First of all, good study habits. The habit of active learning, the habit of completing the prescribed learning tasks on time, the habit of all-round development of all disciplines, the habit of not deviating from a subject, the habit of previewing, the habit of listening carefully, the habit of actively answering questions in class, the habit of thinking more, the habit of being good at asking questions, the habit of boldly asking questions, the habit of taking notes in class, the habit of reviewing after class, the habit of finishing homework on time, the habit of reviewing in stages, the habit of consciously cultivating creative thinking ability, and the habit of memorizing. Good writing and literacy habits, the habit of using reference books, the habit of asking questions to parents and teachers, the habit of reading aloud and reciting, and the habit of reading more.

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Secondly, a relaxed learning atmosphere.

The first is to create a good learning place for children. Family is not only a place to rest, but also one of the main places for children to study. Good learning is based on a quiet, noise-free and undisturbed learning environment. Although our home is small, when decorating the room, we still consider the children's learning environment as an important link. First, arrange a separate room for children to study and rest, so as not to interfere with TV and visitors' voices. When choosing the color of children's room, buying bed cabinets, learning desks and chairs, we should first listen to our daughter's ideas and try our best to make the room clean, beautiful and conform to the characteristics of girls. In particular, tables and chairs should be adjustable, the lighting should be soft, and the bookcase should be low and wide.

The second is to let children develop a good habit of loving learning. It is very important for parents to set an example and create a family atmosphere that loves learning and strives for progress. As parents, we should start from ourselves, let children integrate into a family atmosphere that loves learning from an early age, sprout a demand for spontaneous learning, and even form a conscious learning action that is difficult to buy. I am a teacher, and I have to prepare lessons at my desk every night. Her father works in an office and often works overtime at home at night to write materials. When my daughter was young, she just flipped through books at first and often pestered us to tell her stories. At this time, her father and I take time to tell her stories, no matter how busy we are at work, especially two or three stories before going to bed every day. Later, when she grew up, she was able to read by herself. Over time, she developed a good habit of reading. Now I go to Changle Road Cultural City once every two weeks to help her choose two or three books. Her bookshelf is almost full now. Of course, when she buys books, we will also guide her how to distinguish between intensive reading and extensive reading to satisfy her reading interest and improve her academic performance.

The third is to let children study in a harmonious family environment. Unity, equality and harmonious family relations are the basis of forming a learning environment. At the same time, don't let the child feel that learning is forced and a burden, but let her feel that learning is a very happy thing and learn in happiness.

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100 The notes of Peking University freshmen tutors are similar, and the descending order is as follows:

First, let children fall in love with reading.

Almost all parents of 65,438+000 freshmen in Peking University emphasize the need to cultivate their children's reading habits.

Chen Yiqun, the father of Shandong Experimental Middle School, wrote: "The way to make children smarter is not to make up lessons or increase homework, but to read them over and over again. A person who is addicted to books and learning, do you still use your efforts to teach people justice and reward efforts? " Shortly after the child was born, Chen held him to read the picture book. After attending kindergarten, he cooperated with the teacher to teach him to read. As children become interested in reading, they can read independently after entering primary school.

Chen Xiaoyun, the mother of Qian Sheng from Hangzhou No.14 Middle School, said that the Leifeng Tower had just been built in Hangzhou in the third grade of primary school, so she bought a book called Folk Tales of West Lake for her children. She was deeply attracted by the stories in the book and fell in love with reading. She often spends her rest days in the children's library.

Wang Kaiying, the father of Zi Wang of Jinshan Middle School in Shantou, Guangdong, said: "Most successful people like reading all their lives." In order to get Zi Wang into the habit of reading every day before entering primary school, Wang Kaiying started with Baby Pictorial and children's cartoons, and guided him to read widely according to the age characteristics of children in different periods. For a time, Shantou couldn't buy children's cartoons that Zi Wang liked very much. Wang Kaiying took advantage of his business trip to Longyan, went shopping at night, inquired from one newsstand to another, and finally bought several issues. A friend in the same trade said with emotion: "I am poor!" A large number of extracurricular reading makes Zi Wang have a wide range of knowledge, a solid foundation and a strong interest in learning.

Second, cultivate good work habits.

100 parents generally said that they did not pay too much attention to their children's learning. The reason is that they regard "cultivating good study habits as a major event" and "it's a trivial matter, and kindergartens and primary schools can cultivate good habits and save effort in the future".

