1. Learning self-discipline is the fastest way for a person to make progress. At least self-discipline is a very ceremonial thing for a person who wants to improve. If a person wants to really control his life, he needs to learn self-discipline first.
2. learn a skill, learn more skills, and add some new possibilities to your life. Learning skills will broaden your horizons and improve your skills. This skill can be learning how to do PPT, or how to shoot small videos. Learn what you are interested in, and your skills will be rewarded to you in another form one day.
3. Make a plan for yourself. A planned life often gets twice the result with half the effort. What I'm talking about here is not making a big plan for your life, but making a small plan in front of you, such as writing today's plan first, then this week's plan, and then this month's plan.
The plan should be detailed, not exaggerated, and even the goals you can set for yourself at the beginning should be lower. It is not difficult to do this, and after finishing it, you will have an inexplicable sense of accomplishment, which is psychologically positive for implementing a bigger plan in the future.
4. Pay attention to your appearance. Don't think that it is your own business to wear clothes and wash your face every day. Of course, no one can control you, but you have to understand that a person's cleanliness is not only responsible for himself, but also respect for others; When you try to go out in ironed clothes instead of wrinkled shirts, the first thing you benefit from is your own feelings, and even your eyes will change.
This is very helpful for your psychological suggestion and confidence improvement, and your mood will get better. If people around you praise you again at this time, "Your clothes are really beautiful today", you will feel that it is not so difficult to tidy up yourself, and the positive feedback brought by a good external image is often the most timely; Since this is a good thing for both people and themselves, why not try to change it?
Find a friend you admire and make friends with more people you admire. As the saying goes, "those who are near the ink are black, and those who are near the ink are black." If you can choose, you will definitely want to be near Zhu instead of Mo, because a positive person will not only bring you positive actions, but also spur you mentally.
After four years of college, if you play the glory of the king with your roommates every day, after four years, you may gain the "strongest king" in the game. This endorsement may make you brag when you pick up girls, but in front of HR, this king status will not bring you any extra points.
But if you spend all day with friends who drag you to the library, four years later, you may gain insights and knowledge that your peers don't have, and these gains may affect your self-thinking and choice of life direction in the next few decades.
6. Read more quietly. Nowadays, the Internet is becoming more and more "intelligent". In order to attract people's attention and attention, various platforms have introduced various algorithms to ensure that what you see is what you want to see. They just want you to stay a little longer. It is best to indulge in this; However, in the evolution of the internet, there is a huge crisis for you-what you see is becoming more and more single, your world view will become more and more narrow, and you will become more and more confused; Is there a solution?
Of course, I suggest you stay away from the software controlled by algorithms and try to read some graphic articles, because graphics and texts don't control your dopamine like short videos. Short videos make you concentrate, but pictures and texts will give you time to think and desire to reflect, most of which are not as intense as short videos. At least in thinking about life, reading more books is more likely to help you find the answer than watching short videos.
7. Stay away from the environment you don't like. A netizen on Zhihu said that he wanted to leave his job. The reason is that he ordered a Starbucks at noon in his previous company and was discussed by his colleagues for a long time. Later, I changed my company because I couldn't stand it. In the current company, even if he orders Starbucks three times a day, everyone feels used to it; When you can't change the environment, you can only change yourself! You think they don't know you. They're not like you. The best way is to stay away and find an environment that suits you. You have to understand that "the strong are at loggerheads and the weak are tearing B".