Investigation report on college students' love: 1 In colleges and universities, the average age of college students is about 20 years old, and they have become mature in sexual psychology and physiology. However, the rules and regulations of colleges and universities in China clearly stipulate that college students can get married. Therefore, college students' falling in love is no longer a secretive "underground job" in the past, but a vigorous youth experience. However, how to establish a correct view of love has always been a problem we have been discussing. In order to better guide students, I conducted a survey on students' love problems through questionnaires.
Keywords college students; Love concept; questionnaire
When students bid farewell to the tense and youthful middle school and enter the vibrant university campus with romantic longing for a new life, love is no longer a secretive "underground job" in the past, but a vigorous youth experience. However, to experience love is not only romance and happiness, but also confusion, pain and even regret. What is true love? How should we treat sex? What kind of person is suitable for you? How can we have love without regrets? How to harvest and grow in love? How to deal with the relationship between study and love? These are all questions that we college students should think about. Similarly, as their tutor, the head teacher, how to guide students correctly is a problem that we should study. In order to master the first-hand information, I conducted a questionnaire survey among10/kloc-0 sophomores (including 20 girls) in our department and got some data.
I. Analysis of survey results
(1) Have you ever been in love?
The survey results show that 67.7% people have had love experience, which shows that college students' love has become a common phenomenon on campus. Therefore, we should do a good job in education, guide students to establish a correct view of love, and ask students, "Are you ready to fall in love?" Do a good job of prevention in advance.
(2) Do you think falling in love is a compulsory course for college students?
The survey results show that half of the students think it is a compulsory course, and some students think that they should enjoy pure campus love in college without affecting their studies, but they should pay attention to controlling themselves. It shows that many students are still open-minded, and have formed a certain concept of love, which also shows students' yearning for love. In fact, it is not a compulsory course for college students to fall in love, but learning to fall in love is a compulsory course in life.
(3) What do you think is the reason why college students fall in love?
The survey results show that only 33.7% of the students really like it, which shows that the feelings in this period are immature, uncertain and confused. The motivation of some college students is not love itself, but to make up for their inner emptiness, loneliness or conformity. Therefore, it is particularly important to guide a correct view of love in this period.
Do you think college students' falling in love will affect their studies?
The survey results show that the self-control ability of college students has been strengthened. Most students can treat emotional problems rationally and distinguish the relationship between love and study. They will not relax their studies because of love. They know that learning is the main pillar of college students' values. This should be a good phenomenon and worth carrying forward.
(5) Do you think it is right for boys to spend money for girls in college students' love?
The survey results show that the old practice of boys paying for girls is out of date, and most students adopt AA system when they are in love, which on the one hand reflects the progress of the current concept of love, and on the other hand highlights the self-reliance and self-reliance of women in the new era.
Do you think your parents will support you to fall in love in college?
The survey results show that parents are tolerant of their children's love affairs during college. Due to the busy work of white-collar workers in modern society, it is an indisputable fact that there are more and more "leftover men" and "leftover women" who have not solved their lifelong problems at marriageable age. Therefore, in the face of college students' love, some parents no longer blindly oppose their children's love as before. Some parents even support their children's college love, and some parents can give their children correct guidance. Of course, there are also parents who object. They think it is unrealistic for children to fall in love during college.
(7) How to treat college students' love and cohabitation?
The survey results show that with the progress of society, the concept of sex is also undergoing a revolution, and the traditional concept of marriage and love is facing great challenges. Pupils are precocious, middle school students are popular with puppy love, and college students begin to live together. According to the psychological survey data of college students published by relevant institutions, 70% of college students do not object to cohabitation before marriage, which is basically consistent with the survey data. Cohabitation among college students is becoming a worldwide problem. Of course, it is normal for college students to have sexual impulses easily, which conforms to the law of human sexual physiology and psychological development, but in any case, we should carefully consider the issue of cohabitation, because it will cast a shadow over our future marriage life.
Second, the characteristics of college students' love
(A) Love because of emptiness
Entering the university campus, many college students can't adapt to life and study in the university, because life and study in the university seem relaxed and uncontrolled. Accustomed to the high-pressure life in high school, they can't adapt to it at once, can't find the motivation and goal of learning, and muddle along, so they transfer their psychology to love to kill time and seek happiness.
