The film Pushing Hands tells the story of the coexistence of two cultures, as well as the contradictions and frictions with China and Americans. The film tells the audience that it is difficult for China people and foreigners to live together.
But today, the story we are going to tell is the opposite of Ang Lee's movie plot. Tells a beautiful love story that spans both sides of the ocean. A 24-year-old American female teacher came to China and met a Henan security guard by chance. What happened?
The love between security guards and American female teachers
Cai Xiaohua, 33, probably never dreamed that his wife would be a foreigner and an American female teacher with blonde hair and blue eyes. Because his family was really poor when he was a child, he was born in an ordinary rural family. He doesn't want to think about things abroad, and he doesn't dare to think about it.
He is an only child. When he was a child, his mother left Cai Xiaohua because his family was too poor. He lost his mother since childhood, and gradually developed an independent personality under the influence of his father and family.
Accustomed to the hardships of life, he understands the importance of knowledge. He understands that knowledge can change fate. However, due to his family situation, his education was very poor, but he didn't give up studying.
As an adult, he began to work as a security guard in a foreign language school. He started studying in the school library, but unexpectedly, he ran out with a foreign girlfriend for himself.
Although they didn't know each other well at first, they attracted each other over time and finally got married successfully. After their marriage, Tiffany and Cai Xiaohua came to live in their hometown in Henan. Tiffany also said that although Cai Xiaohua is a security guard and his family is not very rich, they really love each other, so even though she lives in the countryside, she is very happy.
The relationship between the two people has also become a local story, and many people are wondering why two people with such poor conditions can still be together. What is the reason?
Why can two people break the line?
The most important reason is Cai Xiaohua's personality. Due to the influence of family factors, Cai Xiaohua has developed an independent personality since childhood, and he knows the importance of study and hard work. Although he is a security guard, he does not feel inferior, but treats life in a down-to-earth way. When I was a security guard at school, I also tried to go to the library to study and change my life.
From these situations, we can see that Cai Xiaohua is an enterprising and diligent person. It is because of these characteristics of Cai Xiaohua that Tiffany likes this boy.
The second one comes from Tiffany's unfailing love. Because of cultural differences, in China, the expression of love is more subtle, but in foreign countries with relatively open cultures, people express love directly and boldly.
So when Tiffany knew his heart for Cai Xiaohua, she generously told him that although Cai Xiaohua was a little surprised, they were soon together.
But it was followed by some bad voices from outside, which made Cai Xiaohua feel that she was not worthy of Tiffany, and her career and background were not good. Cai Xiaohua felt that he couldn't give Tiffany happiness, so he began to retire.
But Tiffany doesn't care about these things. She thinks that falling in love and getting married is their business and has nothing to do with others. She doesn't care what others think. Besides, she doesn't care about Cai Xiaohua's background and occupation. It was because of his girlfriend's understanding and support that Cai Xiaohua strengthened her confidence and finally they could get married.
The third is the difference between the two. Many people think that there is a huge difference between Cai Xiaohua and Tiffany. It is precisely because of this difference that they should not be together, but as everyone knows, it is precisely because of this huge difference that they really come together.
When they first met, they didn't know each other's language, but Cai Xiaohua was a very patient person. He was very kind to this beautiful American female teacher and gave her a lot of help without any selfish purpose.
Because of Cai Xiaohua's action, their hearts were quickly drawn closer, which also gave Tiffany a great sense of security. In a strange country, she needs some understanding and support. These things can't be filled with work, but need friends and lovers to bring them, and Cai Xiaohua did exactly the right thing, which made Tiffany dependent on him.
At the same time, Cai Xiaohua also has his own worries, but these things can't be solved through work. He also needs understanding and support, but in others' eyes, he is ordinary, which makes Cai Xiaohua feel a little uncomfortable. But in the face of Tiffany's differences, because of their huge differences, he will not worry about the gap between the two people.
In communication, there is no utilitarianism or prejudice. It can be said that the two people are a very comfortable way of communication, and it is this comfortable and intimate communication that makes their hearts quickly approach and finally really come together.
Understand each other and work together.
Cai Xiaohua and Tiffany's love, whether family or life experience, they are very different, language barriers make them unable to communicate, but they still come together across all obstacles.
Cai Xiaohua lived in the countryside since he was a child, and that kind of life made him develop a down-to-earth character. Although Tiffany's family is much better than Cai Xiaohua's, there is no such person as Cai Xiaohua in her circle of friends. Perhaps it is the freshness brought by the experience that makes her want to know about Cai Xiaohua and his life.
Cai Xiaohua was born in the countryside, and Tiffany's enthusiasm warmed his inferiority complex. He never thought that he could have such an enviable love. They were attracted by each other's advantages.
However, the attraction between people is sometimes so inexplicable that they want to try something they don't have. After meeting a beautiful love, Cai Xiaohua also understood the gap between them, so he studied hard, narrowed the distance between himself and his girlfriend, and studied knowledge and English hard.
Tiffany is also trying to adapt to life in Cai Xiaohua. She has never felt the life in the countryside. When she returned to her hometown in Cai Xiaohua, she didn't feel any disgust. But to study hard and become a qualified "China daughter-in-law". Love means that they will change for each other and fight together for love.
Conclusion:
When you meet love, you should learn to start decisively, and don't hesitate all the time, otherwise you will miss the beautiful love because of hesitation. No matter what happens in life, you can't be impulsive. Only when you meet love, you need to be impulsive. If you take the first step hard, you may get a beautiful love.
Although family and language will separate you, it mainly depends on how the two sides can bridge it and whether you are willing to accept each other's shortcomings for love.
There is no absolute fit in the world. It takes a long time to get used to each other's habits in life. Don't be afraid of contradictions. The important thing is to see how you solve it. After a lot of difficulties, you will find that person is actually quite suitable.
Just like Cai Xiaohua and Tiffany, they only think about love and don't care about boundaries. They worked hard together and finally came together. It is because they have run in and are thoroughly familiar with each other that they really take each other to heart.