After reading The Art of Language, I feel 1 speak. This is a verb-object phrase. Say, it is a verb. Words are both objects and nouns. Life exists in this society, and it is inextricably linked with people in the society, and this is largely an activity to maintain this communication and contact through speaking. No matter what role a person plays in society and what position he is in, language has always been one of the tools to maintain good interaction in interpersonal relationships.
Language is the bridge of information communication between the two sides and the channel of ideological and emotional communication between the two sides. Language occupies the most basic and important position in interpersonal communication. As a way of expression, language can express all kinds of information and colorful thoughts and feelings with different time, occasions and objects. The key to speaking politely lies in respecting each other and self-humility.
Throughout the ages, anyone who doesn't know how to speak can't achieve great things, but those who can do it must have their unique abilities in language. A just right word can change a person's fate. Grasp the occasion and opportunity of speaking, understand the essence of speaking, understand the way of speaking, and stand out smoothly. This is the art of speaking. This book tells me how to cultivate my oral English and how to improve my oral English. I can get many ways to talk about the 5,000-year-old civilization, including not only etiquette, the golden mean and the way of peace, but also humorous solutions to difficulties.
Communication plays an important role in our daily life. Speaking is a way for people to express their wishes, and it is also an art. Naturally, there are certain stresses. Throughout the ages, anyone who doesn't know how to speak can't achieve great things; People who can achieve something must have their unique essence and true meaning in language. China people attach great importance to the art of language while pursuing the way of being a man. Zhu Ziqing, a famous essayist in China, once said: "Life is nothing but words, except words. The so-called worldly wisdom is half-spoken. "
The so-called "one sentence makes people laugh, one sentence makes people jump". Speaking ability embodies a person's connotation and quality. What an artistic person says is often well-founded, accurate in speech, moderate in praise and criticism, with room for advancement and retreat, which can cultivate others' sentiments, embody personal talents and improve their social status. A just right word can change a person's fate; An inappropriate word can also ruin a person's life. Therefore, it is very important for him to master the speaking skills.
In the workplace, everyone has something to say to colleagues and leaders every day; In the family, everyone has to communicate with his wife, husband, parents and children every day. A word is firmly remembered in the child's heart, affecting his life and achieving his life. When socializing, you must contact friends and customers, win the trust of customers without a word, and sign millions of businesses with a stroke of a pen? What to say, how to say it, what to say, what not to say and when to say it are all asked by the university. These are all the speaking skills we need to master. In the modern society that pays attention to interpersonal communication, the art of speaking is also a successful art. In ancient times, in order to safeguard the dignity of the State of Qi, Yan Zi made the State of Chu cleverly counter the monarch and ministers of the State of Chu. Lin Xiangru and Qin Ting argued for harmony; The war of words between Zhuge Liang and Confucianism promoted the formation of the Sun-Liu alliance and saved Liu Bei's country. Today, Premier Zhou gave a wonderful answer to foreign journalists. China people walk with their heads down because they are going uphill. Andersen skillfully answered the rich, turning the "hat" and "head" laughed at by passers-by into a sharp satire on the ignorant aristocrats. The poet Goethe's wonderful answer to make way for fools. All this shows the importance of the art of speaking. Of course, these are actually not difficult. The hardest thing is that these things are not ready-made. Standards can be referenced, and no one will give all these experiences to each other, but understand them by themselves. This book taught me how to speak and even how to be a man.
If you want to improve your eloquence, you must learn language skills that can adapt to different people and different conversation occasions. When talking with people, mastering the proper vocabulary can not only lead them by the nose, but also refuse others' demands, or give them a silent counterattack in silence.
In addition to cultivating the ability to speak, we should also master the ability closely related to speaking, such as observing ability, grasping the opportunity to speak, listening between the lines, learning to listen and so on. Observation should also pay attention to the specific analysis of specific situations, and pay attention to the discretion of speaking according to personal acceptance. You can't just joke. I saw a sentence on Weibo before: "The familiarity of two people depends on the obscene degree of their chat." This metaphor may be a bit inappropriate, but it is true that the more familiar friends are, the more open they are when chatting. In fact, if you look at those glib people around us, you can easily find that most of them are knowledgeable and knowledgeable. In their interpersonal communication, their unpretentious, tolerant, easy-going and reasonable way of talking is very popular whenever and wherever. Even criticism is more acceptable to the other party because of the effective conversation skills. In the process of daily communication with others, we should flexibly use the methods taught in the book, constantly accumulate practical experience, form our own unique language style, and express our opinions in a way that people can understand.
