Recently, I saw the book "Disappointed with Anger" in the library, which aroused my great interest. After reading this book, I was deeply touched.

In beautiful Africa, there are many kinds of wild animals, and wild horses are one of them. The number of deaths of wild horses is high every year. According to the investigation, it is not man-made hunting. What is the reason? Several college students came to the place where African wild horses lived to investigate. It turns out that an animal named vampire bat likes to lie on the calf of wild horses, cut a small mouth with sharp teeth and have a good meal. But did the wild horse really bleed to death? According to the survey of students, the blood absorbed by vampire bats can't cause blood loss to wild horses. How did the wild horse die? They observed it for a long time. It turns out that when the vampire bat sucks blood, the wild horse feels something on his leg, so he kicks his leg hard and wants to get rid of this little thing. But bats hold fast, so they don't leak if they don't suck. Wild horses are crazy, the more useless they are, the more bats they recruit, so wild horses die of excessive running fatigue.

In fact, wild horses ignore bats and let them suck, so they won't die. But it was because of this little thing that he got angry and lost his life.

The same is true of life, and good people also have temper. The difference is that people have the ability to control their temper and anger. Don't lose your happy mood because of a little thing, don't disrupt your life rhythm because of a little thing, and don't damage your health because of a little thing.

However, in the endless work-study program, many people often get angry and lose their minds because of trivial matters. People who are too obsessed with trivial matters and care too much about irrelevant disputes will be easily eaten by many small moths like a big tree.

Once, a one-armed beggar came to a family and asked them for money. But the hostess didn't give money immediately, but asked the man to move a pile of stones in front of the house to the back. The one-armed beggar was very angry. Isn't it difficult for people like you? The hostess saw his mind, so she picked up a few bricks in one hand and walked quickly to the back of the house, saying, Isn't one hand the same? The beggar was speechless. So he began to move bricks. Time passed by, and finally, a few hours later, he finally moved out. The hostess handed him a towel and gave him 20 yuan. He said thank you excitedly. The hostess just smiled faintly and said: Nothing, you earned it yourself, and he immediately cried. Ten years later, the one-armed man became the president of the largest company.

The best way to control anger is to endure, not endure. Conscious forbearance and rational surrender are not retreat, incompetence or abandonment of principles, but a strategy, a wisdom and a realm. Only those who have insight into the world, a clear mind and a clear understanding of right and wrong and contradictions can truly endure when they may be angered and truly face life calmly. All kinds of contradictions and challenges in work have the wisdom of forbearance, and to achieve the state of forbearance, it is of course necessary to practice, and life itself, its positive experience and side lessons are the flint of practice.

Anger is better than disappointment (2)

This evening, I lay in bed and finished reading the book "Anger is better than disappointment". This book tells us 50 things we don't have to care about in life. The most important thing for a person is to learn to become strong, and not to haggle over trifles all day. This will eventually hurt yourself, stupid people will only get angry, and smart people will live up to expectations.

Everyone wants to be respected, valued and welcomed, but sometimes it is inevitable to be ridiculed, insulted and rejected. Life has given us both happiness and painful experiences. This is life, and this is the life we need to face.

Many times, we are petty, haggle over the vanity of fame and fortune, and put the blame on others. Why don't we think, if we are good enough, will others sneer at you? The best way to make yourself happy is to live up to your expectations, do better, double your growth in personality, knowledge, wisdom and strength, and become stronger, then many problems will be solved. This so-called anger is worse than disappointment.

Anger is better than living up to expectations (3)

In my spare time, I carefully read the book "Angry is better than disappointing" again, and I learned a lot about life. A few days ago, whenever I met a problem I didn't understand, I got up the courage to continue doing it as soon as I thought of it. Whenever I am most depressed, I will think of it and cheer up again. Whenever I encounter blows and setbacks, it seems to tell me that if I fail, maybe you can grow faster. Rereading Anger is Better than Disappointment, I feel as if I have grown up a little, that is, I have grown up ideologically. This time, I want to read it carefully and record my feelings after reading it at any time.

The philosopher Kant said: Anger is to punish yourself for the mistakes of others. There is no mountain of fire in the world that you can't climb. Maybe life has given us too many hardships, family, work and love, but who can say that he will not encounter these in his life? Instead of torturing yourself with pain over and over again, why not try to bypass the pain and be a smart person? Who wants to be such a stupid person?

Life is created by oneself, and mood is also created by oneself. Don't get angry over trifles. It is better to be angry than to live up to expectations. You can work by attracting anger, so as to live the color of life.

1, if you can't change the world, then change yourself;

You can't change many things in the world, only you can change them! Everyone wants to live a happier and better life in this world. It is wise to change yourself, not the outside world. You know, life is created by yourself. When you can't change the outside world and the status quo, the only thing you can change is yourself.

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If you have been trying to change yourself, one day, you will suddenly find that the world has suddenly changed because of your change-this is a wonderful life of great wisdom. Your life is the only creation in your life, which cannot be erased and rebuilt. Even if there is only one day to live, live that day beautifully and nobly. Always keep this sentence in mind: life is created by yourself. If you can't change the world, don't be angry, please change yourself. Change your thoughts and actions and your life and the world will be different.

2. Don't get angry over trifles;

Life is short. Don't worry about trifles in life. It's not worth wasting your time and energy on these things. Disraeli, a famous British writer, once said: Life is short for those who are angry about trifles. If you really understand the profound meaning of this sentence, then you won't be angry about some trivial things that are not worth mentioning.

3. If the mountain doesn't come, I will go there;

If you cannot change others, then change yourself; If you can't change things, change your attitude towards them. Otherwise, you belong to people who have a hard time with yourself, and you belong to people who are not smart. A philosopher put it well:

If you can't be a road, make a path;

If you can't be the sun, be a star.

It is not the size that determines success or failure, but being the best you can be. Doing the best means changing. We can't change many things, but we can change our hearts and emotions. Life is your own drawing board, you need to color it yourself, don't cover everything with one color; Learn to change, in order to draw brilliant. If you can't cross the mountain, you can cross it.

4. Do your own thing, regardless of what others say;

The ancients once said: I can't do whatever I want, but I have a clear conscience. Why should we care too much about what others say and think? People's thinking, environment and cultivation are different, and their methods and perspectives will be different. How can we understand all your actions? All you have to do is realize what your reason says and what your conscience thinks. In other words, as long as you have a clear conscience, you can. I am only responsible for myself, even if Gua Tian is suspected.

We can listen to other people's comments with our ears, but we must never walk around at will. Worrying about what others think of you all day long can only be that nothing is difficult in the world, and nothing is impossible to a willing heart. Life is like a spring of grass, and it is gone with a flick of a finger. Why care too much? Worried too much? Go your own way and let others talk!

5. Success is self-created;

Don't depend on others for everything. In this world, the person you can rely on most is yourself. In most cases, the only person who can save you is yourself.

6. There is no hurdle in life;

Yes, there is no hurdle in life. Any difficulty will pass, bite your teeth and you will see a new dawn to meet you. Don't regret and suffer in the shadow. There is nothing in life that can't be crossed, only something that can't be crossed.

7. Don't waste energy on trifles;

If you argue with people who are not in the same heavyweight, you will waste a lot of resources, lower the expectations of others, and inadvertently improve the level of the other party.

If you want your life to be full of happiness and success, then carefully weigh the direction you should work hard. When you know where you should concentrate, success will not be too far away.