Uncle Wen/Lu
one
Lao Zhang is one of my most admired classmates. Since we went to college, he has appeared in front of everyone with a ruthless crush on Excellence.
He plays the piano well and speaks English fluently. When the training class was not as popular as it is now, he taught himself Japanese by tape recorder. More importantly, Lao Zhang is particularly handsome. He often presides over the major award ceremonies of the school and has numerous fans (you said irritating, not irritating).
Real quality people don't just label people.
At that time, because of the existence of Lao Zhang, the whole class felt pressure. In the evening, the housekeeper turned off the lights, and everyone was reading at night. No one ever goes to bed before Lao Zhang. The next morning, everyone stood outside the library in droves, for fear of missing a book and being thrown further by Lao Zhang.
Later, in a bedroom conversation, we talked about some of our little privacy. Some people say that he has stolen chestnuts from others before; Some people say that he had sex with a girl before and was rejected; In the end, Lao Zhang is the only one left. Everyone else pricked up their ears to hear shocking things about him. We don't know yet.
As a result, Lao Zhang hesitated for a long time and told us that he secretly went to get a tattoo. But he was afraid that others would not accept it, so he never told us that tattoos were also carefully tattooed on the side ribs.
We were all at a loss at that time, and no one could believe that such a thing happened to Lao Zhang.
two
He actually wanted to get a tattoo a long time ago, but he was afraid to do it. In front of his parents, his good son status does not allow him to do so; In front of his classmates, his academic status with excellent academic performance does not allow him to do so.
At that time, what was the concept of a tattoo on a person? You are a rogue when you walk on the road, and strangers will never come near you. The elders and relatives at home can't wait to knock you down and reincarnate; In addition, finding a job is limited and falling in love is affected. Stand in front of the bank and smoke a cigarette. People may think you are robbing the bank.
In short, people with tattoos are not good people!
One of our favorite things to do is to look at a person, or just contact this person for a few days, and start to stereotype and label this person, and immediately classify him in our circle of friends.
We say that he is a slut and likes to make up. We say this person is so green that he even likes to pay attention to you. You said he was a gossip. In any case, this person's dress, words and deeds are printed in your mind in the form of labels early. However, many times, this judgment of people is not comprehensive or even biased.
Psychologically speaking, to understand a person, we should start from his heart. And what we see at first sight is often only the surface.
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I once saw a video on Weibo, in which a group of squatting Americans were sitting in the waiting room of the cinema, all with big arm tattoos and wearing black jackets, typical gangsters.
Then the first couple appeared in the camera. When the man saw that everyone had left, he took his girlfriend and turned away. The second time, a young girl came in with a popcorn in her hand. She walked past her seat, but didn't sit down. She looked around for a long time and finally left. ...
In just a few minutes, a dozen people came in and out of the camera, until the last time, a little boy and his mother came in. The mother instinctively held the child to her side, but the child didn't care about the tattooed man at the scene and went straight to the seat. Then the little boy's mother sat down with him.
At this time, the staff who recorded the video walked up to the two and told the mother and son that they were the only audience who didn't leave because there were a group of tattooed men sitting in the cinema.
In the movie "Harry Potter", Harry's uncle abused him from childhood, refused to let Harry eat with them and let him live in their bedroom. His words were mean and extremely contemptuous. Why do they do this, not because they have a problem with magic, but because they are afraid of their identity as "fools", which is different from that of the son of Harry Potter wizards. That's why hatred is used to fill this gap.
four
There are too many such things in life.
A woman who wears * * and likes smoking must be a bitch; A man who often chats with women is definitely a playboy; A husband who can cook and be gentle with his wife is "afraid of his wife"; A person who stays out all night and is alone can basically conclude that his feelings are fishy.
It is easy for us to use our differences to label others. A maverick in life is not necessarily excellent, but he must be strong. Because he has to put up with too much attention from others.
On the other hand, prejudice is not only for others, but also for ourselves, because when we label others, we are often warning ourselves what to do. In the end, you are actually tied behind your back.
Wearing clothes is low-grade, for fear that others will look down upon it; Marry and marry the poor, afraid that others will say that they have a bad eye; If you send a circle of friends, you still have to worry about where you will expose your inferiority.
Never label, what you know and how you live are your life, and have nothing to do with others. Other people's lives are their own, not yours. The label is a gap. Once it appears, it will never cross your heart.
Everyone has advantages and disadvantages, and the disadvantages in your eyes may be the advantages in others' eyes. People with real qualities are tolerant. Be able to treat each individual's differences peacefully and explore the beauty in everyone with appreciation. Whether you are gay or single; Whether he is a Christian or an atheist, he will gladly accept it. Time is the most important thing when people get along with each other. If we arbitrarily label others according to some appearances, the feelings we can harvest will be rough.