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The sleep of our three children.

At 7: 30 every night, our three children start washing clothes. After bathing the three babies for half an hour, I went back to my room to get ready for bed.

Even on holidays, we will try our best to keep their habit of sleeping on time.

Every night around 8 o'clock, the three children don't need us to sleep, and they sleep quietly until 7 or 8 in the morning.

Boss Zhuang Zhuang is almost 5 years old now, and his teammates will tell him bedtime stories before going to bed. When he finished his story, I almost fed my third son and went in to chat with Zhuang Zhuang for more than ten minutes.

At about 8: 30, Zhuang Zhuang said good night to us and went to bed contentedly.

It is easier to fall asleep at the age of two and a half.

After taking a bath and drinking milk, she climbed into bed happily, hugged her little pillow tightly, lay down with her little rabbit and waved goodbye to us.

Even if she can't sleep, she won't cry. She sings or talks to herself in the room, and then falls asleep slowly until eight or nine in the morning.

The bonzi, which is nearly 1 year old, is also of this model.

After washing, he began to drink the last glass of milk before going to bed at 8 o'clock. After drinking, he burped and put him back in the crib.

Turn on the sound and light bell beside his bed, say good night to him and leave his room.

Looking at the shining stars on the ceiling and listening to the cackling of the bells, my father will soon fall asleep without going back to his room in the middle of the night.

He can sleep until about 8 o'clock the next morning, and sometimes he wakes up early without crying or talking to himself.

Every night, after three babies fall asleep, it is my time.

After a busy day, it is precious to have a time that belongs to you completely and can be arranged and mastered by yourself.

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Hard-won good sleep

Are we lucky to meet three little angels who love to sleep? That's not true.

When the boss was born, I also had an extremely collapsed sleep experience.

Especially in the first two months, I woke up five or six times every night and often stayed up all night.

In the middle of the night, I hugged him and walked around to sleep, and I couldn't sleep. In retrospect, it was tears.

Zhuang Zhuang began to give him sleep training three months after his birth, and then gradually got better.

Although I have had a strong experience, I also have a headache in the face of good sleep.

She didn't sleep well for a month or two. She often wakes up at night and usually gets up two or three times. She coaxed her when she cried, for fear of waking Zhuang Zhuang.

So for a long time after I was born, I was also confused and anxious.

Dad was born in mid-September 2020. Maybe it's because after having the third child, his mental state is better and his father sleeps better.

Even so, for the first month or two, I got up every night to feed him. It's always painful to get up in the middle of the night and drink milk.

However, whether I am strong, good or great, I have a clear goal for my sleep, and that is to fall asleep as soon as possible.

I didn't sleep well at night, and I was in a bad mood the next day and couldn't do anything.

Therefore, I have always been very determined, regardless of all difficulties, to let them sleep as soon as possible.

With this goal, I won't think about cuddling and breastfeeding to solve their sleep problems in a short time. This is simply a bottomless pit and the biggest "roadblock" on the way to sleep.

However, the arrival of newborns is often joyful and confusing.

First-time parents are used to focusing on newborn babies, and their needs are also met one by one. Sleeping, hugging and breastfeeding seem to be the natural thing.

In this way, the newborn baby has become the leading figure in the development of things.

However, parents should lead. Only mature adults know what is right and can guide things in the right direction in a rational way.

It is not easy to form good sleep habits.

In the final analysis, on this issue, parents must first have a clear idea, that is, to overcome all difficulties and let the baby have a good sleep.

Otherwise, if you are not firm, you will be led by your baby at any time, and everything will return to the starting point.

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Bangbang sleep development

Take the stick as an example.

In the first three months, dad's night milk time was basically 3 or 4 in the morning, and the last milk meal was 10: 30 in the evening. After feeding at three or four o'clock, I slept until about seven in the morning.

Four months later, without giving up deliberately, my father bid farewell to midnight milk. After feeding at half past ten in the evening, he can sleep until seven or eight in the morning, but he has to get up and stuff his nipples once or twice in the middle of the night.

When I was five months old, my father always ate complementary food regularly, so I kept all his milk until 10: 30 in the evening, and the last milk was changed to 8: 00 in the evening.

Sleep at eight o'clock in the evening, and you can sleep until seven or eight in the morning. Only in the middle of the night, I occasionally cry because the nipple has dropped, so that I can put it back on him to sleep.

About 6 months, my father can put a nipple on himself, so that I won't cry when I wake up in the middle of the night. If I put nipples on myself, I have nothing.

At this time, I finally realized a complete sleep from 8: 00 pm to 8: 00 am. This model has continued until now.

