I usually only bury myself in exams and don't know much about human nature. I don't know how to deal with emotional problems when I am struggling internally.
Some people hurt others, even commit crimes, and don't know what the nature of crime is. Some people are hurt, but they don't know how to expose the wicked in time and stop the loss.
Therefore, in the face of embarrassing cases of "crime with high academic qualifications" and "sexual assault on girls" in society, we should explore the "reasons" for its formation from this "fruit". And how to establish correct values is the fundamental reason.
Today, I recommend a new book, Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise, to every parent who has daughters and adolescent girls.
Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise was written by writer Lin based on his real experience.
In 20 17, Lin, who suffered a lot, ended his 26-year-old life ahead of schedule. In the same year, the book won the Taiwan Province openbook Award of the Year, was specially nominated by Douban High Score Book in 20 17, and won the first Liang Yusheng Literature Prize "Love and City" in 20 18.
The novel tells the story that Fang Siqi, a girl who loves literature, has been violated by a cram school teacher for a long time. From the victim's point of view, the author shows the victim's painful experience naked in front of the reader, and the words are full of the power to hit the soul directly.
This novel brings together two social hot issues: sexual assault in children's world and domestic violence in adults' world. But to some extent, Ewan's sister is the adult version of Si Qi.
Evian's cowardice at first made her husband's violence worse, but in the end she was lucky. She resisted at the right time, saved herself, found someone who really loved herself and was worthy of love, and started a new life.
But for Qi Qi, all the pain ended in vain, the victims were not saved, and the wicked did not get the punishment they deserved, which is what makes people feel painful and depressed.
The smart girl in the flower season has fallen like this, which is embarrassing.
Li Guohua is not the only culprit behind this tragedy.
In Fang Siqi's family, sex is a taboo word, so Fang Siqi dared not tell her parents at the first time after being insulted by her teacher. Parents' silence on sex destroyed Siqi's only way out. She tried to ask her mother for help: "Mom, we don't lack anything but sex education." But mom just replied coldly that it was for people who needed sex.
If the mother can alert and guide the child to tell the truth, be the most powerful reliance of the child and tell her that it is not her fault, define a girl's purity with a clean soul instead of a movie. The teacher who is well-dressed and has a dark and insidious soul is the real beast who should be spurned.
However, in our society, our parents often unconsciously stand on the opposite side of children, making an innocent child bear the unbearable lightness in life. Their seemingly understated words may be the last straw to crush the camel.
Teenagers are ignorant and rebellious. But I am full of curiosity about the whole world, and it is this desire to explore that makes every immature teenager wander on the brink of danger.
Schools and society should make adolescent sex education popular and open, not empty talk.
Fang Siqi's tragedy was definitely not an accident. It is precisely because of parents' indifference to children's sex education consciousness before the tragedy, parents' hindsight after the tragedy, and the indifference and prejudice of the public that these wicked people can take advantage of it. A girl who is sexually assaulted should be cared for, but she may be labeled as disorderly and impure because she exposes the wicked, thus feeling that she is not worthy of love. Parents should tell their children that people who really love you will not look down on you. Life is not perfect, and it can't be smooth sailing, but it will always be over.
Si Qi chose silence because of his so-called self-esteem. But true dignity should be to have the courage and wisdom to face all injuries.
If someone had told young Qi this at that time, maybe her life would be very different. ...