Do you know the top ten books to improve emotional intelligence? Do friends with low emotional intelligence often say that they can't talk? Today, my topic is to teach you to improve your emotional intelligence, so that the goddess and goddess will look at you with new eyes. After reading these books, you are obviously not the same person.

Top ten books to improve EQ 1 1, EQ III: EQ at work that affects your life.

EQ and EQ 2 sell well, and become the required reading materials for learning EQ and improving EQ, from which countless ordinary readers and enterprises have benefited endlessly. EQ 3 continues the writing style of the first two books, focusing on the work EQ closely related to each of us. The examples are apt, vivid and interesting, and more practical and readable.

Why is there such a big difference in EQ? Why do high IQ scientific and technological talents often lack social skills? Why is the thinking ability and work efficiency affected when impulse, anger and emotion dominate? How to be an excellent employee? Why is job emotional intelligence more important than professional skills? Where is the real value of excellent employees?

In this book, Daniel Gorman believes that with the increase of jobs, the importance of technical ability and cognitive ability will decrease, while the importance of emotional intelligence will increase. In the job performance of excellent employees, the proportion of emotional intelligence elements is as high as two-thirds.

2. Psychology and life

Philip zimbardo, the author, is the leading psychologist in the world today, and was once famous for his excellent Stanford prison experiment.

Once published, Psychology and Life topped the best-seller lists of The New York Times, Businessweek and Amazon! It is a textbook used by Stanford University in the United States for many years and recommended by ETS as the main reference book for GRE psychology special examination.

It not only introduces the classical theoretical knowledge of psychology, but also devotes itself to fighting the wrong ideas in psychology with solid scientific research.

3. Real colors

If you want to know more about society, read Chai Jing's Seeing, and if you want to know more about yourself, read Le Jia's True Color. Le Jia's true colors in this book are clear at a glance. After reading this book, I know myself thoroughly.

A book that tells us how to be live high in an uneasy and changeable world. The content is the dry goods of the essence of Le Jia's skills. All walks of life can benefit from the book as long as they are dissatisfied with the status quo and want to make changes and breakthroughs in their lives.

It is not a simple course of sex and skin color, nor an essay advancing with the times, nor a biography of revolutionary history. This is the secret of Le Jia's success in self-cultivation, and True Color is a shocking note to overcome the weakness of human nature. The purpose is to let everyone find their true colors, know their true selves and live a wonderful life.

Step 4 control yourself

The most effective way to improve self-control is to figure out how and why you can successfully control your time and life in only 10 weeks.

If you always wait until the last minute to start work, always moonlight, credit card overdraft, want to relax, but stay up late surfing the Internet, always trying to lose weight, always frustrated, then you should read Self-control edited by Kelly Magnag.

At the end of the course, the survey showed that 97% of Stanford students said that they had a better understanding of their behavior, and 84% said that the methods taught in class improved their self-control.

5. Influence

Because of its influence, persuasion has become a science.

In this book, psychologist Dr. Robert B. Cialdini explains why some people are persuasive and we are always gullible. The six psychological secrets hidden behind impulsive obedience to others are the root of all this. Those persuasion experts always use it skillfully to bring us to heel. At the same time, it will also help managers make better decisions and use their influence wisely. ...

Whether you are an ordinary person or a lobbyist for a product or a career, this is a very basic book and the cornerstone for you to understand people's psychology.

Step 6 learn to ask questions

The book was rated as the "Bible" in the field of critical thinking! The true meaning behind Chai Jing's many problems.

The author of this book applies the latest research results in the field of critical thinking and lists a large number of examples in scientific research and daily life to teach people how to raise, think, judge and solve problems rationally, logically and critically.

American college students have a classic book.

7. Key dialogue

This book analyzes people's common blind spots in communication in detail, and provides many skills of instant dialogue, listening and action, supplemented by rich dialogue situations and light and humorous stories, to help readers master these skills in the fastest way.

This is the ability to get to the point and let the other person know your point clearly; It is a kind of wisdom to speak appropriately and let the other person reflect automatically. Using the skills provided in this book, no matter how difficult the situation is, you can easily face it and get twice the result with half the effort.

