Qingqing is two years old and always gets into trouble. Many things are often done by herself, so she often gets into trouble, as if a disaster film is being staged every day.

Case 1:

When I was helping Xiaoyu prepare non-staple food, I told her that it was dangerous to play with the refrigerator door and it had to be opened. As a result, when I closed the door, I held my finger and cried.

Case 2:

I'm about to pee. I insist. As a result, I sat in a chair to pee and get the soil, and I cried when I saw you again. Obviously, I am a victim, but I look like a criminal. Every time I get into trouble, I become a heroine of Qiong Yao and cry pitifully.

When I was a mother, it was really easy to get mad if I didn't adjust my emotions properly, so when I was about to explode, I reflected, what do I really want? Can anger solve the problem? I think it will only make children angry easily.

A few days ago, I went to a hot pot restaurant to eat. I saw a couple holding a baby about five or six months old, and their parents were eating with their children in one hand. At present, I feel that being a parent is very hard, but I don't know why, but I have a sweet feeling. Even if I am tired, at least my family will have a happy meal together.

When I am a bystander, I can look at things calmly. Maybe it will be hard to take care of children, but if you can smile and think more about how to interact with children, everything that was crazy and hard will become a beautiful memory in the future.

So, I can't be a fire-breathing dragon.

I hope the memories of getting along with my children can be happier. When my children do something wrong, I tell myself that being angry can't solve the problem, but should think about what is best for each other.

Anger doesn't change anything. Only by thinking about what to do can we be happy.

I can't play the role of the victim every time and get into helplessness and trouble. I should change my mood, so I smiled! (Not a key laugh)

When you become a mother, you must learn to deal with your emotions before you can deal with problems.

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The following methods are for your reference:

First, self-control, calm down and keep your voice down.

We can tell ourselves not to get angry through self-control! Don't be angry! And in the emotional moment, give yourself time to calm down and take a deep breath for six seconds, which can reduce the angry chemicals in the amygdala of the brain. Let time freeze first, let your thoughts slow down, slow down, slow down your voice, and speak softly to your children, which will help to adjust your arrogance.

Second, give children a chance to make mistakes and learn to clean up the consequences.

Because the child is still young and many things are still being learned, there should be opportunities to make mistakes. The focus is on how children learn from their mistakes after they make them.

After a child spills milk, if it is scolding, the child will equate spilled milk with scolding. Why not let the children study? You need to clean up the spilled milk yourself. Let children know that spilling milk = cleaning themselves.

Third, think about where your negative emotions come from.

Sometimes I get angry, maybe because of work pressure or being angry with my teammates, so I take it out on my children. The trivial things in the eyes of ordinary people have also been magnified and examined, and small mistakes have become unforgivable big mistakes. We should find the root of negative emotions, find out the problems and solve them.

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Fourth, the same child.

We try our best to empathize with the child's mistakes and understand her thoughts from the child's point of view. When children have negative emotions, if they are punished or admonished, they will only feel more wronged. For a long time, they will only hide their behavior, and the behavior will continue to happen.

I know it's one thing to say and another to do. Frankly speaking, I'm not cultured enough now, and sometimes I tell myself that I'm not angry and I can't pretend.

Qing Qing once said to me, "Mommy, don't be angry." I replied, "I'm not angry." She replied, "Obviously. 」

I know she cries when she does something wrong because she sees my angry expression when she does something wrong, so she does something wrong = mom is angry. This is where I should review. I am a mother, a mother who is still learning to be a good mother.

I really want to change myself from the bottom of my heart, otherwise I will really become the dragon mother who breathes fire in my child's heart!

Qingqing's life authorization reprinted the original source Mommy! Are you a fire-breathing dragon?