Feng Xianliang, the father of Feng Meina in Beijing Niulanshan No.1 Middle School, said: "Listen attentively in class, do your homework after school, don't ask for advice in time, and write your homework neatly." These compulsory trainings lasted for more than a year at the beginning of children's schooling. During this period, parents try to stay with their children, or read books or newspapers, so that children can feel the rich scholarly atmosphere at home. Gradually, the children developed good study habits. The first thing after school is to do homework, which rarely requires parental supervision. This habit has been maintained until now.

Zheng Hui, the mother of affiliated high school of south china normal university Zeng Yihang, once read a sentence in a book edited by teacher Sun Yunxiao: "There are the following 10.

A basic study habit requires excellent academic performance. "This 10

The habit is: 1. Learning objectives; 2. preview in advance; 3. Listen carefully; 4. complete the homework; 5. Review in time; 6. Use learning tools correctly; 7. standardize writing; 8. Actively ask questions and discuss; 9. Read frequently; 10. insist.

Zheng Hui copied it down and asked the children to compare it one by one. Only a few of them can draw a "tick" at first. What is not drawn should be the target. For a long time, this paper was placed in front of the children's desks, and then 10 habits were marked with "√". Zheng Hui thinks that the most important study habit is the habit of doing homework. "As soon as the child is out of school, let him do his homework quietly in the bedroom. When he writes his homework, he can't just walk around. When he finishes, he can do what he likes. " If you have good study habits, you can ensure your play and work and rest. "

Third, always encourage

Every word of praise from parents is like a beam of sunshine, and appreciation education is the common understanding and consistent practice of these 100 parents.

Ye Xinping, the mother of Dong Ye of Zhongshan No.1 Middle School in Guangdong Province, said that when the child was in kindergarten, she overheard a lecture on "Appreciation Education" and was deeply inspired, so she implemented it on her son, and the effect was remarkable. Whenever her son is confused or his grades fluctuate, she encourages him and clearly tells him that "in the eyes of mother, you are the best, and mother believes you can do it". No matter what Dong Ye did, even if he did badly, even if his academic performance was not ideal, Ye Xinping never scolded him, and never said anything that hurt his self-esteem, such as, "Why are you so stupid when his grades are so good?" "Good children are boasted, but they don't' get better' as soon as they are boasted, but they must persistently believe that children can do it, and then be patient, patient and patient."

The parents of Toarey Yang from Shijiazhuang No.2 Middle School said that they never said "You are so stupid" to their children. "Even if we don't do well in the exam occasionally, we will encourage him and help him analyze the reasons. Our policy towards children is: as long as we don't give up hope and hard work, any failure is acceptable. "

Li Rong, the mother of Liu Zijian, a senior three student in Benxi, Liaoning, said that self-confidence is the prerequisite for children's success and success, and encouragement is the most important aspect to cultivate children's self-confidence. "When encouraging children, don't praise him too much. Praise the child to convince the child that it is not intentional by the parents when inadvertently. "

Fourth, guide children to treat teachers correctly.

Many parents will encounter children complaining about their teachers. At this moment, the parents of Peking University freshmen are trying to persuade their children to adapt to the teacher, but don't simply deny their feelings.

Wang Zi of Shantou Jinshan Middle School once went home to speak ill of the school teacher. His father attaches great importance to this. According to his story, it is clear to tell him that it is wrong for the teacher to do that, but in the end, it will be emphasized to him that the teacher's original intention is to improve the students, and no teacher will intentionally hurt the students, thus maintaining the prestige of each teacher in the eyes of children.

Wang Wen, the father of Wang Yiwen in Xuzhou No.1 Middle School, Jiangsu Province, said, "Always speak well of teachers, so that children can admire teachers, like classmates and love the school. For children's views on teachers, analyze objectively, recognize children's feelings at the first time, and then try to analyze the rationality of teachers' work. Education is no small matter, and teachers' accidental actions have dampened children's enthusiasm for learning. As parents, if you don't unload your negative emotions in time, the consequence will inevitably be to face a depressed child.

5. Don't go to cram school unless the child offers.

Do you want to send your children to cram school? Many parents are struggling with this. Quite a few parents of Peking University freshmen mentioned this problem in their family education notes. They generally believe that children should not be allowed to enroll in cram schools unless they ask for it themselves.

