone he doesn't know approaches or touches him, the baby will feel scared and scared.
Take the blossoming of my family as an example. When blossoming is about 4 months old, suddenly one day, as long as mom and grandma hug her, dad can hug her under the watchful eyes of mom and grandma. Especially at night, I only recognize my mother and grandmother, and my father cries when he is near, because my mother and grandmother take care of her the most during the day.
But after more than eight months, that is, during the Chinese New Year holiday, anyone can hold and laugh. How did you crack it?
The reason is that children should be socialized in an all-round way, from childhood, from birth and from the age of 0.
This socialization includes socialization with self, socialization with environment and socialization with others.
1. and self-communication
Let children learn to socialize and realize themselves.
There is nothing wrong. What children need first is to socialize with themselves. Self-socialization means knowing yourself, your body and your emotions.
Many parenting books at home and abroad suggest that newborns be equipped with a mirror at the bedside, so that they can observe their looks and emotions, associate with themselves from an early age, and understand their expressions such as crying, laughing and frowning.
In addition, touch the baby more. Touch is a way of communication between mother and baby. It can stimulate the skin, the largest sensory organ of human body, so that they can feel their own body better, and at the same time promote the development of nervous system, physical growth and intellectual development. In the month of confinement, I touched blossoming every day. Touching different body parts of babies makes them more sensitive to their own bodies.
Teacher Sun Ruixue, a famous educator and child psychologist in China, said in the book "Complete Growth": Awakening the baby's body is the beginning to human beings. A baby must feel his body, find it and wake it up before he can use it.
Knowing yourself is the beginning of knowing everything.
Communicate with others
Let children have more contact with people and more contact with people.
People are gregarious animals, growing and living in groups, and interacting with people is the beginning of society. In this process, the role played by parents is the most important.
How do parents take care of children? Is it smiling and whispering or cold and dull? Kiss the child, touch the child, and tell the child with body language, such as nodding, shaking your head and saying goodbye. When children see their parents' words and deeds, they will accurately understand their parents' words and deeds.
At the same time, how to guide children to know strangers? Parents should lead their children to greet each other, or hold hands, smile and be sincere. If a stranger wants to kiss or hug a child, tell the child to ask for his permission. If the child is only in the recognition stage, don't force the child, which will only be counterproductive.
Step 3 interact with the environment
Take children out to play more and experience different external environments.
There are two kinds of environment, one is the internal environment of the home that children are familiar with, and the other is the external environment outside the home.
The internal environment is known from the time the child goes out. The layout style at home, the placement of furniture and the location of toys are all familiar to children, which makes them feel safe.
Children have little contact with the external environment. Nature in the external environment is a flower and a tree. People, vehicles and tall buildings in the city are unfamiliar to children, and they are afraid because they are unfamiliar.
Let children get in touch with the external environment more, and when they get used to it, they will feel safe and will not be shy in front of strangers.
Therefore, in order for children to successfully pass the cognitive period and better understand the world, you have to let children socialize from birth, socialize with others and socialize with the environment.
Start socializing at the age of 0 to solve the problem of children's recognition!