I believe there are still many treasure moms who have similar puzzles in their lives. Faced with the situation that children over two years old are always hitting people, parents can't hit, talk or listen. This is really worrying! Please don't worry, let's find out why children of this age always like to hit people.
The reason why children of this age always like to hit people is 1. Emotional expression ability is not perfect.
For children over two years old, the language system is not well developed, and they will not express their emotions correctly when they encounter things. For example, some children obviously want to play with other children, but they don't know how to express it. They will pull their children and even beat them with their hands to express their love and affection. Another is that children's thoughts and desires are not satisfied, and they don't know how to vent their emotions, which can only hurt people.
2. Self-awareness and sovereignty awareness began to sprout.
For children over two years old, when they want something they like, if their needs are not met, they will choose to grab it. Moreover, most children play with other people's abilities, and others can't play with mine. This is that although self-awareness and sovereignty awareness are budding, they are not perfect. When their things are threatened and their ideas are rejected, they can't express them in words, which leads to beatings.
3. Other reasons: such as parent-child relationship, imitation, seeking the attention of adults, physical discomfort, etc.
I once saw a case in a parenting program where the mother was always busy with her own affairs and lacked care and companionship for her children. As a result, the children are always noisy. Whenever the children are noisy, the mother will come out and yell at them. At this time, the child will be very proud, and the mother will be very annoyed and lament how her child is so naughty. In addition, if the family often fights, it will also lead to children like to hit people. On the other hand, if the child doesn't hit people at ordinary times, but at a certain time there is irritability or even hitting people, then it is necessary to consider whether it is caused by the child's physical discomfort.
In life, in the face of children's beating behavior, some parents choose to let it go, thinking that this behavior will naturally disappear as long as they grow up. In fact, this idea is unacceptable. Other parents, after seeing their children beating people, shouted at their children with great fanfare and even used violence to control violence. This kind of behavior is also unacceptable. Educating children must master a moderate problem.
So, what if the child hits someone? 1. Persuade and patiently tell children how to express their emotions.
Parents can help their children master some basic interpersonal skills, both sharing and refusing. In addition, parents should encourage their children to tell the reasons for hitting people. If the child can't say clearly, adults can help him say it and teach him how to express it slowly.
2. Make rules for adults and children.
Parents should first tell themselves and their families that there can be no beating at home, or even joking in time. Then tell the child repeatedly that hitting people is not good. If a child hits a child, he should be encouraged to apologize. In the long run, the child's behavior will be corrected slowly.
3. Give children full care, love and confidence.
Parents should pay enough attention to their children and know whether they are unwell in time. In addition, when a child can't do a thing well, parents should encourage more and criticize less, so that the child's ability can be gradually enhanced. Being in a good mood and confident will naturally reduce the number of beatings.
To sum up, the above are the reasons for the beating behavior of two-year-old children and the measures to stop it. Although hitting people is a bad behavior, it is also a problem for children over two years old at this physiological stage. As long as parents patiently teach and correct in time, it will not have any influence on the child's future personality and behavior. Parents don't have to worry too much!