. . ISBN:？ 9787553522838

. . Brief introduction of content. .

This is the memoir of a psychotherapist, telling the story that happened in the clinic. In this narrow confined space, people will show their truest and most vulnerable side; It is also here that people get companionship and listening, as well as valuable cognition, growth and change.

In the book, we will see the stories of four tourists. They are:

A Hollywood producer in his forties has a successful career and feels that everyone around him is an idiot;

A female university teacher in her thirties was diagnosed with a terminal illness just after she got married, and her time was running out.

A 69-year-old, divorced three times, felt lonely and desperate, claiming that his life could not be improved and he would commit suicide on his seventieth birthday;

A girl in her twenties, with family trauma and drinking problems, has been frustrated repeatedly in love.

At the same time, there is a fifth person in the book who asks for help, and that is the therapist himself. She is a single working mother. I was lovelorn in my forties and almost collapsed. A friend said to her, "Maybe you should talk to someone," so she found herself a therapist. When she switched to the visitor's position and sat on another therapist's sofa complaining about her inner fragility and sadness, she could feel why psychotherapy has the power to heal and change.

This book shows the process of psychotherapy from the dual perspectives of therapists and visitors, and makes us find that no matter how different the identity background is, the troubles faced by human beings are actually the same-love and being loved, regret, choice, control, uncertainty and death, which are all problems that we must face and study together as human beings. All the pains and difficulties we encounter in real life can be heard in this book and hope can be found.

This book is a psychological self-help book recommended by many American media in 20 19-it is on the annual required reading list of The New York Times's Time, People, Variety and other media, and it is the TOP 10 book sold by Amazon in the United States, and it is also the annual recommended book of Harvard Business School. Its audio book version is also the first in the year for audio non-fiction audio books. Just one month after its launch, this book rushed to the top of Amazon Book List and The New York Times Best-seller List100; Since its publication two years ago, it has licensed more than 40 language versions worldwide, with a total sales volume of over 700,000 copies, and is filming a TV series starring eva longoria, a famous actor who once appeared in Desperate Housewives.

Irvin Yalom, a world-renowned psychologist and honorary professor of psychiatry at Stanford University in the United States, wrote a recommendation for this book: "I have read psychotherapy books for more than half a century, but I have never seen such a book: so bold, so straightforward, so many good stories, and so profound and fascinating."

Song Li, a well-known psychologist in China, is a professional reviewer of this book. He wrote down the order of recommendation: "The process of reading this book is to explore inch by inch in the square of the mind. It gets darker and deeper, and thunder comes from land of silence. "

. . About the author? . .

Lori gottlieb, born in 1966, is an American writer and senior psychotherapist. Her column Dear Therapist, written for Atlantic Monthly, is very popular with readers, and her TED speech is one of the top ten speeches with the highest broadcast rate in 20 19. As a mental health expert, she often appears on TV and radio programs, such as Today Show and Good Morning America. With the book "Maybe you should talk to someone", she became a best-selling author in The New York Times, Time magazine, Publishers Weekly and other media.

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"The crux of your sadness is something more important."

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No one can escape the pain, but at least you can find someone to talk to, talk about the real you, and talk about those seemingly unsolvable difficulties. When you face pain, you will find that all difficulties actually have a way out. Speaking out is the best treatment-the miracle of psychological counseling, and that's how it happened.

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Parents may be jealous of their children, and an environment full of encouragement and acceptance can really make people grow up. # Two notes full of tears

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People are eager to be understood and to understand others. So what is more romantic is "I know you".

Breaking up is like losing peace. You have lost not only one person, but also your lost time, company, jokes and metaphors, as well as memories belonging to both of you.

Divorce is not only the loss of a partner, but also psychological failure, rejection, betrayal and unknown. What hurts more is the life track that runs counter to one's expectations and the loss of enthusiasm for getting to know people again.

These feelings have to start from accepting themselves before they can come out.

Oh, my God!

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Welcome to Holland.

When you plan a wonderful trip to Italy, you will buy a guidebook, be a guide and even learn a few Italian words.

That day has finally arrived.

When the plane landed, the crew said, welcome to Holland.

You will be surprised and angry. I think Holland is a dirty, terrible and disgusting place.

But you still have to get off the plane to buy a new guidebook, a new language and meet people you didn't know before.

But people around you, when going back and forth to Italy, will say: Yes, I went there.

This pain will never go away. But wasting it is the most helpless.

Life is impermanent Live in the moment.

. . Pay attention to friends and meet good books every day. .