In most people's minds, Lao Wang is a wise man. 43 years old, working as a regional manager in a certain area, with an annual income of about 400,000. Some people may think that from his age, he is just an ordinary person.
Yes, his income is not particularly high, nor is he particularly successful, but compared with his previous life, it is already a great leap forward. Once he was a real poor boy, he thought he would be poor all his life, and so did others.
However, he has been trying to change his fate and is aggressive. Later, he became more and more successful and finally got the position he wanted. He has achieved what he is now.
In fact, a large part of the reason is that he is a very clear-cut person, and his usual style of acting is completely different from that of a young man in his twenties.
At that time, the peers around him were laughing and confused about some things, but he knew everything, so from that time on, he was doomed to a different life from others.
A young man in his twenties is so sober, what's more, he is now in his early forties, and people will only make progress and not go backwards. He used to be so good, but now he is naturally awake.
He believes that when people reach middle age, they must keep some wisdom in their minds and some things that they must learn to deal with. He thinks that a middle-aged person should keep silent, but this kind of silence is exquisite.
Misunderstanding silence
Lao Wang was misunderstood by others. There is some misunderstanding between him and his colleagues. Colleagues thought he robbed his list, so they regarded him as an enemy.
Everyone knows that you need proper limit to get along with your colleagues. If you are not careful, you may become an enemy. After all, everyone is doing the same thing, and sometimes there will be disputes because of competition. It is also a very normal thing.
However, once this happens between colleagues, the consequences will be very serious. Everyone has enemies, and they also live in the same space. In this case, everyone should always be vigilant.
Based on this, many people don't want to offend their colleagues. They hope to get a very harmonious environment. Under normal circumstances, they will never argue with each other, but this situation often gets out of control.
Lao Wang has never wronged his colleagues, but there is a deep misunderstanding between them.
He kept explaining to his colleagues in the hope that they would understand him, but the result was just the opposite.
When a person is emotional or thinks that you have done something, no matter how you explain it, it is useless. He will only think that you are being critical and misunderstood. The best way to deal with it is to speak with facts.
Later, Lao Wang found that no matter what he said, the other party would not take it to heart. In that case, why bother him? Instead of wasting so much time, he might as well find evidence to prove himself.
So he did, and after a week, he finally figured out the ins and outs of the matter, and let his colleagues understand the cause and process of the matter.
As for the ending, I think everyone can understand that my colleagues found that they misunderstood him, so they took the initiative to apologize and shook hands because of this matter.
Later, Lao Wang handled the problem in this way. He thinks that as a middle-aged man, he should be mature.
Since you are misunderstood, don't always explain, because sometimes the more you explain, the more the other person thinks you are picky. In this case, it is better to do something real, find evidence and prove it with practical actions than to say something useless.
Young people don't understand some truth, so they often like to do useless work, but as a middle-aged person, they should know how to deal with some things.
Silence when upset.
Everyone is upset sometimes, which is a person's most basic reaction. Everyone knows that people can't escape the joys and sorrows in this life.
No matter what age you are, you will encounter such a thing. Young people always like to deal with it in their own way, most of which are arbitrary.
For example, if a young person feels very upset, he will drink, talk a lot, or find someone to complain, which can alleviate his unhappiness.
After all, when people are upset, it is easy for them to fall into an uncontrollable situation, which is the last thing everyone wants to see, but it is also human nature.
There is nothing wrong with what young people do, but it is a bit strange for a middle-aged person to solve things in such a childish way.
After all, as a middle-aged person, everyone should have a sense of wisdom and maturity commensurate with his age, so when encountering something, everyone should keep silent.
The more upset you are, the more you should know how to control your emotions, otherwise you may make mistakes on impulse, and some mistakes may be regretted later.
A colleague offended the leader when he was upset. For a long time, he couldn't get a promotion or a raise. Although he works hard, his boss may just take it personally.
As for the reason, it is not only because the boss is too narrow-minded, but mainly because he said something very hurtful, and those words were particularly excessive.
Don't make mistakes when everyone is upset. If people are upset, don't talk casually. This will lead to more serious results. You should keep silent at this time.
No matter what others ask you, you should answer in the best way, and then keep silent. Never vent your emotions, and don't talk to others casually, because it is easy to produce contradictions.
Others don't understand your silence.
I once met such a person. He hopes that people all over the world can understand him, so when people don't understand him, he will say what he really thinks and even tell everyone his own characteristics.
But in fact, every time he speaks, everyone goes in one ear and out the other. After all, we are just ordinary friends. At best, he is an acquaintance, not that kind of intimate relationship, so we are not interested in knowing what kind of person he is.
What he did is a complete joke to everyone, and so are some people in real life. Whenever someone doesn't understand him, he will talk endlessly or explain to others. In fact, this is meaningless.
People live in this world and cannot be understood by everyone. If others don't understand you and misunderstand you, you should keep silent and ignore it. This is the normal state of the world.
Just like some people like sons, others like daughters, people with sons always feel that a family with daughters is a kind of sadness, which is a distorted concept in itself.
You can't change his mind, and he doesn't understand how much you love your daughter. Why?
As the saying goes, summer insects are not ice, and people are different. