Cai Kangyong's first practical book! 40 short essays, all of which make the conversation interesting. "I don't care about the art of speaking, I care about the way of speaking. My way of speaking is to keep you in mind. [1] It is the most cost-effective thing to practice oral English well. Cai Kangyong's way of speaking determines who you are, because what you say; If you're right, host the life show! Without sentence-by-sentence speaking skills, 40 short articles are delicious to make the dialogue delicious. If I meet a person for the first time and there is a mirror on the wall, I will try my best to let them sit in the mirror, so that I can see whether they are more interested in you or their own reflection in the mirror during the conversation with you. How to ask sharp questions? The question is so sharp that you can put off what you have assumed in your mind for two or three steps to ask. For example, if the other person is taking drugs, take two or three steps back: Is taking drugs because you are unhappy? Is it because of the divorce? Maybe you can ask the other person, "Did you have a hard time after the divorce? Then I asked, "So you're taking drugs? In this way, the other party will not be so miserable. He knows you care, not interrogate. What if the topic is stuck? If the conversation gets stuck, there is no need to save it. Just open another topic. If you make the other person laugh three times in two hours together, the other person will never remember that you mentioned several boring topics. Don't hide the highlights of your speech at the end. If you are used to hiding the explosion point behind the story, the people who listen to you may not last that long and die one after another. To introduce a painter who is unfamiliar to everyone, wouldn't it be more attractive to use "a painting with two palms can sell for two or three million"? Let the other person talk about himself, and he will find it very interesting. Don't say the word "I". Every time I want to say the word "I", I change it to "you" or "he". You will find yourself suddenly becoming a super-enlightened person, constantly throwing topics at each other and letting them speak freely! A person who can tell funny stories and speak humorously without jokes is like a person who walks well. When you walk with her, you will feel that walking is normal and enjoyable. Telling jokes is more like a somersault, whether it is good or not, but in fact, few people like to walk with someone who has nothing to do with somersault. Praise a person and scold you, and you scold him back. It's called a fight. When others praise you, you respond with a compliment, which is called socialization. I don't want to say it briefly, the mine you want to avoid is the first. The other party is prone to difficulties and it is not convenient to tell unfamiliar people. Second, it is easy to make the other side stand hard and argue easily when speaking. If you understand, you can ask, because when people speak, they are often "reserved" or "meaning something". If you just listen to the literal meaning before making a decision, I'm afraid the opportunity will run away. Keep your own questions short, and the more specific the other person's answer, the less strength the person who answers them will have. The harder the person who answers, the more strength she will have to talk to you. Sharp questions can also create a moderate provocation in the conversation atmosphere, which can definitely make the conversation warm, because everyone wants their opinions to be valued and discussed, rather than being perfunctory and nodded by a completely unprincipled person. I am not interested in how to answer the phone. When I meet someone and ask a topic that you don't want to answer at all, I don't need to resist in a hurry, but I can easily associate the topic that the other person is keen on with a very direction of life. Suspense, when people want to hear a thing from a friend, they pause every few words to see if your friend will ask, "then what?" """What happened? If you ask this question, it means that your way of telling things is attractive, but if you pause and your friends don't even think about it, it means that you are boring. It is really difficult for people who comfort others to "understand another person's pain." "If you don't understand, don't say so, because when the parties talk to you, she just needs you to listen. Maybe she also needs your advice, but she may not need another person to claim that others understand her pain. [2]3 Book Catalogue Editor Kang Yongxu: Why talk about "Tao"! 00 1 What did Hou Wenyong and Xiao S say? 004 0 1 You are already very likable, and you will be even more likable in the future. You are what you say. Whether 008 03 looks good or not is definitely not the decisive point in life. 0 12 04 silence is no problem. Silence is normal. 0 16 05 gave meaningless victory to the other side, and those who know how to give up know how to speak. 024 07 will not be the GAMEOVER in your mind. If people can take it, 028 08 is stuck, just change the subject. Don't fall in love with 032 09. The more specific the question, the less effort the person who answers it will have. 037 10 when chatting, everyone wants to talk about themselves. 04 1 1 The problem is very acute. You can take two or three steps back. 045 12 Moderate provocation can make the conversation warm. 049 13 If you don't want to say it simply, the mines you should avoid will give a hard number. It's hard to remember that you have to shuffle the cards by hand when playing mahjong. Vacancy is very important. 06 165438.- suspense talk 065 17 hiding the breaking point of the story too far back, it is easy to make the story useless 069 18 humor such as walking, telling jokes such as somersault 074 19. Don't worry about this problem at all. Without the depth of 078 20, you will be impressed. 082 2 1 Speaking is not a prize contest, so don't rush to answer. 09 1 23 Appreciate and observe what the other person craves most. It is not good to treat people like watermelons on the stage. 103 26 Enjoy yourself and "have fun" with your elders. 107 27 if you meet the other person, ask to stand on the same side with him. It's like silently smelling someone fart 1 15 29. You're not the Queen of England, so you don't have to disturb everyone when you leave. 1 19 30 It is difficult for a person to "understand another person's pain". 123 3 10 When asking for help, you should "roll with the punches", and it is hard for people not to forgive you. 132 33 if you just listen to the literal meaning to make a decision, I'm afraid the opportunity will run away. 136 34 If someone praises you, you will reply. 140 35 is it to consolidate friendship or increase mutual indifference? 144 36 why does the mafia open a restaurant? Judging from the environment, it takes practice to entertain guests 152 38. Don't just talk with money and not your heart. Don't be like a tennis launcher. Just put forward 160 40 to convey feelings without feelings, instead of just saying 164[3].