If the child lives alone for a long time, his parents are not sociable, rarely contact with the outside world, and are not used to interacting with strangers, forming a child's withdrawn character. Then, parents should try to be consistent with the children around them in their clothes, speech, manners and living habits.
Reduce the discomfort caused by children's differences. Children can be appropriately encouraged to invite some small guests to their homes, and parents should warmly entertain them and set an example for their children; When you arrive at the kindergarten in the morning, you can invite your neighbors and friends to go with you. Buy new toys to play with friends, so that children can gradually get used to and adapt to collective life.
(2) If the child is active at home, but quiet in the group. That's mostly because children often hear their parents' praise at home and feel inferior in the group, thus losing self-confidence and retreating when things go wrong. Adults should cooperate with teachers, discover and use a child's strengths, and let him show it in the group. When he is praised by his teachers and peers, he will be confident and get along well with his peers.
(3) If children get along with their peers because they don't want to suffer, it is unsociable. Then parents should be strict with their children and create conditions for them to play with their small companions. This will help children live in harmony with their partners and establish friendship.
What are the general methods to correct children's unsociable?
1. gradually strengthen. When children ignore their invitation, they should pay attention to it occasionally, even if they refuse to participate. When children express their desire to participate, they should be encouraged in time. When inviting children to take the initiative to ask their children for activities, they should be strengthened. This can encourage children to step by step towards their ideal goals.
2. Strengthen the behavior of the "inviter". As far as social skills are concerned, this is a natural process. If there is a proper communication environment, social communication will happen. For children who have formed unsociable behavior, more communication and exercise are needed. Therefore, you should warmly welcome the children who come to the door automatically, provide them with playgrounds and toys, and encourage your children to play with them.
If your child has been taken care of by his family, you'd better send him to kindergarten. This is an ideal social environment. In addition, it is necessary to take children to places with many children to ensure that children have certain communication opportunities.
According to the child's specific situation, teach him the social knowledge and skills he lacks.
What about withdrawn children?
In kindergarten, we found that some children are withdrawn, unwilling to play games with their children, unwilling to participate in group activities, and often stay alone in the corner to keep others away from them. This kind of child is also accompanied by narrow-mindedness, unhappiness and bigotry. They don't provoke others easily. However, once the pent-up discontent breaks out, it will show strong aggression, which is often unexpected.
Being withdrawn and unsociable will cause certain obstacles to the child's physical and mental development, and it is difficult for him to form a good personality. Teachers and parents should pay attention to this and correct it in time. In view of some reasons that lead children to be withdrawn and unsociable, here are some specific methods. (1) Warm children's lonely hearts with love. Lack of maternal love (or fatherly love) and unsatisfied desire for love from childhood are important factors that cause children to be withdrawn and unsociable. Therefore, parents and teachers should give their children more love, especially when they feel that others don't understand him. If parents and teachers can be considerate and care about him and listen to his voice from his standpoint, the child will soon be close to you and change his attitude. In a gentle and intimate environment, children's withdrawn and unsociable psychology will gradually disappear.
(2) Let children play games with their partners. Growing up in an adult environment, lacking opportunities to play with peers, it is easy for children to develop an unsociable personality. Therefore, after the child is 3 years old, if conditions permit, parents should send him to kindergarten and let him live a collective life, which is very beneficial to prevent the child from being withdrawn and unsociable. Parents should also create opportunities for children who are not qualified for kindergarten to play with their peers and encourage them to play with their neighbors and children. In kindergarten, for those unsociable children, teachers should attract them to participate in collective and group games, and pay attention to play their role in games, cultivate their interest, and make them trust their peers and emotional voices, which will help children overcome the psychological barriers of unsociable.
(3) Improve children's ability and teach them ways to communicate with others. Some children are poor in ability and will not associate with others. You can't cooperate well with your peers in the game, and you will often be rejected or even expelled from the game group by your peers. Failure in this kind of communication is also one of the factors that lead to children's unsociable. Therefore, while educating children to help each other, unite and love each other, teachers should also pay attention to improving their individual abilities so that they can master the ways and means of interacting with their peers. Parents should also pay attention to purposefully using various opportunities to exercise their children's abilities and cultivate their self-confidence and lively and cheerful personality.
(4) Eliminate all kinds of unfavorable factors. Many factors may cause children to be withdrawn and unsociable. In addition to the above aspects, teachers and parents should make specific analysis and treatment according to the characteristics of each child. For example, some children have poor personal hygiene, are dirty and smelly, and children don't like him. For such a child, adults should help him do a good job in personal hygiene, dress him neatly, and let the child change his view of him. Some children are wronged in communication with their peers, and their toys are taken away and even beaten. So, "once bitten, twice shy", I don't want to play with children anymore. For such a child, you can let him play alone for a while, and then help him choose a gentle and polite partner to play with, so that he can reproduce the happiness of playing with his peers. At the same time, we should educate him to forgive others' mistakes.
In short, the factors that lead children to be withdrawn and unsociable are very complicated. Teachers and parents should educate their children with great enthusiasm and patience, help them overcome psychological barriers and let them grow up healthily and lively.
How to change a child's withdrawn temperament?
According to some scholars' calculations, there are about 300,000-500,000 children with autism or withdrawn temperament in China. Parents should learn to observe and find the abnormal performance of their children and take measures to correct their personality defects as soon as possible.
Children with withdrawn personalities often have the following performances:
1. Abnormal speech and cognition. After 2 years old, I don't like to talk, get close to and associate with others, respond to others' shouts and say hello. In view of this kind of performance, parents should guide their children to study and play with them more, and cultivate their ability to get along with groups.
2. Abnormal social skills and behaviors. It shows that there is no sense of closeness to relatives and friends, lack of interest and response in social interaction, and dislike of playing with partners. In order to correct this behavior, parents should often train their children to talk more in appropriate occasions, let them sing children's songs, dance and other programs for their guests, and create conditions for their children to contact all kinds of people extensively.
3. Don't care about others. Psychologists believe that the development of children's personality and the realization of socialization process are inseparable from interpersonal communication. Let children learn to care about others and let them experience normal interpersonal relationships in a subtle way, which is conducive to the formation of a good personality and to overcoming the withdrawn temperament.
In addition, the experimental results of psychologists show that sports stimulation is very important for children's psychological development. Therefore, for children who are unsociable and unsociable, let them exercise, play games and participate in activities with other children to cultivate their love for the group and good character.