After he was born, I didn't customize so-called sleep training.

We are just looking for a goal, which is to get a full sleep as soon as possible. Secondly, we have no extra time and energy to sleep. He only has the choice of falling asleep by himself.

So from the beginning, I burped with a stick and put it back to sleep.

In his memory and impression, there is no concept of coaxing, hugging or even breastfeeding, because we have hardly done so.

After dad was born, we had no other helpers, just me and my teammates. We should be strong during the day, take care of ourselves, and have all kinds of housework, so we really have no extra time to sleep.

Everyone must have doubts. Don't you just put it down after feeding? Doesn't he cry?

Of course, I cried. I cried because I was uncomfortable. It may be that hiccups are not photographed, it may be that diapers are not wet, feces are uncomfortable, and it may be colic.

What I do is, if you cry, just pick it up and pat it all the time, and then put it back to sleep. If you cry again, keep hugging, clap again, and so on.

Make sure the baby has no other problems, and it is not a big problem to let them cry for three or five minutes alone; After all, babies can't talk, so it's impossible to deny their crying expression.

If you still cry after a few minutes, then pick it up and pat it again to let them know that we are together, and then put it back to let them learn to sleep by themselves.

Adults should always know what their goals are and determine their direction in order to achieve them.

Now, no matter day or night, he is full of food and drink, and when he goes to bed, he is put back to his crib in his room.

He is not afraid of sleeping, but he is confident that he can sleep by himself.

I am very happy after a good sleep. Wake up in the morning without crying. I sing and play in the room.

As soon as he sees us looking for him, he will be dancing with joy.

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Sleep without outside help.

On the issue of sleep, my teammates and I have always had a clear goal, that is, we must let the babies form the habit of falling asleep. We believe that every child has this ability.

Just like adults, when it's time to sleep, close your eyes and you can sleep slowly. Even if we wake up in the middle of the night and look before dawn, we can continue to sleep before it's time to get up.

In this way, why not cultivate your baby's confidence in sleep from an early age?

Let them know that they can sleep by themselves, even if they wake up in the middle of the night and readjust themselves, they can sleep by themselves without being coaxed.

The baby who was coaxed to sleep, whether cuddling or nursing, woke up to find no one to hug and no nipples. It must be another round of crying, and then he fell into a strange circle of coaxing.

Babies who sleep by themselves sleep longer and better.

Their bodies are well rested and their temperament is more stable. After a full sleep, I woke up without crying, which was very comfortable.

How much time and energy can you save by avoiding the hard work of putting your baby to sleep? What can you do to smell better than putting the baby to sleep?

Busy with all kinds of chores during the day, depending on the time after the child falls asleep at night.

My teammates and I can do our own things with peace of mind and enjoy our own world.

Therefore, they must be well trained to fall asleep.

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Sleep training

Many people are disgusted at the mention of sleep training, and even understand that sleep training is to make babies cry. Adults just have to make up their minds to ignore it.

Sleep training is indeed accompanied by crying, but it is not just the so-called crying immunization method.

Otherwise, our family wouldn't have this training condition. Crying all the time woke up the other two babies. Imagine three children crying at the same time. It's terrible.

There will be crying, but not all.

Same front

If you decide to give your baby sleep training, the whole family should stand on the same front, set the same goals and unify daily practices.

When the baby goes to bed, make sure there are no burps, dirty diapers and other problems. Then put it down to sleep, say goodbye and leave the room.

If every family member does things differently, the baby will be confused and confused, and only when a United front is determined can it be implemented.

Delayed comfort

After the baby is put down, if he cries, don't go in to comfort him immediately. Wait five to ten minutes before you go in and meet them.

Take a pat to see if there are any hiccups, diapers are uncomfortable, and make sure there is no problem to go back to sleep. If you still cry, continue to repeat the previous process.

After the baby falls asleep, if he wakes up early and cries, don't go in right away. Give them ten minutes to adjust themselves. They also need to learn the ability to fall asleep again.

Regular timetable

Another key to sleep training is to let the baby develop regular living and working habits.

When babies are born, their central nervous system is not fully developed.

At this time, parents need to give them regular and predictable interaction, so that their bodies can operate in a balanced and orderly manner until their central nervous system is fully developed and can take over the work.

To put it simply, parents should first establish a regular diet and schedule for their babies, help them have a good metabolism in body shape, and make the baby's diet, digestion, getting up and sleeping cycle reasonable.

For the newborn baby, feed it every three hours during the day, play with the baby for a while after feeding, and then put it back to sleep.

