Some time ago, I often heard some relatives and friends tell me that today's children don't know anything, so grandparents can be educated full-time. After two years, when you earn money and your children are older, you can take over the education, so that neither of these two things will be delayed, but some things have passed, which is really irreparable. The examples shared below make me more determined. Since I can't let my whole family develop in Shenzhen, I will go back to my hometown to develop myself.
Is that really the case? Let's look at a case. What will happen if parents don't pay attention to the cultivation of their children?
Yuanyuan is a very quiet little girl. When we first met her, we thought she was a rather introverted child. Later, in the thinking experience class, her reaction further verified everyone's guess. In the self-introduction session, other children can stand in front of the podium and tell their names, which kindergarten they come from, what they like, who they came with, and so on. Yuanyuan refused to go on stage when it was her turn. After repeated encouragement, she leaned in her mother's arms and whispered "My name is Yuanyuan".
After a class, Yuanyuan never spoke again. I communicate with her parents after class. They say Yuanyuan is much more silent than other children of the same age. She often hides in the corner and looks at other children alone, but she doesn't like to play with them. In kindergarten, teachers sometimes ignore her. Yuan Yuan's parents' greatest wish is that she can bravely stand in front of everyone and speak.
Knowing the parents' wishes, we also began to consciously cultivate her ability in this respect.
When I was building a building block with Yuanyuan, I found that she was actually a child who was eager to communicate with others and had strong understanding. When she showed me a "castle" she had built, I said happily, "Did you build it yourself? Yuanyuan, you are great! " I said, stroking her hair with my hand. At this time, she lowered her head and sipped her mouth, and a smile crossed her face. Her reaction made me happy because I found a way to help her. Obviously, Yuanyuan cares about others' evaluation of her, and an encouragement and a caring look will make her very happy. I told the class teacher that I should pay more attention to Yuanyuan in class, and when she has outstanding performance, she must be sure in time. However, Yuan Yuan, who is introverted, is far less active in thinking class than other children. Although the principal teacher knows that Yuan Yuan should be encouraged more in class to help her build up her self-confidence, she has never made any outstanding performance, and it is difficult for the teacher to praise her.
I suggest that the master teacher use a magnifying glass to discover Yuanyuan's advantages and observe her behavior characteristics carefully. Every child has a bright spot that is ignored. As teachers, we should be able to explore and affirm it, encourage children and help them build their self-confidence.
Anything went wrong. Therefore, the main teacher praised Yuanyuan in public and asked her to demonstrate how to "safely send the materials home". After the teacher called her twice, it reluctantly stood up and walked slowly to the front of the grid without starting work, and its eyes were still a little timid.
The head teacher encouraged her in time and said, "Yuan Sao didn't fall to the ground just now. Therefore, all the babies in the materials department like to play games with her. What can Yuan Bury do to keep the materials department from landing? Please be a coach and tell everyone what her good idea is. " However, the store said she could demonstrate.
At this time, the round expression is no longer stiff and the mood is relaxed a lot. When she finished the whole demonstration, the main teacher embraced her with open arms and led other children to give her loud applause.
She stared at everyone and we saw joy in her eyes. Although she still didn't speak, we knew it was a very successful first step for her.
In fact, Yuanyuan is very concerned about the attention and affirmation of others. Perhaps she was often neglected before, so she was particularly timid and introverted. Later in class, the teacher asked Yuan, who was slow, to take it and put the materials away first. She gradually stopped contradicting the teacher's instructions and requirements, but did it happily, and sometimes even looked at the teacher with expectant eyes, hoping that the teacher could call her name. In class activities, the teacher found that Yuanyuan would answer questions with the children. Although not as loud as other children, she spoke on her own initiative. This is her progress. After discovering this, the teacher will encourage her at an appropriate time. "We heard Yuanyuan's voice just now, and her answer was right." Then bring all the children to applaud her.
Whenever this time, Yuanyuan will show an innocent smile.
