September every year is the most painful time for children who have just entered kindergarten. Because I want to leave my parents' arms, enter a strange environment and see some strange faces, the only thing I can do is "cry"! Adults don't want to put such a small child in kindergarten, for fear that the child won't see anything for the first time. After seeing off the children, the parents will stand at the school gate and wait quietly. This is the "anxiety of entering the park", which is a phenomenon that adults and children will have. However, are children really that fragile? Listen to what the kindergarten director said.

Children's adaptability is far beyond their parents' imagination.

"Many times when children cry outside, parents will be more anxious after seeing them, and parents' anxiety about separation is more serious than children's," said the kindergarten director. Adults think that children are too young to accept the new environment and cry, so they have too much worry and anxiety.

An early education expert talked about a foreign child who went to kindergarten in China. His parents are both Americans. The child can only speak English. When he first arrived in kindergarten, he often didn't talk, and his face and eyes were full of confusion and helplessness. But three months later, something amazing happened. He can basically understand what teachers and children say, and he can also speak some simple Chinese. Then three months later, he was able to communicate with the teacher in fluent Chinese and mingle with other children. Why are children so adaptable? This is because they are in the "unconscious adaptation learning period", and the younger they are, the stronger their ability to accept new things. During this period, children's adaptability to the environment is beyond the imagination of adults.

Many parents are reluctant to leave when they see their children crying. The kindergarten teacher will take them away immediately. In the next five minutes, the child will become very obedient and he will play with other children. When his attention is diverted, he will stop crying. In fact, kindergarten teachers are more patient and play various games with children. While the child adapts to the teacher, the teacher is constantly trying to get along with the child.

Ask the teacher about the child's performance at school.

I often ask my children: How was school today? What have you learned? Did you have fun with the children? And children always ignore my problems and play with their own. I was confused at that time. Did I ask the wrong question? Once, I met a kindergarten teacher on the road. The teacher told me about the child's performance at school: the child is obedient, can help the teacher with things, study well and help others. After listening to the teacher, I realized that every child's performance is different. Children's expressive ability is not clear enough, and they don't know how to answer their parents' questions, so they can only choose silence. Therefore, it will be better to understand the school situation of children through communication with teachers.

Improper practice of parents sending their children to the park.

First of all, white lies cannot be realized.

For example, parents will say "get dressed, let's go to the playground" and "let's go to my sister's house later" and so on. When children arrive in kindergarten, their parents will leave, and their young hearts will be traumatized, thinking that adults will cry even harder when deceiving themselves, thus losing their trust in adults.

Second, inseparable, procrastination.

This kind of sitcom is often staged in front of the kindergarten. The child has entered the campus, but he turned back to find his mother and went back and forth several times, which greatly affected the mood of the child and the time of the teacher.

Third, treat children with compensation.

Some parents think that their children have suffered a lot at school, and when they get home, they buy a lot of food and toys like a little princess and let her go. This will only make children more and more willful, and they will not be able to control it after a long time.

Four or three days fishing, two days drying the net.

Kindergarten is a place to cultivate children's good habits. Some parents, especially the elderly at home, are very reluctant to see their children cry. As long as they cry, they will agree to anything. You can't go two days a week, so children will be even more reluctant to go to kindergarten.

5. Threaten children with threatening words.

I often hear many parents say: if you don't obey, your mother won't love you! Often talking to children in this tone and tone will make them feel inferior and timid. If they work under pressure, they will be more afraid.

Six, worry too much, give up halfway

Many parents think that teachers can't take care of every child at school, children don't have enough to eat, and they pee their pants. After much consideration, they still refused to send their children to kindergarten. When the child starts school, the teacher will ask the parents to prepare a pair of trousers for the child in the schoolbag. It turns out that schoolbags are not used to hold books, but "luggage bags"!

How to make children enter the park easily?

First, get familiar with the school environment in advance.

Because every year, there will be a "life and death parting" scene for children to go to school. In fact, parents can take their children to school in advance to familiarize themselves with the environment and go to kindergarten to experience it once. There are many new programs in kindergartens now, which prepare welcoming ceremonies for new children and reduce their fear of unfamiliar environment.

Second, psychological suggestion in advance

Wait until the children are old enough to go to school, and then instill the concept of going to school in advance. For example, if you see other children going to school, you should tell them that you should go to school like your brother and sister, or buy some school supplies. Psychological suggestion through words or actions.

Third, get ready before entering the park

Because children are too young to take care of themselves, parents need to prepare water cups, tie their hair and prepare to change clothes. Advance for their children. They won't be in a hurry when they go to school, and their children will feel relaxed.

Fourth, understand the situation of kindergarten teachers.

Kindergarten teachers are generally followers, from small classes to large classes, the same teacher, so that children and teachers will become more and more familiar, not afraid of being unfamiliar. Therefore, parents can ask the school teacher in advance and communicate with the teacher in time if they have any questions.

Five, insist on going to school every day.

From the first day of school, you should know that this is a long-term thing, not playing games and playing house. Parents and children must cooperate with each other, call the roll every day and stick to it.

Having said that, are parents relieved? Give their children a pair of wings and let them fly high!