"Appellation is the first key to open the door to communication. Whether they are old friends or new friends, they should call each other as soon as they meet. Everyone wants to be respected by others, and people value their position. Calling a person with a title his title is a great respect for him. Names only apply to people who are closely related. If you have an unusual relationship with people with titles, it will be more cordial to call them by their first names, but it will be more appropriate to call them by their first names in public and social occasions. " This passage gave me a deep inspiration. I feel the same way. Once, as a staff member, I called my friend's name at a more formal school-level activity: "Fat chicken!" " At this time, the teacher present also heard it and got a fright. I immediately realized that I had said something wrong, and I really wanted to find a hole to get into. Afterwards, I soon realized my mistake and lost the art of speaking because of the impulse of consciousness. You really shouldn't.
There are many arts of speaking, and I can't list them all. However, this book not only taught me the art of speaking, the art of speaking Chinese, but also the truth of being a man.
Reflections on the Art of Language 2 "The Art of Speaking" introduces that China people's highest attitude towards speaking is forgetting words, but if Zen "teaches" people to "hang their mouths on the wall", they still have to speak. Secondly, be cautious, taciturn and speak slowly. There are differences between these three things: be careful when you speak, and naturally you will talk less and make fewer mistakes; Silence means talking less, which is a deep or quiet character or moral character; Speaking too slowly means that you can't speak, which is a kind of upright character or moral character. These two kinds are mostly generated. The third is rhetoric or rhetoric. A sincere gentleman, the power of personality shines on all darkness; He doesn't need to talk much, and he doesn't need to embellish his speech. I only know how to dress up, my mouth is full of hype, and my stomach is full of contradictions. That is the so-called villain; He is too good at dressing up, which is unbelievable. His tricks are always exposed. One day. We are ordinary people in between; Without that great courage, you won't forget yourself. We just can't ignore the world. We look at the time, the place, and the people who modify our words under the condition of courtesy and interest. There is no strength here, only wit; Real power can't be gained by decoration.
I benefited a lot from reading this book. The reason why society develops so fast is that all this comes from the communication between people, from which a lot of information can be obtained. We live in this society, and we have to communicate with others. If the language is used improperly, it will leave a bad impression on the other party and even lead to misunderstanding. So we should master the skills of speaking well and turn it into an art.
Speaking is an art, which is particularly important in this ever-changing and rapidly developing era. Although talking is not everything, it is absolutely impossible not to talk. In fact, people have been talking and interacting with others all their lives, thus enriching their lives.
As an outreach worker, I should master the art of speaking. Speech can reflect a person's charm, talent and personality. When reading this book, I thought of Brother Fang in our department. It is not difficult to see that he is a good language user when communicating with him at work or in life. If you encounter awkward situations when communicating with him, he is good at rounding up and easing the atmosphere. He is also good at using words. For example, when he asked you what you think about this matter, you said a bad idea. He said not only how bad your idea is, but also how practical it is. He would tactfully say, "Your idea is not bad, but it would be more perfect if you could modify it a little, just like this, don't you think?" He skillfully makes you accept his ideas, and his language will guide you to think about which way is better.
Originally, I thought I was talkative and got along well with people. However, after reading this book, I found that I was not satisfactory in many aspects, and there were still many shortcomings. For example, speaking is not as simple as what others tell you to say, but to experience, see and think for yourself. How can we speak without loopholes, how to grasp the situation and not let ourselves be in a passive state? That's all that matters. We are always making the same mistake, that is, if we talk too much, we will lose it. In fact, talking too much doesn't necessarily mean it's gone. The key is how we speak and how to master the skills of speaking. Even if we say a lot, others will gladly accept it.
A person who speaks casually must be irresponsible. More words are not as good as less words, less words are not as good as more words, and more words are not as good as more knowledge. A thousand words are not as impressive as a fact. Many words are symbols of vanity, because those who are generous in words must be stingy in action. Don't say anything if you have morality; People with faith don't say much; There is no need to say anything if you have a plan. Too much talk is tiring, too much talk is thin, and too little talk is insulting.
