(1) reading
In fact, my daughter has always had good reading habits. It's just that I want to improve her reading level (what an arrogant idea), so I bought some children's books that I think are good words. In the first few days, she was quite cooperative and willing to listen to my story. Later, I found out that she didn't like it, so I thought it was too noisy to watch it. If she likes it, I don't like it as much as she does, so I can't keep studying, so I can only entertain myself.
For a long time, she liked plants vs. zombies comics, and always asked me to tell her at the beginning. I found that she only likes funny places in comics, but the knowledge points in them are always ignored. This seems to be quite different from my original intention. It seems that you can't buy this book too much. What's the point of being funny? But later, I found that the starting point of everything comes from interest, and children are closer to the essence and will not do things with other utilitarian purposes. Funny is what she is most interested in at this stage. I often read ancient poems, but her impressive poem is a cartoon from the Tang poem Plants vs Zombies. She can recite a long list of definitions of nuclear fusion, she knows what the universe is made of, and she knows that the word universe first appeared on the philosopher Zhuangzi, all of which are from the popular science comics of Plants vs Zombies. Her knowledge of popular science has surpassed mine (in fact, my own knowledge is pitiful). These are all caused by interest, and coercion or even guidance is not allowed at all. She reads faster than me, too. Last night, after I went to bed, she had to read a book, and soon she finished reading the story of a stupid wolf. Talk to me after lights out. I asked her to tell me what story she had just read. I feel ashamed that she can completely retell a story. Now, I put down my self-righteous guidance and bought her a whole set of "Plants vs Zombies" science comics. Meeting her needs is what I can do and what I should do most. I don't have the confidence to educate her condescendingly, and I don't have the confidence to give her better guidance, so I will humbly guard her and give her the support and listening she wants.
As long as it is controlled, it will inevitably bring resistance. The expectation of others is also a kind of implicit control. We all hope that children love reading, but we can't expect to do it with this purpose. When you do this, if your child doesn't meet your expectations, you will be vaguely disappointed and angry until it breaks out. Everything is like this, including homework, eating, games and so on. Don't use implicit control, which is no different from open control. It will only make you more wronged, confused and anxious. The guidance without trace is very high, and the child's heart is extremely keen. A little utilitarian heart will be detected and then cause disgust and resistance. If we can't do it, then don't do anything to avoid self-defeating.
About reading, my suggestion:
1, provide books for children, just like toys.
You bought it and left it at home. Whether or not to read, which book to read, how to read it and when to read it are all up to the children themselves. If a child wants to draw on a book, or if a child can tear a book, don't object. You'll like it if you play.
3. The child asks you to read to her. Don't read fragments with the purpose of literacy and knowledge. You can exchange the contents of the book with your child and share your feelings together, but don't educate your child. Don't say that the protagonist is right, you should learn from him. This is wrong and you can't do it. Don't judge, leave everything to the children to absorb.
4. Take children to bookstores and libraries, where the atmosphere will make children have no choice but to study, hehe, it will also be affected under the influence.
You can recommend books that you think are good for children, but don't criticize the books that children choose. It is up to the child to decide whether he feels good or bad. The world is diverse, and there is no absolute good or bad.
6. If you insist on reading, you can read aloud, but if the child thinks you are disturbing him and won't make any noise, then don't read aloud.