When I see the word violence, the first thing I think of is punching and kicking, which is the physical harm that one person does to another. However, communication is a verbal communication and expression between people. The name of this book is nonviolent communication, which means that there will be violence in communication.

What is violence? Baidu Encyclopedia explained that violence is a legal term that refers to the use of force or personal attacks or disputes between countries. The degree of violence is very serious, and the level is R. The war between countries is usually considered as a serious act of violence, so waging war is a crime in modern society. Those who wage war in violation of international law will be condemned and sanctioned by the international community. What's more, their country will be attacked by troops sent by the United Nations, and their rulers will be brought to an international court for trial, except those initiated by the international order approved by the United Nations.

So what is violent communication between people? The author of this book believes that unwarranted accusations, criticisms and accusations are all verbal violence, and such communication is violent communication.

The first reason for violent communication is to judge a person's morality. When you see a young man who doesn't give up his seat on the bus, you will feel that this young man has no culture and doesn't respect the old and love the young. On the bus that day, I met a man with a woman and a child. After getting on the bus, he shouted at a young girl at the door, "Why don't you give up your seat?" Respect the old and love the young, don't you understand? Don't let your seat blush? "Serious moral kidnapping, violent communication.

The second reason for violent communication is to compare with others. There are more people than people, and more people kill. In his book Let Yourself Live a Tragic Life, Dan Greenberg said that if you really want to live a miserable life, you should compare yourself with others. When we compare with others, there will be many imbalances in our hearts, so we will be angry because we are dissatisfied with our own needs, which will lead to language violence.

The third reason for violent communication is to evade responsibility. I did this because of the meaning of leadership and system, and I always thought I "had to" do it. The author believes that "once we don't realize that we are our own masters, we become dangerous people."

The fourth reason for violent communication is that it is beyond the reach of others. If you don't, you will get what you deserve. You should, don't do that. This kind of communication usually occurs in the communication between parents and children. If you don't study hard, I won't give you pocket money and so on.