When you are talking to a person, if you just talk about what you want, but you don't know the other person's views and interests, you can't observe the other person's reaction to your words, you have any questions, and you can't relieve the other person's psychological crux in time, then you can't be regarded as an easy-going person.
People who can talk can get along well with all kinds of people, get a lot of information from others and learn a lot. This is my goal.
In addition, I searched several classic sentences, which I found very incisive. We should study hard.
After reading The Art of Language, I feel very anxious. Speak slowly.
In a word, three winters are warm, and in June, bad words hurt people. Recently, a one-or two-sentence essay, The Art of Speaking, has been highly praised by many people. Some people posted it on their own blogs, and some property companies posted it in the elevator as a warm reminder, which used to be an artistic guide for many people to speak.
In an emergency, if you can calm down and think, and then calmly make things clear, you will leave a stable and unexcited impression on the listener, thus increasing others' trust in you.
What's the big deal, humorously
In particular, some well-meaning tricks, told in a joke way, will not make listeners feel stiff, they will not only accept your tricks in disappointment, but also enhance their sense of closeness.
Things that are out of control, be careful.
Learning to talk to children is the first step to communicate with children without stagnation. Children don't listen to us, often because the expression of our good wishes can only cause children's ill feelings; Every time I teach myself to be self-righteous, I push my child into a corner, or let my child develop bad habits.
For those things that you have no control over, if you don't say it, others will think you are hypocritical; If you can say it strictly, people will think you are a trustworthy person.
Don't talk nonsense about what didn't happen.
People who make trouble are the most boring people. If you never speculate or talk nonsense, others will think you are mature, educated and conscientious.
Parents often say: "No matter what I say, children just won't listen!" "In fact, this is completely wrong! It's not that children don't listen, but that parents don't have the language to communicate with their children. The first lesson of being a competent parent is to learn to talk to children.
Learning to talk to children is the first step to communicate with children without stagnation. Children don't listen to us, often because the expression of our good wishes can only cause children's ill feelings; Every time I teach myself to be self-righteous, I push my child into a corner, or let my child develop bad habits.
Expressing different meanings to children, what kind of expressions and words you choose has a great influence on children. In the process of communicating with your child, whether you make a request, give an answer, or negotiate with him to reach a compromise, the sentences you use may make your child more willing to help each other and more arrogant, but they may also make him feel depressed and determined.
Every mother's love for her children is priceless!
There are many ways to think and communicate about language art. Oral, written, physical, etc. Oral communication should be the most common and important way of communication. In fact, we communicate and talk every day. Talk to classmates and teachers while studying. In life, talk to your parents and elders more. At work, you should talk to your colleagues and customers ... As the saying goes, a good word warms three winters, but a word hurts in June. So what can I say to make everyone recognize you and understand you? By chance, I found this book at my friend's house. Knowing how to speak well and say good things is actually an art.
The art of speaking, through 35 chapters, tells us some skills that should be paid attention to in the process of interpersonal communication. The truth in the book is easy to understand, but often these easy-to-understand truths are ignored in our lives. How to say it is appropriate is a person's skill. However, whether we can learn this art well or not depends on our own study, practice and experience.
The book says, smile when you talk or meet. We can directly understand the meaning of smile, and also know the comfort and kindness that smile brings to others. But why do we always bring trouble to the people around us when we are in a bad mood and bring the worst mood to the closest relatives?
When chatting with others, I suddenly talked about what the other person was most interested in. Topic. If we want to make friends, we should enthusiastically influence others and talk about things of mutual interest. This will not only make each other feel comfortable, but also make you become good friends soon.
Don't argue with others. Why do you have to prove a person wrong? Why not save him some face? He didn't ask for your opinion, and he doesn't want your opinion. Why did you argue with him? Remember, try to avoid confrontation in front of others.
Praise others. In the same sentence, praise and irony, people often only like to listen to praise. If there is only one way to persuade others to do anything, it is to praise them, inspire their enthusiasm and make them willing to do it.
Of course, there are many other skills mentioned in the book, but I believe that as long as we master these methods, our interpersonal skills will make great progress. As long as we remember these methods, you will bid farewell to timidity and inferiority, and bid farewell to yourself who even hesitates to speak.