Tianjin Miao's parents said: "Our educational philosophy is that physical and mental health comes first, so children have basically never attended remedial classes related to their studies. After the children finish the homework assigned by the teacher, they can play casually. " Zhou Wenbiao, the father of Zhou Yue, a middle school affiliated to Peking University, said: "Other children go to this cram school, but my son doesn't. He just digested and deepened what he learned at school. " The mother of Hefei 168 middle school in the summer said that they adhered to the principle of "study easily and have fun", did not enroll in extracurricular remedial classes, and did not advocate overtime, but wanted to use their time efficiently. Stone of No.5 Middle School in Xiangyang, Hubei Province

"I haven't been to cram school since I was a child. I'm not interested. I play at home and do my homework. "

Six, many companies

Companionship is the best nutrition. Parents of freshmen in Peking University are willing to spend time with their children. Some parents give up many high-paying job opportunities in other places in order to accompany their children.

Ling Liping, the mother of Zhu Zhiyang in Changsha Changjun Middle School, is a teacher. When her son was one year old, she was invited to join a school in Guangdong with a monthly salary of 3,000 yuan. Her income at that time was 800 yuan every month. But for the sake of the children, she gave up.

As a teacher, she has seen too many children neglect companionship because their parents are making money outside, which leads to problems in values, emotional satisfaction and behavior habits.

Zhangyan, the mother of Idy from North No.4 Middle School, said that in order to take care of her children, she gave up her job far from home, and her salary tripled. "

It is good to have more money, but what about children's morality, life and study? Once a child is abandoned, there will be no chance in the near future, and parents will feel guilty for life. I chose what I think is' maximum benefit'. "

Li Rong, the mother of Liu Zijian, a senior three student in Benxi, Liaoning, said that self-confidence is the prerequisite for children's success and success, and encouragement is the most important aspect to cultivate children's self-confidence. "When encouraging children, don't praise him too much. Praise the child to convince the child that it is not intentional by the parents when inadvertently. "

Seven, equal communication

Many parents encounter the problem that children don't talk to their parents at home, but talk to their classmates at school. In contrast, many parents of Peking University students mentioned that the relationship with their children is not father and son, mother and child, but brothers, sisters and friends. The reason for this is to always communicate with children in an "equal tone" and "democratic attitude". And strive to be a parent who keeps up with the trend of the times and has a common language with children.

Ren, the mother of Ou Tianxiang from Chengdu No.7 Middle School, said, "We often talk to our children. If children tell them what not to do, we are not angry, listen more and talk less, and help him analyze the cause and effect when appropriate. When the child thinks that chatting with us is not threatened by punishment, he will talk about everything. "

Cao's mother said that when her son entered junior high school, she reminded herself that she should treat him as an adult and respect his feelings and privacy. I remember when my son was in the first grade, Xi Niu accidentally saw him writing a poem, so he took a copy of Selected Poems on Western Love from his school days and said to his son, "I'll lend you my book. I am optimistic about it! " After reading it, my son took the initiative to discuss the poems and emotions in the book with her. In order to communicate with her son at the same level, she also strengthened her study. For example, her son loves football, and I gradually understand a little. I also borrowed comic books that my son likes to read, and we will discuss them after reading them.

Eight, parents study hard, and children make progress every day.

It is better to set an example than to preach the truth. Many parents of Peking University students think that "parents study hard and children make progress every day".

Zeng Jiarong, the father of Zeng Xingwei of Beijing No.11 School, said: "We never play cards at home, nor get drunk. We must work hard, always be honest with others, be responsible for society, and give necessary sympathy to the weak. Some seemingly ordinary things have really played a subtle role. "

Hao Huisi, the father of Hao Xintong in Qiqihar Experimental Middle School, said: "At night, a family of three often study in their own rooms. Under such persistence, the child's mother passed the two exams of national certified public accountant and national certified tax accountant, and the child was admitted to Peking University. "

Wang Jinnan's parents are in Xinyang Senior High School in Henan Province. As long as their children are studying at home, they will never watch TV or play computer games. In those years when my daughter was studying, my father with a junior college degree got a master's degree from a famous university, and changed from a high school political teacher to a first-class judge. My mother was promoted from Fan Sheng to Master of Laws, and from a rural middle school teacher to a third-class prosecutor.