It is useless because the conclusion of their investigation is what we almost all know. This huge survey finally produced two results: 1, parents are very important to have money at home.
Do you think these two conclusions are boring for psychologists?
It will take half a day to come to such a conclusion. Is it necessary to study?
Of course!
Scientific research results can make us more aware of the causal relationship of problems, so as to raise children scientifically without certain conditions.
Let's start with a case of a Harvard professor who was born in poverty.
Professor Harvard's mother is a nanny of an aristocratic family. She saw the hostess reading to her children every day and taking her children to participate in various activities. Although the nanny doesn't know why the hostess did this, in her mind, she thinks that the hostess has read a lot of books and has a good cultivation, and there is nothing wrong after all.
So after coming home from work every day, the nanny takes the children to read books and plays games with her husband. They don't have the money to participate in all kinds of high-level activities, but they plan to take their children to museums and science museums where their owners go, because they are free.
Later, the nanny's three children were a Harvard professor, a doctor and a lawyer. They have surpassed their parents' class and gained a better life.
Although the nanny has no money and can't provide more economic foundation for her children, she can choose what kind of parents she will become. Like the people in the neighborhood, she will not only complain, but also spank her children, or learn to read to her children in grade three. She chose a positive role model, and finally her child succeeded and had a completely different path.
We are all anxious about raising children. Whether we have money or not, anxiety may be the biggest main color in the process of parenting. We are afraid that children will lose at the starting line, prenatal education, early education, various interest classes and remedial classes, and we are afraid that children will fall behind. Some people even get into debt to make their children learn better.
In order to see a news on Sina, the report said:
In order to give her granddaughter an English training class, a Li Nainai not only spent all her savings, but also borrowed tens of thousands of dollars from her friends to cultivate her children's sense of language this morning.
In fact, we just forget that when we are anxious and impetuous, so are children. The more we stare at him, the more likely he is to have problems.
What we really need to do at this time is not to make a mess of life, but to raise an excellent child. Numerous scientists have proved that when we can't do it ourselves, we can only bring pressure to our children and raise an "incomplete" child.
Only by facing up to your basic situation, do yourself well first, and then raise your children in a scientific way. Which nanny didn't go to school and didn't find a way to satisfy all the children's interest classes with usury. She chose what she could do, persisted in doing it, and finally she succeeded.
In this study in Britain, scientists found that parents who are responsible and care about their children can raise good children.
When children are talking, parents need to listen carefully, respond positively, take their children out to travel, let them see more things, and express more encouragement when talking to their children.
Do you want to laugh when you see this research result? Let's talk about the first thing that makes most people want to cry: having money at home.
It seems that this one needs no study in particular. After all, we all know that the economic base determines the superstructure.
Now it is compulsory education in the country. Before there was no compulsory education, you couldn't afford to go to school without money. But now, if you have money, you can buy a school district, travel and enter Yale University. As long as you have money, it is no problem not to take the college entrance examination.
But the problem is that not everyone has the financial strength to buy places into famous universities. How do we ordinary people raise children?
The richer parents are, the better. There is a detailed requirement: the study found that the early living environment is very important for children's growth, and the most basic living conditions are basically achievable by each of us.
It is almost impossible for this society to starve to death, so what is the difference?
Parents' emotions!
Calm parents and warm family environment are the most favorable conditions for children's early development.
Is this condition difficult to achieve?
I think everyone may know the answer very well. We don't have to be the richest man in a province, nor do we have to have a lot of money. We just need to have a job to support ourselves, control our emotions, and strive to create a suitable growth environment for our children. Enough!
Maybe you trained the next Harvard professor!
The most useful part of a scientific and useless conclusion is to let us have an example to follow, let us see the light ahead when we are confused, and let us go on firmly.