There is a reason why people in big cities are more and more hesitant about raising children. The economic investment is not counted, but the time he needs is calculated first.

If you follow the instructions in the baby-care book completely, you will find that a stay-at-home mother or a stay-at-home father is indispensable at least before the children go to kindergarten. Because experts believe that even three-month-old children need early education: they need to read words and read some colorful cards; Need exercise, be pulled by adults, hold hands, turn over and do so-called aerobics; Need to recharge, listen to Mozart's music and read Li Bai's poems to them, which are all good choices; If you need entertainment, you have to be a circus clown for a while, just to laugh. In addition to these activities, they need to be put to sleep and eat six meals a day for half an hour at a time.

As children grow up, the waiting time for breastfeeding is shortened, and new jobs appear again. You have to bend down and run after their ass, and always be on guard against them falling or knocking over because of their unsteady walking. For people who are used to the wonderful life in big cities, the appearance of children is a life revolution, and bars, KTV, dinners, movies and other entertainment that should make adults feel comfortable will also bring guilt. Because when you are entertaining, you will worry about whether your child will be deprived of entertainment.

Generally speaking, the knowledge of raising children is low, working 24 hours a day, often working at night, and the content is monotonous and unpaid.

Young parents in their twenties often pass this job on to their parents before they grow up. People in their thirties are willing to sacrifice their original way of life because they are afraid that their little Einstein will become a pig, but this will easily lead to new contradictions between husband and wife: today I am in charge, and tomorrow it will be your turn, right? Or trigger a new family conflict: grandparents will feel humiliated because they have lost their leading role in raising grandchildren.

In fact, the middle class working in China should feel very lucky. The cost of finding aunts is relatively low, and grandparents often volunteer to work here. Although the latter is easy to lead to family conflicts, their contribution is very great simply from the workload.

Perhaps 40 years old is a more suitable age for raising children, the job tends to be stable, the opportunities are not as much as 30 years old, and the life is rich and lacking in new ideas. At this time, finding a part-time job with children for yourself is easier to be elated than doing charity. It's just that physically, this age is considered a bad time to have children.

Some people are still hesitating at the age of 40. A female manager with a child of ten years old told me: "Raising a child will never be psychologically prepared. My experience is that, considering the pros and cons, having children is similar to not having children. " The basis of her calculation should be the input-output ratio of this work.

But many people's calculation results are different from hers. A survey on happiness in the United States shows that married people are more likely to feel happy than unmarried people; Families with children are more likely to feel happy than families without children. It will be foolish to measure the work of raising children purely by the input and output of economics, just like inferring happiness by the amount of money.

It is the greatest miracle to spend so much time and investment to care about a little life related to yourself and watch her grow up day by day. This, like work love, belongs to the greatest happiness in life.