You don't have to obey the 3-hour rule at night. The baby sleeps when he can, and will definitely cry when he is hungry.

Regular life and rest will naturally make them form regular sleep habits.

Sleep connection

Establish a reasonable sleep connection, so that the baby will know it's time to sleep as soon as he touches these things.

When dad was born, he slept in his crib. I moved his crib back to his room when he was born.

For him, his sleeping connection is his bed and his room. As soon as he was put in his crib, he was associated with sleeping.

There are other possible sleep connections. Dad takes a sleeping bag with him at night, which is warm and safe, and also lets him know that it is time to go to bed as soon as he puts on the sleeping bag.

There is also an acousto-optic bell by the bedside of Papa. There are many tunes and sounds of nature in the clock. I like the sound of running water best.

As soon as I put him on the bed, I gave him the gurgling sound of running water, which was also his sleep signal.

The soothing bear you sleep with can also be a baby's sleep connection. Dad has a baby elephant, a rabbit and a bear, which are placed by the bed and are their companions.

Finish a meal

When feeding your baby, be sure to give them a whole meal. If you are too sleepy when drinking milk, scratch their little hands and feet to cheer them up, and you can change diapers to refresh yourself halfway.

The Dutch doctor also suggested that I let my baby drink milk directly with diapers, otherwise it would be too warm and comfortable for them to sleep. However, I have never done this before, fearing that the baby will be too cold.

But the point is to let the baby eat a whole meal mentally, not a snack meal. Eat and drink enough to sleep peacefully.

Sleep in your own crib.

Babies and adults sleep in the same bed, and the safety hazards cannot be ignored. If you accidentally run over the baby, or cover the baby with a quilt, the consequences will be unimaginable.

For a mother, even if there is only one possibility in ten thousand, this threat must be resolutely eliminated.

Secondly, sleeping with the baby, adults turn over and stretch their hands and feet, and they are uncomfortable lying down. How to rest well?

So in any case, it is the best choice to let the baby sleep in his crib from an early age.

Pray for the baby's sleep.

My teammates and I are both Christians. Before they were born, we began to pray for their good sleep, and this prayer has continued until now.

In the face of crying babies and sleepless nights, sometimes people are really at a loss, but God takes care of us in everything.

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Other quilts

Pacifier

Pacifier is not the legendary' scourge', pacifier is really good to use.

Pacifier can help the baby fall asleep quickly, relieve anxiety, stimulate saliva secretion and relieve gastrointestinal discomfort.

If there is no pacifier, the baby will always comfort himself by eating his hands. Eating a pacifier is better than eating his hand. At least the pacifier can quit.

Just be careful not to use the nipple too early, so as not to confuse the baby with the nipple.

The baby is in its infancy.

Newborn babies are full of anxiety about the outside world. Having a baby to wrap their upper body and create the illusion that they are in the womb can make them feel more secure.

Hao Hao and his father were born in swaddling clothes, so it is easier for them to be quiet when they are wrapped, otherwise their little hands will keep shaking, which will make them fidget.

Note that only the upper body is wrapped, and their feet must be free to move.

Mom's clothes

Babies are also extremely sensitive to taste, so their mother's arms often make them feel at ease.

When they are upset and crying, they can also put a small piece of clothes with the smell of mother next to their baby, and the smell of mother can also make them more stable.

Pay attention to choose clothes of the right size, and don't cover the baby carelessly.

camera

If you don't worry about your baby's sleeping state, you can solve it by installing a camera. You can monitor their condition at any time to ensure their safety.

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Write it at the end

Perhaps many parents will feel that only by meeting the baby's needs in time can they feel safe.

However, isn't the intimate relationship between parents more important for the establishment of their sense of security?

A harmonious and happy husband and wife family can best bring children a sense of security from the heart, and this sense of security is more stable.

Secondly, their sense of security comes from the sense of reality and the love of their parents. This kind of love is not blind indulgence, but powerful love, which can help them become better love.

The topic of sleep is really big, and everyone has their own set of opinions. Choose what suits you, don't force or blame, respect everyone's choice, and don't convince each other.

This article is only dedicated to people with the same cognition.

It is not easy to be a mother, and it is not easy to sleep with my mother.

Only when mothers have a good rest can they give their babies more quality companionship.

About the author

Rachel from Holland has three babies (4 years old /2 years old/1 year old). Share daily life with Sambo, explore early education games that are entertaining and entertaining, and give high-quality companionship to babies in a simple and warm-hearted way. Wechat official account: There must be my thoughts on the trip to Kids3Go.