Women pay too much. For women, when a woman decides to have children, it means that the career she once worked hard on her own may come to an abrupt end. Many employers may think that the quality of women's work will be greatly reduced when they see women giving birth to children. After giving birth to a child, many women may face a career decline, which is often a painful blow to women with self-pursuit. My colleague used to be a business executive, but after giving birth, the boss transferred her to logistics, which made her feel very depressed. For women, childbirth is a key node in women's career. Many women have encountered professional waterloo during childbirth. Therefore, women don't want to have children, in essence, they don't want to give up self-growth and career promotion opportunities. For women, when the desire for intrinsic value makes us pursue Excellence, women begin to understand that their lives are not more complete than having children. The self-realization and colorful life brought by the career make us understand that if we are not fully prepared to have children, we should try not to make this plan. The second reason why women don't want to have children because of men's inaction is actually closely related to men's inaction. With the continuous progress of society, women have maintained rapid evolution, and many outstanding women have emerged gradually, both professionally and academically. For women, their own Excellence makes women understand that women are not weak, and women don't need to be Nuo Nuo to men. For women, marriage is no longer just a vassal. What a woman needs is a cooperative partner and a supportive family partner. But in fact, in the minds of many couples, it is still considered that taking care of children is a woman's business. Many men are not used to it after their wives give birth to children. But women are familiar with their role as mothers. Men are still very backward in many aspects of taking care of children, and they can't even fully adapt to the role of husbands. With a child around, there may be a natural maternal love for women. But for men, it can't be accepted at once. Later, men took less part in the process of children's growth, and they gave too much responsibility to their mothers. For women, it is basically equivalent to widowhood and parenting, which makes women under great pressure. Many men are used to going out early and returning late, but they forget to take care of their wives and don't care about their hard work all day. Sister Park told me that her husband feels like a child, waiting for her to take care of him every day. She thinks it's enough to take care of a child for one day, and she has to take care of a big child when she goes home. Think about how devastated she will be. Women are also reluctant to have children because too many fathers are not involved in the process of raising children. There is a very popular video on the Internet. Many children ask their father questions, and his father is an answer. Go find your mother. Women are often exhausted by this process, so they are often reluctant to have children. Therefore, there is actually a very important way to let women have children, that is, to encourage men to participate more and take more responsibilities. When women no longer feel physically and mentally exhausted, women will naturally have children. The reluctance of high-cost women to have children is also related to high cost. When we gave birth to the baby, you found that the baby was really a gold eater. No matter where you eat, drink and have fun, you have to spend money, especially the children's study expenses. When we want to cultivate a smarter baby, all kinds of early education expenses and children's interest classes need money to realize the leap of children's intelligence. When we don't have time to love ourselves, when we see this huge consumption bill, we will be restrained by this high consumption and not have children. Therefore, women are reluctant to have children, often because they understand that the lack of self brought about by having children is huge. For many women, when we decide to raise a child, it means that we are burdened with a mountain and can't relax anymore. Therefore, people who advise women to have children should actually understand that women have paid enough for childbirth and parenting, and men's inaction is the most chilling. If every woman wants to get her ultimate happiness, please cherish her uterus, don't have children at will, but prepare her state and meet these conditions, so that you can get long-term happiness in parent-child and intimate relationship. What is the psychology that women don't like to have children? 2 ● Don't want to suffer. As we all know, giving birth to a child is very painful. After pregnancy, pregnant mothers should make adjustments in all aspects of their lives, not only to control their diet, but also not to stay up late. With the growth of the pregnancy cycle, the pregnant mother's belly will get bigger and bigger, so that she can't put on her favorite beautiful clothes. In the late pregnancy, her body will have a lot of discomfort, and the disorder of work and rest will lead to the pregnant mother's body on the verge of collapse. Although medical methods are improving now, caesarean section, a new delivery method, is accepted by many people, but it is a real knife cut on the body. If the recovery is not good, it may leave the root of the disease. If you don't want surgery, pregnant mothers can only choose to give birth naturally. After a few hours in the delivery room, pregnant mothers have to endure severe labor pains. Many post-90s women are very worried about whether they can survive, so they are unwilling to have children. ● Life pressure Nowadays, the competitive pressure in society is increasing, and it is not easy for many young people to support themselves. If there is a "four-legged gold swallowing beast" at home, it will definitely bring great pressure to the family economy. At the same time, raising children requires long-term investment, at least until the children graduate from college, which is unacceptable to many young people. ● Social Status Although "son preference" belongs to feudal ideology, China has also promulgated many laws to protect women's social status. However, in the eyes of many people, women are indeed different from men in some ways. If women need to take time off to have children, they may not keep up with the progress after maternity leave, thus making frequent mistakes in their work, not only being criticized by their superiors, but also being demoted or dismissed seriously. Childbearing is a normal physiological process and a stage that women must go through. If you let your temper choose not to have children at this time, you will miss the best reproductive period in the future and encounter more difficulties. What is the psychology of a woman who doesn't like to have children? 3 1. They don't want to lose their personal freedom. Many single and unmarried couples and dink feel that they lose their personal freedom after giving birth. Because in their view, having children means entering a "child-centered" lifestyle, they need to turn from a life oriented by their own interests and goals to more consideration of their children's interests and growth. For example, they may need to change some hobbies and habits (such as smoking and drinking), and change their choice of TV programs and online environment to create a child-friendly environment. It's too difficult to have children. The biggest obstacle comes from the fact that most women think that the process of having children is too hard, and the process of raising children after giving birth is even harder. "The process of pregnancy will delay me for nearly ten months, and strong pregnancy reactions such as vomiting and heartburn are enough to make me afraid of having children ..." Many women are full of fear about the pain they have to endure after ten months of pregnancy. Besides, ten or even twelve months have been wasted. "How many October can there be in a lifetime!" 3, children will destroy the feelings of husband and wife in the eyes of many people, after giving birth to a child, both of them will be child-centered, and when raising children, they will unconsciously ignore each other's feelings. "The father of the child" and "the mother of the child" seem to be children forever in their lives, and their eyes are gradually replaced by children. You will find that after having children, the romance of two people is getting less and less. 4. Worried about career development and personal achievement, intense work brings infinite pressure to young women, which is also a main reason why young women don't want to have children. Worried that children will affect their career development and the realization of personal value. Social competition is becoming more and more fierce, and it takes a lot of energy to have children. It is very likely that when you have children, you will be eliminated by society, your ability will not keep up with the development of society, and you may be unemployed and unable to find a job. 5, the economic conditions do not have "we have no house and no car, life has been so tight, what to raise children?" A young girl had no children for four years after she got married. Her reason is simple. Since we can't give our children the best material and spiritual enjoyment, we might as well not have children and "can't afford to raise children." If you have children, you must let them live the best life and receive the best education, otherwise they will not be born. " 6. Lack of confidence in marriage and rising divorce rate have led to more and more women wanting children. If we divorce in the future, I might as well not have children. It's hard for me to bear it alone. Although the state stipulates that once the children are owned by the mother after divorce, the father will have to pay for raising the children, and the men can't all be rich second generation, but everyone knows that the cost of raising children is so high now, and the money is simply a drop in the bucket, and the husband may remarry after divorce, so the economic care for the ex-wife children will be greatly affected. 7. The influence of early social experience Some people may be unhappy when they are born in a family, so it is very important to have children and raise children, and they have to pay a lot of responsibilities. It may also be because of later social experience that some people may hate being with children, think that children are troublesome, often disobedient or sick, in short, they just don't like children, it is difficult to get close to them, and naturally they don't want children.