Father's enlightenment education has a great influence on children's life. Let's take a look at what six qualities a father should have in the process of early childhood education. These six items are not only the qualities a father needs, but also the basis of his baby's emotional intelligence. Make children smarter. Dad should let the children have the ability of 6 points of justice in early education. Parents must be able to get along fairly with their children, neither demanding nor accommodating. Especially when dad teaches his children early, he must know what he needs to teach his children. Father's enlightenment education has a great influence on children's life. Let's take a look at what six qualities a father should have in the process of early childhood education. These six items are not only the qualities a father needs, but also the basis of his baby's emotional intelligence.
1. Happy
A person must be happy first, if he can't even be happy, then everything is out of the question. Some people say that sometimes it is meaningful to endure pain temporarily in order to achieve a certain goal, although it is not happy. In fact, some things are endured for a goal, not unhappy. He is physically miserable and emotionally lonely, but his heart is not unhappy, because there is hope to comfort and summon him. Real unhappiness is complete disappointment, passive humiliation and inner emptiness and fear that can't be dispersed. No one wants to be unhappy. Why are too many people living well but still unhappy? In fact, happiness is more related to people's mood than things. Happiness is a quality and ability, not a personality. Happiness needs an open mind, an optimistic attitude and a sense of security. Not worrying about some bad things, but being able to recover from grievances and pains quickly, not being tired of the past, not worrying about the future, living in the present, not being tired of too many desires, being able to accept and enjoy yourself, what a great character, just a quality? Therefore, parents should be kind to their children and let them have enough warmth and sense of belonging emotionally; Ask children to be strict but not harsh; When children are wronged, frustrated and neglected, we should guide them to be optimistic and approachable, and let them feel that if they face the reality with a good attitude, the reality will not be so bad. In short, people feel that life is a happy thing, and learning to be happy is the most important thing in education.
relax
The wisdom and energy of human beings are amazing, but there are too many self-restraints, self-confusion and self-contradictions, so most people are not only incompetent, but also in endless trouble. Among many factors that hinder people's potential development, tension should be a prominent one. When people are relaxed, their thinking is open and active, and when they are nervous, their thinking is closed and rigid, just like giving a speech on the stage. Relaxation makes people talk about Kan Kan, while tension makes people eat. Many times, we are still too nervous, because we have developed the habit of being nervous since we were very young. Whenever we face challenges, dangers and uncertainties, those who are above us, and those important occasions, we are always nervous. The nervousness of seeing teachers when I was a child is the same as that of seeing leaders now, and the nervousness of entering the examination room in primary school is no different from that of interviewing later. These tensions hinder our self-exertion. Actually, there is nothing to be nervous about. As long as we can pay attention to current events rather than the influence of external environment and results, we won't feel nervous. We just want to play ourselves, and things will be simple. Often, we are better at this time. So I don't want to make the children nervous. I think the compulsion of violence is one of the important sources of children's tension. We should pay special attention to avoid rude threats that make children feel irresistible.
be concentrated
Diffused sunlight is nothing, but if it is concentrated by a convex lens, it can make objects burn. The same is true of people's energy, which is slowly dispersed and confused, and there is no progress and no change from day to day. However, if we persevere in one place, we will create amazing results. People who respect us must be good at concentrating. Some people seem to be careless, but in fact they are very focused. But this kind of people is a minority, and more people seem nervous, but they don't need to worry. Usually, we spend 90% of our time focusing on problems, but only 10% of our time solving them. The more we pay attention to them, the greater the pressure. We are exhausted and haven't started to act yet. In the end, we had to act in a hurry. It's pathetic. However, how many people dare to say that this phenomenon does not exist in themselves? Therefore, it is necessary to cultivate children's concentration from an early age. Create and use various stimuli to attract children's attention. Once a child is addicted to something (as long as it is not harmful), we should try not to disturb him, at least not to interrupt him because of eating. There's nothing wrong with having a meal later. Food can be reheated when it is cold. Children's concentration is very precious, and we must not bear this trouble. If a child's concentration state is continuously destroyed, his concentration will be damaged, which will be a lifetime loss.
go a long way
Although there are some things in life, such as disasters and good luck, more often, disasters and happiness still depend on our initiative to avoid and strive for. Life is more like a buffet, you have to get what you want by yourself. Only when you take the initiative will you have a chance. Waiting and working are only special cases. Only by taking the initiative can we grow. The more you try, the more experience you have, the stronger your adaptability and the wider your experience, the less likely you are to be short-sighted and make a fuss. On the contrary, negative conservatism will lead to stagnant growth. Children are born with strong initiative. They want to try everything and taste everything. They like new things and exciting feelings. Why are many children so slow and passive? The reason is that when I was very young, adults banned too many things and kept them too strict, which made children afraid to try. It is ok for a child to have a strong personality. If he is weak, he will worry about deviance everywhere and his spiritual life will begin to shrink.
act on one's own
Children should be independent. If I have to be paranoid, I have no choice but to have a paranoid child. Although paranoia is often annoying and dangerous, children can succeed when their ideas are correct. In fact, most of the time, only a few smart people are right. Only when they can resist the pressure from all sides and stick to their own opinions will they not be swayed by considerations of gain and loss and blindly follow the crowd. Intel President Grove wrote a book "Only paranoia can succeed". Many people say that this book can improve his social status more than Intel Group. This book really fully demonstrates the decisive significance of strong independent will to success. If a child has no opinion, he will never succeed. He can only follow other people's ideas and be at the mercy of the environment, no matter whether their ideas are right or wrong or whether the environment is suitable for him. If a person has no opinion, then neither himself nor his life belongs to him, but to various external influences. This is really a very sad thing. However, children's autonomy is easily destroyed. Parents like children to develop according to their own ideas, and they are afraid of "uncontrollable" children. Of course, all parents are out of kindness to their children, and parental guidance is necessary for their children. But, besides these necessary things, are there any extra things? When I am angry because my child is disobedient, do I feel a little "controlling"? When children's behavior annoys us, but it is not without serious problems, can we allow children to do it without interfering with any comments? In my opinion, parents should not be furious because their children are disobedient. On the contrary, they should be worried, because their children have no ideas and only listen.
6. Justice
All successful people are necessarily fair. When dealing with his own relationship with others, he can be fair and will not care too much about himself or others. Overestimate yourself, others will not accept it, take care of others too much, and lose your direction. I don't want to have a moral discussion in this respect. Justice does not directly correspond to justice. I want to emphasize that justice is an ability to understand others. Generally speaking, it is "reasonable" and "reasonable". Being able to "carry clearly" in front of the boss will be humble, and being able to "carry clearly" in front of friends and family will be harmonious and win-win; Being able to "carry it clearly" in front of subordinates or younger generations will be highly respected. Justice is a sense of principle and an appropriate limit. Only when you know when to say no, what attitude you should take, what position you should stick to, and the meaning and boundary of your role, can you be consistent in words and deeds.