My child was introverted when he was a child. We often communicate with the teacher, and the teacher remembers him. We have never given a gift to our teacher, but she is really kind to our baby and gives him many opportunities to exercise. Therefore, people must communicate more, which will also eliminate many misunderstandings.
There must be a reason why children are afraid. You can ask them to give you a brief description. There was a time when my child was in a small class, which was particularly obvious. Seeing acquaintances, grandparents and relatives hiding behind them, they ignore people and don't like to visit. Sometimes I even cry. My child is extroverted and will not hide or ignore people even when he sees strangers. I asked her what happened. Finally, she said there were strangers in the school. Ask the teacher when picking up the children. A life teacher is really older and has an attitude.
The two-year-old baby goes to kindergarten, which is the first "separation" he faces in his life. When the baby comes home, he says he is afraid, so parents don't have to worry too much. After all, the baby's expressive ability is limited, and some unhappy and sad emotions may be described as fear.
However, as parents, we should realize that the first "big event" in this baby's life-attending class is not just a baby's business, we should accompany the baby to finish it together.
I believe that when parents send their babies to kindergarten, they will always see a baby holding the door of the kindergarten, looking at the direction in which their parents left, crying.
This phenomenon is psychologically called "separation anxiety". Every baby will encounter separation anxiety more or less, and going to kindergarten is the biggest test of separation anxiety. Therefore, it is very necessary to let the baby know "why go to kindergarten" in advance.
Here are some suggestions for your parents.
Through picture books and cartoons, babies can build their awareness of kindergartens and improve their sense of happiness and expectation of kindergarten life.
In this way, the baby will have his own initial knowledge and understanding of going to kindergarten, and there will be no discomfort when suddenly facing strange things.
When there is a picture book story, the baby will be curious about the kindergarten and want to know what his kindergarten director looks like. We can take our baby around the kindergarten in advance and get familiar with the path to and from the kindergarten. Let the baby be familiar with the way to and from school, and walk on the familiar road, and the baby will not feel panic. You can also take your baby for a walk on the day of registration. The warm environment and colorful toys in the kindergarten will make the babies excited and make them look forward to the kindergarten life they are about to face.
Parents can do their homework in advance, see if there are any babies around who have just finished kindergarten, ask their parents what games they will play in kindergarten, and then consciously play "kindergarten" games with their babies at home, so that their babies can be familiar with kindergarten life and understand some routines in kindergarten.
Bao's father, Ma Bao, can also know in advance if there are any babies of the same age going to class around. They can take their babies out to play together in advance, so that they can have familiar playmates when they take care of the class, minimize their panic about strange environments and let them integrate into the new environment more quickly.
When the baby is admitted to the hospital, you can communicate with the teacher more and talk about the baby's characteristics and preferences. In this way, the teacher can grasp the baby's heart more accurately in the teaching process and achieve better interactive effect.
When the baby is found crying when entering the park, parents should patiently understand the reasons for the baby's crying. If it is because of physical discomfort, it should be solved in time; If the baby is crying because of the psychological burden, parents should communicate with the teacher in time and patiently enlighten the baby together so that the baby can enter the class smoothly. As parents, don't be rude to your baby at this time, and push your baby into the nursery, because it will hurt your baby's psychology. If parents find their baby unhappy when they pick him up from school, they should also communicate with the teacher in time.
Generally speaking, every baby will experience this "separation anxiety" period. We should realize that this is not just about the baby, do our homework and accompany the baby across the first hillside in his life.
Maybe he is unfamiliar with the new environment and friends around him.
Want to send your baby to kindergarten, but worry about not adapting? By doing these four steps, a 2-year-old baby can go to school with confidence.
Step 1: Choose a suitable kindergarten class.
Kindergarten classes before the age of 3 are different from ordinary kindergartens in terms of qualification, management and organization, so special attention should be paid to the selection.
1. Choose a trustworthy brand or organization.
Some preschool classes are small classes added by kindergartens, and some are run by early education institutions (such as red, yellow and blue that we are familiar with). Either way, choose a trustworthy brand or organization. In this way, their administrative management is first standardized and strict, and they also have qualification requirements and qualifications for teachers, so that we can safely hand over the children to them.
Although children aged 2 or 3 in kindergarten are nothing more than singing, dancing, drawing and playing with toys, teaching methods are still very important.
3. Hardware situation
It is children's nature to love to play, especially children in large classes in kindergartens, which are far from primary schools. More is to play well and have fun. Then, kindergartens run by various early education institutions often lack some hardware. Most of these kindergartens are built in shopping malls, without their own playgrounds and outdoor places. Children are kept indoors all day, and their activities are worse than those in kindergartens. Parents should also pay attention to trade-offs.
