To be or not to be born is always a difficult problem for anyone, including Dink who once vowed to be born. Like a besieged city, the people inside desperately want to come out, and the people outside desperately want to rush in.
Ding, the transliteration of Dink, is the abbreviation of "double income without children", which means "a family with two incomes but no children".
When the concept of "Dink" was first introduced to China, many people with high education and high income attracted it and joined the Dink clan. Now, 20 years later, how is the family who once vowed to be a Dink?
To this end, we paid a return visit to a group of old dinks. Interestingly, almost no one said regret.
N reasons to be a "Ding Gou":
Ding Gou is the highest level of DINK, so some people call it "hardcore DINK". Dinggou people vowed to carry Dink through to the end and replace their children with pet dogs.
It's cruel to give up your career.
Respondent: 44-year-old male, the annual salary of leaders of state-owned enterprises is 1.4 million.
Wife, 39, fund manager, with an annual salary of 400,000.
Ding Kenian: 15 years.
Don't call me dink yet, dink. This word was quite fashionable when I got married, and now no one mentions it! You see, young people nowadays are not even dinks. What is popular now is "not getting married"!
In fact, we didn't deliberately decide not to have children when we got married. Only in the first year of marriage, my wife happened not to be pregnant, and then she went abroad to study. Three years later, she came back with good career prospects. After delay, she gave up her pregnancy.
Now 15 years later, we naturally won't have any more children-it would be cruel to ask her to give up her hard-won job as a professional manager.
I am very satisfied with our present life. My wife and I have always had a good relationship. Usually, we go our separate ways. Every year, we spend our holidays abroad. There is a saying that a woman is incomplete without becoming a mother. I think this statement is too outdated. An excellent woman with a high IQ like my wife has a lot of troubles all her life, and she doesn't have to have a child to be complete.
In case "investment" fails.
Respondent: The annual salary of a 36-year-old female bank employee is 6.5438+0.8 million.
The teacher is 40 years old, and the annual salary of illustrator is 1.5 million.
Ding Ke years: 8 years.
Regret? That will be a day! Speaking of this choice, we are glad of our original wisdom!
According to the current market situation, how much does it cost to raise a child? Someone counted 470 thousand. From an economic point of view, having children is definitely a meaningless and unrewarded failed investment. Some people don't agree that this is an "emotional investment", but I don't think so. In western countries, it would be great if children could call home to greet their parents at Christmas. Can you still expect them to stay with you all the time? Even if we can't do it ourselves, it will be even more impossible for future children.
I have witnessed many failed "investments": some couples have normal parents and have a cerebral palsy; Some parents have high academic qualifications, but their sons just can't learn well. They went to juvie and ruined a good family. How cruel!
Even if 10 finally gets pregnant and gives birth to a healthy child, how difficult it is to raise him! Prenatal education can't fall. As soon as he reached the age of primary school, he wanted to send him abroad for fear that he would fail the exam. Sometimes I think that if I have a child of my own, I will be such a mother-everyone wants to have a better child than myself, but rationally speaking, it's just asking for trouble!
Children nowadays are not easy.
Respondent: 29-year-old female consultant with an annual salary of 200,000.
36-year-old teacher, pharmaceutical sales, annual salary of 250 thousand
Ding Ke years: 5 years.
Life without children is really happy. Look at my home, it is a world of flowers, birds, fish and insects: there is a big fish tank in the living room, and my husband and I collect fish and stones from all over the world; There is a little turtle in the pool in the bathroom; Flowers and plants are placed in the balcony, living room, stove, bathroom and bedroom. Besides these, we have a dog. I am too busy to care about these little things every day. How can I be lonely? Besides, with children, how dare you put so many "dangerous goods" at home!
Public opinion pressure around? Don't worry at all, as long as both parents understand, there will be no problem! What age is it now? Who cares if you have children?
I once told my husband that I would rather be a lazy cat living in an Egyptian palace in my next life and bask in the sun all day for several years. The pain is far greater than the joy. It was not easy for a generation ago to see us, and I think it is even more difficult for children now. Therefore, we decided not to create life and let him continue to bear the heavy cross of life.
Is Dink still popular?
In the return visit to "double income and no children", most of the answers they gave were "We are doing very well."
With the increase of the absolute number of dinks, the marginal and alternative features of the word dink are weakening day by day and are no longer fresh and fashionable. Dinks can be seen everywhere around us, but no one is interested in calling them dinks and separating them from the mainstream, because who can tell what the mainstream is?
There are two interesting news: First, after 9 1 1, hundreds of unclaimed bodies were exposed in the collapsed World Trade Center. These homeless souls make more and more Americans realize the importance of blood and family ties. Thus, after 9 1 1, the United States ushered in the peak of marriage and children. In Silicon Valley, where Dink has the highest proportion of families, many powerful women gave up their careers and joined Ding Bai.
He also said that some insurance companies now make insurance plans for Dink. Because Dink can't "raise children to prevent old age", financial experts suggest that they increase spending on medical care and endowment insurance to reduce the risk of being left unattended in the future.
Two news, one is afraid that no one will collect the body in his later years, and the other is afraid that he will be hungry and cold in his later years. However, the dinks interviewed don't seem to be worried about this: "It's not too late to think about the old things when you are old.