8. "Thank yourself for your imperfections"

This book is an upgraded version of Seven Weapons of the Mind. I watched it twice and it had a great influence on me. Many ways to deal with problems in it have become part of my thinking, such as acceptance, which leads us to the road of freedom. I accept everything first and then solve it, instead of avoiding complaining.

Wu Zhihong graduated from Peking University with a master's degree in psychology. I've been reading his books and I like them very much.

9. Hold on, the world is yours.

The most popular and inspirational quotations of Beijing subway. Improving EQ can be positive or negative.

This book includes learning to get along with your own bad emotions, because there is no other way, from a monthly salary of 5 thousand to an annual salary of 300 thousand, to talk about a salary increase. What if you want to leave a small city but dare not leave? "Life is not for comfort, for all the girls who love to write long letters" and "Have you ever been scolded by the leader? 》 and other watercress super hot stickers. 36 life stories, one story for a dollar, may change your life. To young people who can't stop all kinds of negative emotions when they think about the future: the smallest difference between people is IQ, and the biggest difference is persistence.

10, five languages of love

Another day has passed, is the dream farther away? If you were a stone, you wouldn't shine anywhere. If I read the above, I feel a little touched and can bear it. Please open this book carefully. The article is rich in cross-workplace acid and unsaturated chicken soup for the soul. Please read selectively according to your personal situation.

The subtitle of this book is to create perfect communication between men and women. Under the influence of ecstasy, we can't take credit for our kindness and generosity. It is driven and carried by an instinctive force, which makes us go beyond the normal behavior mode. However, once we return to the real world where human beings make choices, if we still choose to be kind and generous to others, that is true love.

Ten books to improve emotional intelligence 2 1, self-awareness

Type 9 Personality-Know yourself and understand the secrets of others.

Authors: Don Richard Rizzo, Lars Hudson,

There are few books about type 9 personality in China, and the theory of type 9 personality summarizes people's innate personality into nine types-reformers, helpers, goal seekers, individualists, explorers, loyalists, fanatics, leaders and peacemakers. Is a better way to know yourself. This book is theoretical and the whole theoretical system is rigorous. If you feel too tired to read, you can look at helen palmer's Nine Personality and pay more attention to the cases.

"So, how can type nine personality help us understand something useful? The answer is simple: what each personality type really needs is its integration direction. The difficulty is that in order to move towards integration, we must be eager to transcend personality habits. We must be eager and able to surpass ourselves, reach a higher point and experience that part of ourselves that has nothing to do with personality activities. At the same time, we should also be eager to fully experience the limitations and pains brought by ourselves. Self-transcendence is difficult and terrible. "

To meet the unknown

Author: Zhang Defen

Long-term occupation of the home page of the sales rankings of major book networks. The writing is easy to understand, and it advocates inward attention and spiritual growth. Generally speaking, it can be used as a bedtime reading.

"Dear, there is no one outside, only yourself. Everything is a projection of your inner self, reflecting your inner self like a mirror. When anything touches you from the outside, remember to look inside. See where your old wounds have been touched, and see what shadows you have not sorted out. Don't waste your energy on those external, unchangeable and irresistible things. Now make an internal reconciliation, and then concentrate on dealing with the parts that can be changed externally. "

Step 2 control your emotions

How to control your emotions

Author: Chip Conley

The author created a set of emotional management rules, and used addition, subtraction, multiplication and division to calculate the often confusing emotional fluctuations. For example, when you are anxious, go and see if the uncertainty you are facing is increasing and whether things are beyond your ability; If you have doubts, then reflect, is your self-esteem too strong, or do you feel that you are not trusted. It is a practical reference book for emotional management.

"Anxiety is an emotion, not a character defect. People who are extremely eager to control their own lives are often hit hard by anxiety symptoms. "

Life-changing Happy Experiment

Authors: Ed Dina, Robert Dina

Explain positive psychology in a popular way. Explore happy methods through 15 interesting psychological experiments. Reading the introduction of the book and exploring ways to make everyone happy is a bit nonsense. Happiness: I don't think there is any way. Deliberate happiness is unhappy. But there are ways to control your emotions. The theory and method of emotional control in this book are worth learning.

