The same is true of minimalist life, which seems to be unhurried, but it focuses on the key points and lives the life you like in an orderly way. I'm grateful to have it all the time. The following dribs and drabs are the inspiration I gave my children these two days.
I believe more and more now that children are parents' teachers to a certain extent, teaching us to look at the world from another angle and being good at finding fun and happiness from it. For example:
The dining table faces the window. Every day when eating, children will look out of the window, and there will be various new discoveries.
For example, that cloud is like fried eggs, and some clouds are like palaces. Especially at dinner, the flaming clouds are beautiful. Sometimes the light is transmitted from the clouds, and the back seems to be perforated. Children insist that heaven is behind them, and the light-transmitting place is where angels go in and out.
New Zealand is a land of long white clouds, with few people and many cattle and sheep. Simple and natural. When it comes, it will be safe and sound, enjoy the blue sky, white clouds and green grass, and live happily every day like a child. How happy I am.
When I drew the curtains before going to bed last night, the child suddenly called me to his room excitedly. I saw the full moon through the glass window. He cares about the flowers and trees downstairs, the clouds and the bright moon in the sky and appreciates the changes of the four seasons. Pure beauty, nothing more.
Choosing underwear to wear that day is a small matter, but the best reason I have ever heard is from the child's remarks yesterday morning.
He looked at a pile of underwear for a few seconds, chose the white one, and then came up to me and told me the reason. He said there is a legend of a black fox in Korea. The black fox harms people, and only the tricolor bottle can save it. The three-color bottles are white, blue and red in turn. If the white bottle is used first, his first pair of underwear will be white.
To my surprise, I bought him an underwear set box from the mall the other day, which contained three pairs of children's underwear, and the colors were just white, purple-blue and burgundy. It's a coincidence.
Sleepy-eyed, I chose a pair of underwear with such a legendary support behind it. How many wonderful things I haven't seen in my little head. Envy such an interesting little heart.
Every child has different habits. My children have been very good since childhood and are not picky about food, so they were taller and a little overweight some time ago. Now he has fixed it. The method is simple. When the meal is full, the staple food is slightly less, and the child does not need special control. After all, there is a lot of activity, and it is easy to return to the ideal weight range.
Friends who have read my previous articles must know that I pursue fast and healthy cooking, so there will not be many complicated banquets, often just a simple combination of one or two vegetarian dishes, or even a bowl of delicious and healthy fried rice. Children like these simple foods very much and often praise them while eating, which gives me great comfort and makes me feel considerate and happy.
Although simple, every time after eating the staple food, children are used to adding a dessert, usually yogurt, seasonal fruits such as the recent watermelon and cherries some time ago. I will bake cakes when I am free on weekends. I will make less sugar and oil myself, which is healthy and delicious.
Three meals a day, wrapped in people's simplest needs, but also buried the most basic enthusiasm and hope for life, enjoy a meal, be grateful, and be satisfied.
Libraries in New Zealand are very convenient. Almost every community has a library not far from home, which provides books, newspapers, DVDs, computers, printing services and some community activities free of charge.
The child once said with a smile that the library is our church. Every weekend, if we don't go there, we will feel incomplete and have some shortcomings. Go to the library for two or three hours every week, relax and read books, return last week's books and borrow this week's. The facilities inside are clean and tidy, quiet and warm.
In my mother's mind, nothing attracts us more than the library, and nothing attracts us more than books.
When you go in and out of a quiet place, you are surrounded by quiet people and things, so your body and mind are easy to calm and relax. The influence of the environment on a person is enormous. Don't put too much pressure on self-discipline, which is often limited. It is best to improve by improving the environment. This is less painful and more effective.
At the dinner table last night, the child looked up at the clock and said that he was playing chess with a Dutch child at 7: 30 in the evening. Since he fell in love with chess a year or two ago, he has spent a lot of his spare time tossing about this thing.
Today's schedule is to study with the coach from 3: 30 to 5: 00 on Saturday afternoon and play chess at the club from 5: 30 to 6: 30. When the address remains the same, he eats sandwiches or snacks on his back and drinks water with him for half an hour. I played happily for three hours at the Oakland Chess Center.
At present, most of his learning tasks after class are: school homework (generally no or little), homework assigned by his mother (dictation of one page of words every day, written in Chinese), piano for about two hours, etc. After finishing these tasks, he will play chess for a while. There are children from all over the world on the website, with different grades and scores, etc. So that he can choose his own level to practice. I liked playing chess when I was a child, but now only reading and writing is my paradise.
If a child has hobbies, he is busy with hobbies, and the chances of doing nothing will be reduced. Encouraging healthy hobbies is an important part of helping children grow up.
At home, we are used to playing music to do housework.
My musical enlightenment was the voice of Lin Sheng, the host of Xi 'an Music Station, and the classical music he played one after another. Later, I listened to rock and pop, and now I have the feeling of wandering around and returning to my hometown and base area, and I fell in love with classical music without words, which is the most beautiful. Even works written hundreds of years ago still sound so touching and extremely pleasant today.
The music boy at breakfast yesterday asked me to choose. I played the song of moonlight. Although it is moonlight, it is perfectly matched with breakfast toast, fried eggs, avocados, apples and coffee.
At noon, music is his choice. As a result, he rudely chose Michael Jackson's. The lovely alpha egg on the table blinks every time, which is full of rhythm. I have forgotten how I swallowed food with such a strong rhythm. Later, when eating watermelon, watching the children standing in the kitchen eating watermelon swing with the rhythm turned out to be dancing.
That scene filled me with happiness, and I tried my best to work hard for it, but at this moment, I am carefree and know how to enjoy the simple and beautiful you, and you look just like that. From this perspective, I got what I wanted and felt at ease.
It is difficult for people to be perfect in all aspects, just like that sentence, nine times out of ten, you don't have to dwell on temporary gains and losses and flaws. From a psychological point of view, be pessimistic. When you actually do things, you will be practical, have ideas, be busy, be full, and have less psychological burden.