Step 4 communicate with teachers
How is the school brand and environment? It is more to provide protection with great fanfare, but it is the teachers in the class who get along with the children every day. When people get along with each other, the most important thing is "getting along" and "fate". Parents may wish to communicate with teachers more, observe the way they treat their children and see if they are suitable for their children.
We can also judge whether the teacher's teaching philosophy is the same as our own through some small questions, such as:
I have come into contact with several teachers, some of whom are dogmatic and strict, and it is not a problem to ask these questions. As long as parents trust and treat them strictly, they can handle it well.
Some teachers respect children's feelings more and feel that everything goes with the flow.
But the teacher who is closest to my idea replied like this:
Although these answers are not "standard answers", they are the same answers as my thoughts. It is very important to keep the consistency of educational ideas at home and at school. Therefore, more communication with teachers can help us make better decisions.
Step 2: Take the baby to get familiar with the environment in advance.
We adults feel uncomfortable when we come to a strange environment, let alone a baby who has never left home. Therefore, it is important to be familiar with the environment.
In this regard, we can let the baby go to school more often, play with toys and get familiar with the teachers before the baby officially goes to school, so that the baby can know this place first.
Just as a baby will be happy in a familiar indoor amusement park and often take the initiative to leave his parents to play by himself, a baby's recognition of the environment is very helpful to his "independent life".
Many kindergarten classes allow babies to play in public areas or interact with teachers during recess. Parents may wish to accompany their baby several times a week in advance, so that the baby can be familiar with the kindergarten and teachers, understand that mom and dad also recognize this place, experience the feeling of coming to this place every day, and increase the baby's sense of security.
Step 3: Prepare a baby situation card.
When I entered school in September, many new students came at once, and it is normal for the teacher to forget for a while. Especially for children with special needs and food allergies, parents should be prepared in advance.
My method is to put a small card in the baby's schoolbag with basic information such as the baby's name, date of birth, parents' phone number/WeChat, plus notes such as blood type, drug allergy and food allergy, just in case.
In view of the baby's need to take medicine and eat milk powder. Then use a piece of paper to indicate: what medicine to take, 1 how many milliliters of water to add to a box of milk powder, etc. Let teachers take care of children more conveniently and quickly.
Step 4: Communicate with teachers more.
After children enter the park, there will be a transition period of crying and resistance. Just trust the teacher and communicate with him more.
Almost every child will go through this stage of separation. We should give children a chance to grow up. Parents should not be too anxious or put too much pressure on teachers. A relaxed mood and a good atmosphere will help children grow up faster.
Special approval: I think it is better for children to educate themselves before they are four years old. Why? If you go to early education, you will still be too young to get anything in primary school. Early kindergartens have many children and few teachers. To put it bluntly, parents don't want to take their children to early education, and those teachers take care of their children as simple as that. It is different for children to teach themselves. At least, they can take good care of their children, teach them preschool knowledge and know simple Chinese characters and animals. Children are very interested in this animal. I can recommend one for you.
The key to easy memory is healthy content and standard pronunciation. Babies can continue to learn one by one, and the arrangement is very reasonable.
You can accumulate literacy, develop good reading habits, and quickly adapt to young convergence.
Animated story reading is more attractive than boring literacy cards, and there is no need to worry about the danger caused by children swallowing cards by mistake. Listen and choose the words.
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The two-year-old baby went home from kindergarten and said he was afraid. What happened?
Judging from the baby's situation, the baby is insecure, so the little heart is afraid.
1. Because the baby is young, only 2 years old, away from his parents, unfamiliar with the new environment and insecure.
2. The baby's parents seldom talk about him at home, and he wants his parents to satisfy him, but when he arrives at the nursery, he plays with a lot of children and has no freedom at home.
In the nursery, if the baby is willful, the teacher will discipline and may criticize, so the baby will feel afraid.
The baby has not adapted to the collective life. Seeing older children has an advantage. In this life, he will not be independent and will not show fear.
1. Encourage your baby more and don't be afraid.
2. Communicate with the kindergarten teacher to explain the baby's situation and encourage the teacher.
3. Reduce shift time. Because the baby is small, if you can, let your family or yourself take care of it and spend more time with the baby.
4. Let the baby play and play games with the baby of the same age, and let him enjoy playing with children.
The two-year-old baby can't fully express his thoughts yet. The word "fear" may have many meanings, but parents must pay attention to this matter and find out the reasons.
First, the fear of facing an unfamiliar environment
The baby has lived in his mother's stomach for ten months and is used to swimming freely in amniotic fluid. One day, he suddenly came to a strange world, and the baby was very scared. At this time, he didn't have any survival skills, and the only thing he relied on was his mother's love and his gradually familiar family environment.
