First, the way parents read.
Books, for children, are an important channel to know the outside world. Every parent wants their children to enjoy reading, and expects their children to continue this pleasant experience into the future growth stage, so that both parents and children can enjoy reading, which is an extremely important seed to trigger "love books".
Children need all kinds of books to accompany them at different ages and stages of development. Therefore, it will be the key for parents to choose books suitable for children's cognitive level and interests and attract children to like reading.
After the materials are selected, parents and children can start reading. * * * Reading is just a form. If children are too young to read, adults can speak and read instead. For example, children before the age of three are not fully mature and stable because of hand-eye coordination, so the guidance at this stage can let children see the big picture, and adults can tell them the name of the picture while pointing to the big picture. Young children can't concentrate, interest or read. At this time, parents should choose some story books or picture books with simple plots and short stories for him, accompany him to read books, explain the contents of the books to him, and let the children be subtly affected.
When a child is four or five years old, he will no longer rely entirely on the picture, and the words, plots and characters can be increased, and the stories will be more vivid and interesting. Some things he is not fully familiar with will also bring him freshness. Parents don't have to tell stories according to the script when accompanying him, but they can let him "tell stories by looking at pictures" before telling them, or let him repeat them after telling them, or ask a few related questions to train his speaking ability. In addition, children can be encouraged to tell the general idea of their familiar stories to adults. By doing so, we can see the absorption of children and cultivate their expressive ability.
According to the research on "children's reading", it is found that children aged six to twelve read a lot, and they are like sponges, which suck when they meet water; They like all new and interesting things, regardless of subject matter or category, especially stories that can show all kinds of tests in life, which can satisfy them better. When they encounter touching words, they will not hesitate to give their enthusiasm. They hope this book will make them cry and laugh. For children aged six or seven, parents should not stop reading aloud every day. On the contrary, it is more necessary to choose some stories with profound words, changeable sentences, complicated plots and long length to read to children. Children aged eight to ten like to read stories about school and family life, which can help them solve problems in life. Therefore, parents should choose their favorite books for their children, because the plot and characters are more complicated and are different kinds of books. For children who are eleven or twelve years old, parents should prepare some books that can help them explore morality and values. In addition, non-fiction and fiction books are also very important, and parents and children can discuss them together.
Second, the benefits of family parent-child reading
Nowadays, parents are very busy and spend less time in contact with their children at home, but no matter how tight the time is, the time to accompany their children to read must be free, because parent-child reading is very attractive and has many benefits:
1, enhance feelings
Parents are the first people to contact since children are sensible. Through reading, the two sides will be able to share their feelings and enhance their feelings invisibly.
2. Improve language skills
Children who love reading have strong language skills, far higher than those who don't. Children understand complex ideas from books and appreciate the beauty of language.
3. Learn the ability of coordination and communication
It is very important to cultivate children's coordination and communication skills with peers or parents from an early age. Besides studying little by little in daily life, it is also a good way to get inspiration from reading.
4. Increase knowledge
Reading can let children dabble in many aspects of knowledge, such as literature, history, geography, science, politics and so on. Broadening one's knowledge is of great benefit to learning.
5. Improve writing ability
Primary and middle school students who like reading have mastered the ability of language and writing, often surpassing their peers. They can get good grades without reciting and reciting texts, and they can also get good grades in off-campus exams, because reading improves their writing ability.
6. Experience transfer and exchange
Parents and children share, communicate and discuss each other's life experiences, get ideas and experiences from them, and solve problems and puzzles together.
7. Think independently
Reading can cultivate critical thinking ability. Children can absorb complex arguments and plots while reading, analyze and understand them, and reading can make children have the ability to think independently.
8. Leisure and entertainment
Through reading, we can cultivate the normal leisure and entertainment ability between parents and children, avoid spending too much time and energy on improper activities, and achieve the purpose of improving body and mind.
Third, the obstacles to family parent-child reading
It is of course important to cultivate reading atmosphere and develop good reading habits through various methods, under the guidance of teachers and the encouragement of society; However, family cooperation and parents' efforts are also indispensable. Otherwise, we will either get twice the result with half the effort or fall short. Since parents have such a great responsibility to cultivate their children's interest in reading, we should not shrink back when promoting family parent-child reading activities, even if we encounter some obstacles. Now, the possible obstacles are as follows:
1, parents lack the concept of "setting an example"
Children like to imitate, and the object of imitation is often adults. Cultivating children's interest in reading can start with setting a good example. Parents themselves love reading, and when they have a book in their spare time, they are intoxicated with it, and children will be impressed by it, which will naturally lead to the mood of loving books. If parents are not interested in reading, it is rare to touch books several times a year, which will make the speaker eager and the listener reserved. How can parents have the idea of studying?
Parents don't read more books to their children.
Preschool children have never read books themselves, and the way to cultivate their interest in reading is to read to them more. Children are imaginative and sensitive to feelings and should read widely. Everything is ready-made materials, from books such as fairy tales to instructions such as new toys. However, parents in many families often take the busy earning money as an excuse, thinking that as long as they buy books for their children, they will fulfill their responsibilities, but they ignore the importance and necessity of reading for their children.
3. Lack of reading materials.
Reading interest cannot be cultivated in the "vacuum" state of books. Ordinary families in China can't buy all kinds of books and periodicals, and they don't know whether they can borrow them from the library or exchange them with their neighbors and friends to make up for the shortage of books and periodicals at home.
Step 4 force children to read
Interest comes from pleasant experience, forcing children to read, and reading itself becomes a painful experience, which is a punishment rather than enjoyment, which runs counter to the process of interest growth and causes children to have rebellious psychology. Finally, they are not interested in reading, they hate reading, and they are afraid of reading.
5, belittle the value of reading.
If parents or family members laugh at children's reading activities and take his mistakes as a laughing stock, it will hurt his self-esteem. It is more important not to belittle the value of reading. If parents hold the attitude of "nothing is a scholar", children will soon be infected, thinking that books that cannot be separated from "scholars" are as cheap as dirt, and reading is a boring thing.
6, love watching TV, addicted to electric toys
Television will virtually control personal words, actions, behaviors and even thoughts; It also simplifies people's minds, dulls imagination and makes life boring. Children's minds can only accept fast-changing images and lack thinking and creativity. In addition, exciting electric toys fascinate children and adults. They are attractive because they take advantage of people's "unyielding" mentality to get away with it. Unconsciously, the good times were consumed. It can be seen that TV and electric toys are very harmful to the establishment of reading interest between parents and children.
7. Lack of warm and quiet reading environment
Nowadays, families are often willing to spend a lot of money to decorate beautiful living rooms and comfortable and luxurious bedrooms, but they are reluctant to spend a little money to decorate practical study rooms, so that children cannot have a warm and quiet reading environment. "Meng Mu's Three Movements" was Meng Mu's attempt to find a suitable reading environment for Mencius, which eventually made Mencius a saint who read a lot of poems and books and was praised by later generations. Therefore, if a family can't provide a warm and quiet reading environment, it is also a matter of "seeking fish from the wood" to ask for perfect family parent-child reading activities.