Or everyone is talking about how good one person is, and another person says, "Look at you two, you only see the surface, but behind …"
You may have encountered this kind of scene countless times? How can I say it properly and go on? Decent is worth seeing.
This book was compiled by the Japanese careful investigation Committee. In order to find out what everyone can do, it only takes a little effort to improve interpersonal relationships.
The Committee surveyed 65,438+0,000 people from all walks of life in Japan between the ages of 20 and 50, and selected materials from those who are very considerate and concerned about others. After strict screening and sorting, with lovely and gentle illustrations, this book was finally formed.
First, how to properly refuse
I am a person who is not good at refusing. As long as others want me, they will try their best to help, and sometimes they will make themselves particularly tired and unhappy.
It takes a lot of effort, and sometimes the effect is not good, hurting people and hurting themselves. Faced with this situation, I am very sad. What should we do?
1. If you can't do it, refuse decisively. "You can't help me, I'm sorry!"
2. Be tactful when you refuse. When you are straightforward, you can't let others down. You can say "I'm really sorry", "thank you" and so on.
3. If you can't participate in the multi-person activities, you can tell the organizer separately and explain the reasons for not going after the response is enthusiastic.
Second, positive and optimistic social interaction.
As the saying goes, things are often unsatisfactory. Perhaps the traditional culture of China requires people to be modest, so listening to many people is very depressing and self-abased.
It's tiring to talk to such people, and I'm more pessimistic in such a circle. How to make yourself and people around you become positive and optimistic? Here are some suggestions.
1. Give each other more positive responses. "Oh, really!" "That's it!" "I can understand everything you say." After listening to what others said, I nodded slowly.
2. When you don't know how to make others happy, think about what others did and said to make you happy, and then do it in a different name and in a different way.
3. When the other party gets unsatisfactory results, then we praise the process of doing ta, which places are worth learning and which states have achieved good results.
Third, the etiquette of "money"
Money is for everyone. Sometimes you need money to do things, but at this moment you don't have enough money on hand and have to borrow it from others. Because you get what you pay for.
People can't stand without faith! At this time, we have to be a man of our word and agree when to pay back the money.
When friends and classmates play together, in order to be happy, it is best not to involve the issue of salary or related topics. If there is a big gap, there will be cracks.
When everyone gets together to implement AA treatment, if there is drinking and singing, when others don't spend money,