(B) the love motive deviation
The motivation of some college students is not love itself, but to make up for their inner emptiness, loneliness or conformity. This kind of students seldom combine love behavior with marriage when choosing a spouse, and lack a sense of responsibility. There are also a few students who, in order to show their charm, associate with several opposite-sex students at the same time, engage in multi-angle love, and are not even sure about their relationship. Immoral polyandry can easily lead to disputes, misfortunes and disasters, as well as contradictions and tragedies, which will eventually have adverse consequences for all parties. There are also some students who often consider whether the other party can help them in the process of study, life, future employment and development when choosing an object. The deviation of many students' love motives in this period can be summarized as comparison, utility, conformity and showing off.
Curiosity is heavier
College students are in the late adolescence, their physiological and psychological functions are basically mature, full of energy and eager to communicate with the opposite sex. Especially in the relaxed environment of university, they are very curious about the opposite sex and yearn for love, but their purpose is often unclear. Therefore, on the issue of love, they only stay in the curiosity and desire on the surface of love, and did not anticipate the consequences and development of love. I only care about what I once had, and I don't care about the time.
(D) the moral concept of desalination
With the deepening of reform and opening up and the introduction of western ideas, the concept of "sexual openness" has also penetrated into the minds of Chinese college students. Many students ignore the traditional moral concept, are curious about "sex" and make bold attempts, so cohabitation naturally happens, but they often face embarrassment and endless regrets after trying.
Third, how do college students establish a correct view of love?
(A) establish a correct outlook on life
The university stage is a critical period for college students to master scientific knowledge and basic skills. College students should focus on their studies and focus on their studies. Love is to find a lifelong partner to grow old together, not to comfort and seek excitement. Therefore, college students must treat love correctly and correct their love motives.
(B) the correct treatment of love setbacks
Love is based on the love of both sides. Without either side, love is out of balance and over. College students should treat love setbacks correctly, don't over-suppress the pain caused by lovelorn, and can also divert their attention by doing other things; You can also leave the familiar environment for a while, put yourself in a happy new environment, make more new friends and participate in more group entertainment activities, all of which will help you get out of the shadow of lovelorn.
(3) Use a sense of responsibility as an umbrella for love.
Couples of college students should have a responsible attitude towards each other and take the sense of responsibility as the umbrella of love. Consciously resist the invasion of all kinds of pornographic books and periodicals and pornographic networks, take the initiative to assume the rights and obligations of love, and master the etiquette and moral norms of communication with lovers. Develop the feelings of both sides on the basis of self-esteem, self-love, self-reliance and self-improvement, control emotions with reason and prevent behavioral deviation.
(4) Armed with legal knowledge.
Contemporary college students should have certain legal consciousness and legal concept. Schools can educate students in the form of lectures and theme class meetings, and educate students with some life cases. They should master the proper way of love, learn to control their emotions and avoid impulsiveness and illegal behavior. College students should realize that regulating and restraining their behavior is not only the requirement of socialist morality, but also the requirement of socialist law.
In a word, love is a necessary process for us to grow up. Love is beautiful, and it is beyond reproach for college students to experience love. However, college students must cultivate their own moral and legal norms and establish a correct view of love, which will help them gradually mature and improve their outlook on life and values. Help to deal with the relationship between study and love; It helps college students to seek true love. Finally, I wish everyone can have a beautiful and sweet love.
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Investigation report on college students' love II. Should college students fall in love or not? As college students, what do they sometimes think about love? What do they think of campus love behavior? In this regard, I investigated the love phenomenon of college students in our school, and got to know their love view and love behavior.
Second, the investigation process
(A) the number of college students in love sampling survey
In view of college students' love view, I selected some classes of all departments and grades to conduct a sample survey, from which we can fully understand the love situation of college students in our school. From a simple point of view, I made the following table and made an intuitive and clear statistics on the love situation of students in our school. We can see that the proportion of girls' love is basically higher than that of boys, and from freshman to junior, the proportion of love is gradually rising, basically increasing. In some departments and juniors, the proportion of girls in love is as high as 78%, and that of boys is 75%. But when I was a freshman, the proportion of boys falling in love was very low. In the interview, we learned that the reason why girls fall in love more than boys is related to traditional ideas. In their subconscious, they still can't accept the love between brothers and sisters. Therefore, seniors can find freshmen as girlfriends, and seniors rarely find freshmen. Although it is possible that freshmen are older than sophomores, the traditional concept of "men are superior to women" is still bound.
(2) Investigation on college students' love view and love behavior.
