Self-driven Growth is a book about education. How to cultivate children's autonomy? I read this book not because I have to face the problem of educating the next generation, but for self-education. After all, I feel like a "baby" to some extent. The word "chronic stress" mentioned repeatedly in the book is also the root of anxiety and depression. A healthy stress response should be like this: stress hormones rise rapidly and then recover quickly. Once the stress hormones don't fall back quickly, something will go wrong.
If stress persists, the adrenal glands will further secrete cortisol. Cortisol is like a reinforcement introduced by the body for a long-term battle. Its concentration rises slowly in the human body to help the body cope with stress. Long-term high cortisol levels will weaken cells in the hippocampus, which is the place where memories are created and stored, and eventually kill them. This is why under acute pressure, students will have all kinds of difficulties in their studies.
In order to help children relieve stress, many methods are mentioned in the book, such as helping children find a sense of control (let children make their own decisions and be advisory parents instead of leading parents), meditation, setting aside complete rest time for their brains, and ensuring adequate sleep and regular exercise. ...
How to make children have the inner drive to study hard is just like how to make ourselves have the inner drive to work hard. The principle is the same. The author says that if you want to cultivate children who are not anxious, you should first be an anxious parent. If you don't solve your own problems, it may be easier to scold and control your children, thus making them more rebellious and vicious.
The alternative route in the last chapter of the book tells parents that their children's future is not only a way to get high marks and go to a prestigious school, but also lists many children who do not take the usual path but still live well, which also makes us feel how to correctly face and educate children.