1. Enhance self-awareness: understand your own views, values and beliefs, and clarify your emotional needs and behavioral motives, so as to make more powerful decisions.

2. Learn to analyze and evaluate information: actively guide yourself to explore facts, analyze and evaluate relevant information, and find evidence that you think is reasonable and reliable to support your views.

3. Build self-confidence and self-esteem: express your opinions to yourself in a positive and self-affirming way, and believe in your ability, so as to build self-confidence and self-esteem and improve self-confidence.

4. Practice decision-making ability: try to make decisions in different situations, and evaluate and reflect on your own choices, so as to continuously improve your decision-making ability and actual level.

5. Listen to and respect others' opinions: Learning from others' experience and knowledge and respecting others' opinions and ideas will help you build your own beliefs and opinions.

6. Be brave in expressing and arguing: be brave in expressing your views to others in appropriate occasions and occasions, and not afraid to argue and argue with others to express your views and beliefs.

In short, it takes time and experience to become more independent, and we need to constantly improve and explore ourselves, establish our own beliefs and opinions, and enhance our self-decision-making ability. At the same time, we need to listen to other people's suggestions, respect other people's opinions, and make our own opinions more mature and credible.