"Prince Charming may not be a playboy, but he will not be perfect-he will forget his wife's birthday and is a workaholic. He has a big belly and bad breath. "

3. Self-motivation

I understand that self-motivation means knowing more about yourself, being responsible and no longer relying on external motivation. So these three books may not be reading materials or chicken soup, but it is more important to build a strong heart)

I like my life now.

Author: Zhou

Selected essays of Mr. Zhou. The introduction goes like this: What kind of psychological state a person should maintain when facing the major propositions of life such as love, adversity, loneliness, death and misfortune is the significance of this book. I hope this book can build a powerful soul world for you who can't find a clue in the complicated world. I'm impressed.

"Life is a tragedy. It is superficial to turn a blind eye. Of course, we should be careful not to see through the world of mortals. A person who still loves life after ups and downs must have many treasures extracted from pain in his chest. "

the road less traveled

Author: M Scott Patel

The book has been torn to pieces. However, this is a classic. Life is full of hardships. Scott Peck made us more clear: life is a hard journey, and the journey of mental maturity is quite long. This paper mainly expounds delaying enjoyment, taking responsibility, facing the truth and keeping balance.

"Giving up something in life will definitely bring pain to the mind. Losing balance is far better than giving up pain. I think no matter who you are, you must give up some happiness and part of yourself after a sharp turn in your life. There is only one way to avoid giving up, and that is to stay where you are forever and not let your feet on the journey. "

Living law

Author: kazuo inamori

As the founder of two Fortune 500 companies, kazuo inamori's thoughts on life philosophy. "The truth of life? What is the meaning of life? What is an appropriate state of life? I will explain my basic ideas on these major issues without scruple and push my little share into the torrent of the times. "

"The principle of life and management is that the simpler the better."

4. Recognize other people's emotions/handle relationships.

Intimate relationship

Authors: Sharon Pollan/Daniel Paalmann/Roland Miller/Susan Campbell.

This paper discusses the understanding and judgment of intimacy by poets, playwrights, philosophers and even physicians for a long time, as well as the research work in the past 20 years. This is a very theoretical book, a scientific work about love. Paying attention to people's psychological growth process is helpful to better understand and deal with the relationship between friends and partners.

"Gender differences are not as important and influential as most people think. It is simply wrong to say that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Most people tend to exaggerate the differences between the sexes and describe them with stereotypes. On the premise of broad similarity between the two sexes, the differences between the two sexes are very small compared with individual differences. Therefore, it is harmful to treat the opposite sex as a person from another world, which will hinder the understanding of your partner's point of view and prevent you from solving problems together. "

Who is in my house?

Author: bert hellinger

Tell about Heilinger's family system arrangement theory: through family system arrangement, we will finally get our due position in the fate group of family relatives. Because Hellinger studied the philosophy of Laozi and Zhuangzi, he combined it with the techniques of psychotherapy. In China, this theory is widely used in family therapy.

"A mother's love for her son is passed on to her son through her father. When parents love their children in this way, their love for their children will connect them closely and children will feel free and safe. The solution is that the love between husband and wife should have priority. When you get to this point in family arrangements, you can see immediately that children feel that their parents are a commensurate couple, they are relaxed and everyone feels good. "

The art of communication: look at people and look outside.

Authors: Ronald Adler, Russell Proch,

The first two books are all about how to deal with the relationship with relatives and friends around you, and both emphasize theory. Then this book is a reference book for daily communication skills that can be widely used. It can be divided into three parts: look inside people, look outside people and look between people. "Look at People" discusses the communication factors related to itself, briefly introduces the essence of interpersonal relationship, emphasizes the role of self in communication, and analyzes the importance of perception and emotion in communication. Looking at the outside world discusses the factors related to the target audience, analyzes the characteristics of language and non-language, and emphasizes the importance of listening. Looking at People discusses the dynamics of relationships, emphasizing the importance of relationships, intimacy and distance in relationships, and how to improve the communication atmosphere and the forms and coping strategies of interpersonal conflicts.