The president of New Oriental Education Technology Group said in a speech at Tongji University: "Universities must fall in love, regardless of success or failure, otherwise university life will be gray." Whether college students should fall in love has always been a controversial topic. From what I said, we can know that college students' love is indispensable, love is an indispensable part of our life, life without love is incomplete, which can help us promote each other, and lovelorn can exercise our courage and attitude in the face of failure. However, the concept of love and the behavior of love restrict the effectiveness of love, which may make people succeed or fall into it and indulge themselves.
The following are some sentences I collected about college students' love view:
1, if you love each other, please love them deeply; If not, please leave.
2, not don't want to love, not afraid to love, but afraid of being hurt.
If you really like a person, you should be his or her friend, because friendship lasts longer than love.
4. Happiness is always full of defects.
I would rather laugh and cry than cry and say regret.
The following is part of our questionnaire.
Three. Findings and problems found
According to the questionnaire survey, many college students fall in love because of loneliness and think that they will eventually break up. Yu also said that after graduation, there were only two pairs left in their class (English Department of Peking University), and only one pair finally got married. Either because of their own emotional factors, or because of economic or family factors, or because of different jobs after graduation, in short, 80% of college students' lovers will eventually break up. Of course, love is love, and home is home. They made plans to break up from the beginning. Love is just that two people are happy together. When the daily necessities are met, the contradiction will be gradually exposed.
From the results of the questionnaire, many college students, especially freshmen, have more long-distance relationships, and the objects are generally high school classmates, or they have been together since high school, or they have gone their separate ways before they find that they have a good impression on each other. Long-distance love is a special group among college students. They still go to class alone, eat in the library alone, and wander around the campus alone looking at other couples and thinking about him (her) far away, but they have spiritual sustenance and seem to be very happy by calling and texting every day. Some people say that distance produces beauty. Because of the distance, their daily frictions and quarrels are less. This kind of couple may be more stable than our school. However, if they don't meet for a long time, their feelings will gradually fade away. So they meet once every few months, so their consumption is higher than others. "I recognized him. Although I came here to study from the north and he is in the north, I believe he will not betray me. He loves me very much and calls me every night. We can see him every winter and summer vacation. " Wang, a classmate of our school, said this in an interview. It can be seen that those long-distance lovers are still very confident in each other, but more of them still face breaking up in the end.
The love behavior of college students has always been another headache for schools. Many college students cuddle in public places, feed each other in the canteen, and call until midnight at night. Even the library has become a base for their love affairs. On campus, pandering couples can be seen everywhere, especially at night, and the track and field field has simply become the exclusive concentration place for couples. It seems that there is no one else in their eyes, only each other, and they do not interfere with each other and automatically distance themselves from others. To this end, the school set up a "civilized love supervision group", but the effect is not obvious. First, only during the day, as long as it does not affect other students; But the supervisor is also a student, and he is embarrassed to stop it. Many college students simply regard love as the whole content of the university, indulge in it when they have an object, and look for it everywhere when they have no object. Some even said, "Even if you spend so much money to go to school, even if you haven't learned anything, just find a daughter-in-law to go back." Of course, there are people who are in rational love. They have the same goal, encourage each other and promote each other, either for postgraduate entrance examination or for other reasons.
As far as we know, many parents will give college students extra "love funds" in their living expenses. In addition to inviting each other to dinner, dating and giving gifts, the business in the emerging couple market is also extremely hot, such as couples' clothes, couples' cups and couples' necklaces. And there is a special DIY couple shop where you can put your own photos on. We are consulting in a DIY couple shop off campus. Just because a little doll got a three-dimensional photo of her face less than an inch, she sold it to 40 yuan for more than 30 yuan. The price of a pair is as high as 80 yuan, and the business is quite good. This undoubtedly increases the financial burden of the family. "High school students drag down the whole family, college students drag down the whole family", which is really worthy of the name. Most students in our school come from rural areas, and their family conditions are not very good. But behind the high-profile happiness of husband and wife is the parents' bow and effort.
