I believe many families will have similar questions, but we need to understand the fact that the object of early education is parents, and children should do early education from birth, and the influence of early education on children will accompany them for life.
Early education is early education, and education for 0-6 years old is called early education. A large number of studies and actual situations show that infancy is the fastest period for children's nervous system development, and it is also the key period for the development of various potentials.
With more and more attention paid to early education, various early education institutions in the name of scientific parenting have sprung up in various cities in China. More and more young parents enroll their children in early education classes, hoping to help them become smarter and better through early education institutions. Early education has never been so popular.
However, is early education for children to attend early education classes? Is attending an early education class early education? In fact, parents have many misunderstandings about early education.
The object of early education is not children first, but parents. It is often said that parents are children's first teachers, so parents should first contact early education, understand education, and minimize irrational and blind education for children.
Parents are not only the children's first teachers, but also affect their life. The role of early education institutions is only a supplement to children, and cannot replace parents' educational responsibility for their children. The people who have the greatest influence on children are always parents.
(1) Accompany children
Children before 1 can hardly speak, and children aged 1-2 have very limited expressive ability. How to cultivate children aged 0-2 to form a sense of trust in the world?
In fact, it is very simple, that is, parents love their children and take good care of them, that is, parents are sensitive to all the information sent by their children and can respond promptly and accurately. Many people mistakenly think that children aged 0-/kloc-0 are too young to know anything, as long as they have enough to eat and drink, and don't need too much emotional effort from adults.
In fact, the actual psychological development level of babies is much higher than what we know, but we don't have a suitable method to understand the psychological development level of babies. Newborn babies are very weak. Only by the love and care of their relatives, especially from their parents, can they grow up healthily.
(2) Allow children to make mistakes.
A large number of studies show that the motivation to pursue success is positively related to academic performance, and the motivation to avoid failure is negatively related to academic performance. The proportion of these two achievement motivations in everyone is different. Atkinson believes that everyone's initial achievement motivation comes from the family they live in, especially the education and training in early childhood.
When a child makes a mistake or encounters a failure, parents should first understand the child, face the mistakes, failures and setbacks with the child, solve the problem together, and then let the child analyze the reasons and solve the problem. With the understanding and support of parents, children will become more frustrated and brave, and form a positive motivation to pursue success.
(c) Relationship is more important than education.
Many parents think that you will listen to me only because you are afraid of me, which is actually a wrong understanding.
A good relationship is better than many educations. On the premise of a good relationship, both sides will pity and sympathize with each other and will not embarrass each other. When parents have a good relationship with their children, the education of their children is easy to succeed; When the relationship between parents and children is not good, the education of children is easy to fail.
Only education based on maintaining good relations is meaningful and easy to achieve results. Parents must form the concept that "relationship is greater than education, and relationship precedes education".
The establishment of a good parent-child relationship cannot be achieved simply by parents loving their children. Parents' love for their children is centered on their growth needs. Good parent-child relationship is an equal and interactive relationship, which shows that parents understand their children and children understand their parents.
The key to the establishment of a good parent-child relationship lies in how parents treat their children, that is, parents must treat their children as human beings, that is, parents should realize that children, like themselves, are independent individuals and people, and also need to be respected, understood and have personal dignity and value.
(D) establish early education awareness
Early childhood education in daily life. When it comes to early education, parents immediately think of early education institutions, which cost a lot of money to register with famous early education institutions. It seems that it is impossible to carry out early education for children without entering an early education institution, which will affect the effect of early education. It seems that only spending money on early education will be guaranteed.
Education is preparing for life. What kind of education children receive is to better adapt to society in the future. Therefore, no environment can replace the real living place, and no environment is more vivid and real than the living environment.
Therefore, the best place for early education is the early education of children's living environment, which is not as complicated as we thought. Cultivating children to form good behavior habits is early education. What parents don't let their children do is early education, and it is also early education to train children to play games and watch TV together.
What parents should do is to consciously guide their children to grow up in life, make full use of every opportunity in life, encourage their children to learn to observe and think, become an independent, self-respecting, confident and enterprising person, and lay a good foundation for their future growth.
For children, family is their most important activity place, and parents are the people they care about and value most. Parents' attitude and evaluation greatly affect whether children grow up healthily.
(5) Educate children, with three points for teaching and seven points for raising.
Any life has its own growth characteristics and laws. Parents always want to shape their children according to their own wishes, but they ignore that the child itself is a living body with its own characteristics and wishes, and the result is often counterproductive.
The healthy growth of children is not a natural thing, and it needs the education and guidance of parents, but it should be moderate. Too much said that the church makes children rebellious or over-dependent; Parents should respect their children's nature, growth rhythm and sensitive period. They should be patient with their children and let them try, experience, fail and succeed.
Children's growth is a process, which takes time and can never be achieved overnight, let alone encouraged.
Educate children, three points, seven points, etc. This educational concept requires parents to be more patient when facing their children. Patience here does not mean teaching children patiently, but sometimes parents need to stand by patiently and watch their children play by themselves and make some stupid mistakes, but they don't have to give them a lot of verbal guidance.
Children's play depends on their own actual experience, that is to say, patient language guidance cannot be taught, and he must master skills in practice.
Patiently waiting, children can experience more fun of exploration in their own play.
Parents should believe that their children will grow up healthily with a good family atmosphere, a good parent-child relationship and a good family education concept.
Let's endure together, wait for the child to grow up and wait for the child to blossom!