Specifically, you can do this:
1.
When you encounter problems in your life, read relevant books with a purpose.
This can broaden my understanding of this problem and increase the depth. I have an idea that if I encounter similar problems in the future, I will not be in a hurry and naturally have a stable temperament.
Some people may stay in the library for a long time, and the more bored they are, the more they resist. In fact, it is because they have no purpose and no goal. They just read for the sake of reading, and they read in general. After reading the novelty, I forget that I won't use the knowledge in books to solve problems. It's like many rich people buy books and decorate the whole room with them, but they basically never read them. On the contrary, the book shows the "temperament" of a nouveau riche.
2.
Stick to it and learn how to learn knowledge from books.
There are mountains and valleys in your chest. When you encounter other problems, even if you don't encounter big problems or setbacks, you will habitually think rationally and propose solutions.
This is why people say that they are poetic and bookish, but it is not a false temperament, but a calm from the inside out.
3.
Add thinking, absorb the essence of books, and make the wisdom of books your own.
We usually have little time to get real freedom, but we don't need much time to think. When waiting for the bus, before going to sleep, or even soaking our feet while brushing our teeth, we can always think about what we have read and remembered.
4.
You can accept other people's experience and lessons from other channels.
Nowadays, besides reading, we have many means to acquire information and knowledge. We can listen to experts, friends and the Internet. It can also be used as a reference and a mirror for us to improve ourselves.
But to truly understand and analyze the problem rationally and systematically, and then solve the problem and prevent the problem from appearing again, we still have to look for it from books. The knowledge in the book can help us get rid of the shackles of the real world on our thinking and understand and solve problems from a more objective and higher level.
Besides, I think, on the whole, this activity is really abstract. It doesn't mean that if you want to use it, you can immediately improve your connotation and temperament with book knowledge. All connotations are accumulated after hard work, and all temperaments are corrected by themselves in a subtle way. We are like models made by the creator. What we have to do is to continue the work of the creator, constantly improve ourselves, enrich our knowledge, know more about what we like, and correct our bad places according to the direction we want to like. At that time, you wouldn't pay attention to these things, but you can already feel them better than others.
This is my experience. Maybe someone else has a better idea. I hope I can give you a reference.
Seriously, I admire people who can constantly pursue their own perfection. In a short time, such people seem to be only useful to others, but in fact, when their minds rise to a certain height, they must benefit the most. It is a state in which they are not afraid of any difficulties, can face all setbacks calmly, and can certainly solve many problems. .