In recent years, a new group-trial marriage group has gradually emerged among college students. They rent a house off campus and live together, spend a lot of money to take wedding photos and experience the fun of the wedding in advance. They live a luxurious life with their parents' hard-earned money. They euphemistically adapted to the marriage life in advance, and then found that there were more and more contradictions, so they broke up quickly and were glad that they had tried marriage wisely, otherwise they would be miserable if they really got married. Mr. Qin Biaoxi also mentioned this point in his book What to Read in University. He said that many students in their school live together. Even if they don't live together, most of them have had sex. He said humorously that in a key university in China, there was a provincial park, which was originally for students to reflect on the history of Japanese aggression against China, but it became a "wild pig forest". Students are singing every night to raise the next generation to reflect on Japan. Of course, this is not an exaggeration. Accordingly, many universities in China have this situation, and even some universities have vending machines all over the campus. Moreover, there are laws in Britain that even provide living allowances to college students who have lovers. It sounds funny, which puzzles us. Unfortunately, we didn't interview those who want to get married, and even if we can find the family of the interviewee, we won't reveal it. We can only know the situation from other places, so we know very little. But as far as we know, there are not a few "trial marriage families" in our school.
I don't know whether the "trial marriage group" is good or bad, but our group thinks it is harmful to college students, not only economically, but also to physical and mental health. It is often heard that a university committed suicide because of love, which sounds creepy, and this is the typical consequence of not handling love well.
4. Views and suggestions on college students' love view and love behavior.
It is understandable for college students to fall in love, but we must establish a correct view of love and achieve civilized love. College students have just entered adulthood, and their minds are not mature enough to distinguish right from wrong in many things. They shouldn't fall into relationships prematurely. In case of an accident, it is beyond our age and this situation. After all, we are still students, and the main task of students is to study. We don't have to worry about getting married and having children too early, but we should learn some skills that can adapt to society and prepare for finding a job after graduation. College students can't fall in love for love, and they can't just find someone for loneliness or pride. We should be responsible for the choices we make. Therefore, as a college student, we must be cautious in falling in love, not casually, not hurting each other or ourselves. Try to find a like-minded object, encourage and promote each other. If you can't find it, follow the trend and study hard. Don't look at others looking for it. When you have a bright future, you are not afraid of not finding a wife or marrying a good husband.
According to the survey, it is a common phenomenon for college students to fall in love. The average age of college students is about 20 years old, and they are already legal citizens and adults. Protected and bound by law. Sexual psychological and physical maturity. They are eager for love, and the rules and regulations of Chinese universities clearly stipulate that college students can get married. Therefore, there is no doubt that college students fall in love. However, after falling in love, it is followed by ideological rejection and fluctuation, which makes lovers quarrel endlessly, be trapped by love, give up their studies and regret for life; Fighting for love, wyndell dichinson incident on campus. There was a rift in their relationship, and the vulnerable teenagers chose to commit suicide to escape the relationship that was about to break down. All these have stained the pure and loyal love of college students with a gray stroke, which has caused the society to question: Should college students fall in love during their studies? Which is more important in the choice between love and study?
In view of this situation, we made a random survey at school. Due to the limitation of time and colleges, the ratio of male to female in some colleges is too large. Only 60 people, including 30 boys and 30 girls, accepted the questionnaire. Moreover, people who are in love and those who are not in love are different in thought. We have to admit that some things need to be there to get the answer. However, we believe that this survey is of great significance to guide college students to establish a correct view of love and help them grow up smoothly.
The survey data are as follows:
1. More people are in love, and they are very devoted and open.
At present, there is a popular saying among college students that love is a compulsory course for college students. If you have never been in love in college, you are not a qualified college student. " Under the influence of this idea, many college students actively participate in the tide of love, becoming more and more devoted and open. In the classroom, in the canteen, on the playground, in humanitarian and other public places, there are people flirting, hugging and kissing, caressing and touching, and there is no one around. Their behavior is amazing. The degree of this investment can be said to have reached a white-hot level since the resumption of the college entrance examination, which has turned the quiet campus into a west wing waiting for the moon, leaving university administrators at a loss and making the atmosphere of the university indescribable. College students are so devoted to love, how much energy do they have to study? This phenomenon is actually the expression of love supremacism and the ideological reflection of social interest supremacism on campus.
2. The aging of love
At present, the trend of college students falling in love is younger. Some people think that "the first task after entering school is to seize the time to fall in love, otherwise the excellent ones will be preempted by others, not me." Therefore, under the guidance of this idea, they started from the time they entered school, so that the current college students' love is "young, brave, enthusiastic, fast and dare to practice". This tendency to fall in love is extremely harmful. It fully shows some people's life value judgments. Everything is long, only love. Pursuing the world of only two people will inevitably lead to disregard and forgetting the fate of the country, the future of the nation and the suffering of mankind.
The starting point of love is blind.
