Thought guides behavior. Once or twice, when I met the toy section in the mall, I avoided it. Meeting the toy area, in my concept at that time, meant:
1. It is impossible to finish going out in the expected time as planned.
When the child likes it very much, he will want to take it home. This is divided into two situations: parents think it is worth buying and everyone is happy. Parents don't think it's worth it, so there will always be compromises; Children may cry, parents' emotions may get out of control, and the way they handle the status quo will give children different signals. Will the crying parents compromise? My parents scolded me loudly, I don't deserve good things? Wait, a lot of questions. ...
Occasionally, I suddenly realize that children visiting toy stores are the same as girls visiting clothing stores. Doesn't mean you always want to take it home when you see it. Shopping in buy buy is also a process of improving the taste and aesthetics for girls. No girl will buy all the clothes that she tried on, but she will find the style that suits her in the process of trying on. She will find that when the style and color that she likes for a long time are really worn on her, it is not the expected effect. After many times of this process, you will gain more knowledge about yourself and the world. In many fields, it is difficult for many people to find what they like and what suits them.
Imagine a boyfriend and girlfriend are in love. Boys are always afraid of girls going to the clothing section for two reasons: 1. Clothing stores are boring for boys, and it takes time to try on clothes. 2. I'm afraid that girls will spend money indiscriminately. Don't girls notice that they are far away from the clothing area every time they meet? Will she still think that the boy really loves her, appreciates her and is willing to accompany him?
So are children. He will feel your resistance to visiting toy stores. Many things, my point of view has always been sparse and not blocked. The more he fears and resists contact, the more he wants to contact, which completely deviates from our original expectations.
More than once, I heard someone boast: XXX is very knowledgeable. In my mind, "erudition" is a high evaluation. I deliberately went to Baidu to learn the meaning of knowledge, get in touch with things extensively and expand my knowledge. Let me sum it up in my own words: I have seen it and can recognize it. The ability to know people and things is the ability that everyone accumulates in life. Whether adults or children, it is not easy to choose one that suits them from many choices. Need to think, less detours. But every time you choose, there will be new experience accumulation. Age doesn't empower a person, but experience can.
There is a saying I quite agree with: every choice you make, seemingly irrelevant, actually reflects your cognition at that time. Why do many people don't know the important choices in life? When they look back, they find themselves standing at the key crossroads of life, humming a ditty, walking briskly, and their fate seems to be out of control, but after choosing multiple intersections, they are probably where they are today.
To paraphrase an old saying: Opportunities are reserved for those who are prepared, but opportunities are also made up. Not everyone has a pair of bright eyes and can recognize opportunities. No, it's not your chance.
Improving a person's knowledge is not only in books, classes, travel, but also at any moment of life, including toy stores.
When I look at the toy store from another angle, it will become interesting. Jiaozi and I will get to know each other better and get closer. This also tells me that in one place, people can't understand each other. You need to put yourself in the other person's shoes before you can learn more. No wonder there are so many people under the same roof, and they are all so strange (off topic).
What about jiaozi's performance? Because of my change of attitude (I used to think about how to leave the toy store quickly ...), he was also relaxed, didn't resist leaving, and didn't show who to take home. Many times he left after watching himself, and everyone was relaxed. Of course, there is a problem in this, that is, try to avoid taking toys out to play, don't disturb the clerk, control them within an acceptable range, and don't be annoying.
The current situation in our family is that when we are at home, we buy toys about twice a month (regardless of the price). Travel in the last month, because there are no toys to play with, so it is very suitable to buy them once a week. Personally, I prefer to buy his favorite toys to play with him for an hour or two compared with the last early language class. The language enlightenment effect is better, haha, of course, it can't be like this. Another reason why parents buy toys is that they hope their children don't come to them when they play with toys.
Writing this article also helped me sort out seemingly insignificant small problems and inherent concepts. Facing life and close people, we need to tear off the veil, ask each other what they really think, love and accept!