For a 2-year-old baby, he came to the kindergarten environment before his sense of security was established. Under the discipline of the teacher and the chatter of many students, he can't go to the toilet and get dressed completely independently, fearing shame, ridicule and injury. ...
Adults' social fears, such as cowardice, blushing, and being afraid to talk to strangers, often come from childhood trauma. Some parents will think subjectively: "What's the matter?" , thus ignoring the child's feelings. At this time, children can only live and learn by imitation, while children who are not understood can only adapt to the environment, thus planting the seeds of fear in the subconscious and coming out irregularly to make trouble in adulthood.
Second, the kindergarten teacher's behavior is improper.
The teacher's abuse or even neglect of the child will cause psychological shadow to the baby.
Third, being bullied by children in kindergarten.
Every child's naughty behavior is different in the growth stage, and some babies may make seemingly abusive and bullying behaviors because they like it.
Fourth, kindergarten meals are not appetizing.
I heard from a kindergarten director that the baby likes to eat pickles at home at ordinary times, which leads to the baby not eating in kindergarten because the food of the idle baby is too light.
The first rebellious period of a 2-year-old baby's life needs attention!
Hello, I'm glad to answer this question for you. My two-year-old baby goes to kindergarten and always listens to her fear when she comes home. What happened? I think there are the following points for reference:
1. I think a two-year-old baby may be a little early to go to kindergarten. Generally, children aged three to three and a half go to kindergarten. In recent years, babies need the company of their parents, especially those with high quality. It is recommended to appease the baby and give the baby enough sense of security. Get him used to this change.
2. Observe whether the child has been frightened recently. For example, adults yell at him, or if there is anything sad, just pout. At this time, you must give your child a hug and tell him sincerely that his parents love him. Or chat with him in the right way, talk about happy things in kindergarten, and find out what is wrong with communication with teachers in time;
3. Learn to let go at home at ordinary times, let the child do everything boldly, and exercise his self-care ability and courage. For example, every time he goes to the bathroom, he goes to the bathroom by himself. Don't let his parents accompany him. Give him appropriate rewards in the form of toys every month and week. With so many opportunities for exercise, his courage will grow.
I hope my answer is helpful to you. I suggest that these factors should be considered comprehensively. I hope the baby will grow up healthily and happily! If you have different opinions, you can discuss and communicate.
If conditions permit, it is best not to let the children learn so early. Think of many parents who are unwilling to take care of their children, feel that their children are troublesome and anxious. Send the children to kindergarten.
Think about it. Kindergarten teachers are mostly young people who have never had children. How can they care for their children so lovingly? And not one or two children, but many children. Even if you take care of it carefully every day, you can't take care of it, and what if they don't take care of the children? But subject to the collective management mode.
For young children, what is more needed is the love and acceptance of parents. Parents communicate with their children alone and build feelings through friction. Although a lot of trouble, but can cultivate feelings, children will also have a sense of security and belonging.
Think of an adult who dare not challenge things that are difficult for him, unfamiliar environment, not to mention such a small child, not to mention the child is still immature, and he needs the care and training of his parents.
Some people say that you can learn a lot of knowledge and know a lot of rules when you go to kindergarten, but I think it is more important for children to have a healthy psychology than anything else. After learning knowledge, you can forget it. When you have a healthy and mature psychology, it is easy to learn it by yourself. The establishment of rules is also based on a healthy mind, which is benign, healthy and beneficial to children's life.
Going to kindergarten is the first stage when the baby really begins to socialize. At this time, the baby has just left his parents' arms and entered a strange environment, which will inevitably lead to anxiety. So what should baby Ma Bao do to help the baby adapt to the kindergarten environment smoothly?
1. After the baby is out of school, baby Ma Bao wants to talk to the children about some positive energy topics in kindergarten, such as "Baby, what games did the kindergarten play today?" Do you know any good friends today? Never ask, "Baby, did someone bully you today?" Did the teacher scare you? "Wait a minute. Happy topics will make the baby full of expectations for kindergarten.
2. Talking to the teacher, of course, requires skill. For example, ask the teacher: Teacher, how is my baby in kindergarten recently? What did she do wrong? I hope you can give me more advice. Don't ask the teacher directly: teacher, our children always say they are afraid when they come home. Is there a problem with the kindergarten? To tell the truth, the teacher is responsible for the safety and education of the children in the class, which is always impossible. They are a little sensitive to such questions.
3. Have a serious talk with your baby to find out what he is afraid of. See if it's an excuse for not wanting to go to kindergarten or something. Then analyze the specific problems.