On the motivation of love, college students have no clear purpose. There are indications that many college students' love seems to be a fashion, just a satisfaction of love complex; What's more, some college students are actually poking fun at love and regard love as a way to spend their spare time and a channel to relieve loneliness. What do you think is the initial motivation for falling in love in college or your college? Answer, 67% of the students choose "looking for spiritual sustenance", and some choose others, while "building a family in the future" is only a small part of the purpose of love, and quite a few people are:
(1) Love for love's sake. In order to enrich their college life, these students are more emotional than rational. Once the voice of love is calling, it will respond happily from the bottom of my heart like a lonely phoenix tree. Their belief is "don't last forever, as long as you once had it", or "just want to have it, but also require material possession", and only pay attention to the process of love without considering what you can get after love.
(2) Love satisfies vanity. This part of students think that no one pursues or can't pursue an object during college, which is a symbol of their low value and inferiority, and their inner inferiority. Only by pursuing or being pursued can we show that we are equal to other students or superior to them.
(3) Love is to get rid of loneliness. These students think that going to college is an ascetic, and they are very lonely. Only when you are in love can you solve temporary difficulties. This kind of love is called "lonely love".
(4) Love pursues money, fame and status. These students think that in the market economy society, youth and love are just commodities, as long as they can exchange money,
Fame, status and love can all be paid. Just talk about feelings, not conditions, that is, living in a vacuum, there should be bread and coffee in the feelings of love, so all kinds of deformed love occur frequently.
(5) Love doing experiments. Falling in love with these students at school is like doing experiments, planting experimental fields and getting first-hand information. If you succeed, you will gain experience. They think that if you don't learn a few tricks while you are young, you will capsize in society.
4. The proportion of girls in love is higher than that of boys.
First, girls' physical and sexual psychology matures early, and their dependence is strong, and their demand for "emotional harbor" and sex is stronger than that of boys; Secondly, the absolute number of female college students is small, and the proportion of female college students is lower than that of male college students, so in the "binary" love world, female college students are always in the leading position of "demand exceeds supply". As long as they are willing, girls who are not dominant in their own conditions will also find loving bosom friends, while boys with poor quality will be relatively left out in the campus "love field".
Boys are more active than girls.
Due to the disparity between male and female college students. Under normal circumstances, boys can only find their favorite lovers by taking the initiative. Relatively speaking, girls can choose the right lover among many suitors.
6. Love is random
The main performance is that the love cycle is shortened and the frequency is increased. Because many students fall in love on impulse, they can't think clearly about the future. Usually after dating for a period of time, they find someone more suitable for them, so they break up immediately and find another lover. Short and fast love has become a feature of contemporary college students' love. The success rate is low, a few college students regard college love as a "test field", and "love professionals" have also appeared.
7. Low success rate in love
Because of the randomness of love, the success rate is low during school. In addition, not being able to work together after graduating from college is the only reason for college students' lovers to break up. May and June are the season of graduation and breakup every year.
8. The concept of love is becoming more and more open.
A few days ago, the Youth League Committee of Shanghai University and the Graduate Association of Shanghai University conducted a survey on the current situation of graduate students' views on marriage and love. 29.6% of the students clearly agreed to get married during school, and 32.7% of the respondents said that the biggest obstacle from falling in love to getting married was the lack of economic foundation. About the attitude towards premarital sex, nearly 60% of students think that "sex is a personal behavior, so it is good to take responsibility by yourself". According to a survey conducted by China Youth Daily on college students' views on premarital sex, 50% of them agreed in 20XX and 65% agreed in 20XX. Numerically, this is an increasing trend. College students' love is limited by their school status, so many people think that love should be conservative at this time, but some people think that college students are adults and can freely choose the way of love. There are five kinds of love behaviors in the survey of love behavior scale, which are holding hands, kissing, caressing, making love and living together. More than half of the boys choose "cohabitation", while girls generally think that kissing or caressing is normal behavior.
9. The concept of love is not clear enough
According to the survey, a large number of college students fall in love only to satisfy their vanity and needs. Now there is a saying among college students that "I don't want to last forever, I just want to have it". Some college students regard love as a kind of love experience, and eat, drink and be merry in time to seek excitement and satisfy spiritual enjoyment. Some college students regard love as a pastime culture in order to enrich their after-school life, relieve loneliness and fill emptiness. Paying attention to the process of love and ignoring the result of love only emphasizes the right of love and denies the responsibility of love.