Training courses often include cooperative games, which require two or three children to complete an activity together. One advantage of this activity is that the children in the class can get familiar with each other and experience the joy of sharing cooperation together. Borrowing this form of activity, the main teacher often asks Yuan Yuan to tell her group's answers on behalf of the children in the same group, and asks her peers to applaud her. This purpose is very simple, which can make Yuanyuan feel the happiness brought by being recognized by her peers and the pleasure of communicating with everyone.
In thinking the game's training courses, a very important part is the cultivation of semantic ability, which is not only expressive ability, but also the mastery of precise concepts and the use of descriptive language, which requires higher logic and order. This kind of activity is a challenge for children who usually like to talk and communicate with others, but for children who don't like to talk at ordinary times, the difficulty is self-evident.
The training unit of a class is to tell stories according to the game picture. The same picture requires each child to say something different. In this way, the more children talk later, the less space they have to play and the greater the difficulty. So the main teacher emphasized this point at the beginning of the activity. "In the end, the more you say it, the harder it is." The teacher said, while fixing the wooden pipe on Yuanyuan. Yuan Yuan bravely stood up and explained what had happened according to the situation in the picture. Although her voice is still very small and soft, she bravely stood in front of everyone and spoke, which is a success.
After several months of study. Sister-in-law Yuan became cheerful. She is more and more loved by kindergarten teachers. From the unknown underachievers to the top students who have received much attention, the joy of parents can be imagined.
However, I dare not relax, because we are an institution that is independent of the academic education system and specializes in cultivating children's abilities. We are teaching in a small class. According to the characteristics of children, there are six to eight students in each class, not more than ten. More often, when we meet children who need special adjustment, we will also carry out one-on-one personalized teaching. Under this premise, we can make targeted training programs for children and achieve good results in a short time.
Children like Yuanyuan have been teaching in large classes if they are not adjusted in time. The problem will get worse and worse.
The population base is large and there are many children of the same age. In this way, children will face group learning, life and competition from kindergarten. There are twenty or thirty students in one class in kindergarten, thirty or forty students in primary school and more people in middle school. In such a large class teaching activity, it is impossible for the teacher to take care of every child, and it is impossible to carry out targeted education for every child. It is inevitable that children who are taciturn will not be paid much attention to, and they will be disgusted with naughty children and think that children with poor acceptance ability are "stupid children". This will form a vicious circle. The original excellent children will become better because of the teacher's attention, while the children who are not paid attention to will have a rapid decline in their grades and even have a feeling of weariness.
Childhood is an important period of a person's life development. Some childhood activities will affect a person's life. Maybe I'm happy, maybe I don't want to talk about it again.
Kindergartens and early education institutions should be carefully selected in the pre-school stage, because the attitude and level of teachers will have a far-reaching impact on children.
I once saw such a thing in Sina's mom blog-my daughter was not sick but asked her mother to take medicine to school.
My 4-and-a-half-year-old daughter said, "Mom, I want to take medicine to school!" " "
Mother wondered, "Why did you take medicine when you were not sick?" ?
The child doesn't talk, but his eyes are full of expectation.
Mother didn't take it to heart at first, but when she sent her daughter to school, she just saw the teacher feeding medicine to another child at the door of the classroom. Mom just reacted. In fact, my daughter doesn't want to take medicine, but she thinks that the sick child will get more attention from the teacher.
So, the next day, my mother brought her daughter two bottles of calcium and zinc oral liquid, and her daughter was very happy. I didn't expect the teacher to severely criticize the child. "Why don't you have no disease to take medicine? How much trouble has it caused the teacher? "
The child is extremely wronged.
Children actually just want more attention. We can't know why children have this idea. Maybe she feels that she is not concerned and that she is not taken seriously, so she wants to get more attention through such a move.
In the process of children's growth, casual little things often have an important impact on them. Therefore, parents need to pay more attention to their children, face up to their thoughts and behaviors in the process of growing up, and find out the reasons behind their behaviors.
Every child has something clever. It is the greatest responsibility for children to tap their bright spots and cultivate them with heart.
I wish all children in the world healthy and happy growth. Although life is not easy, it is also important to care for children and parents. Do it and cherish it. what do you think?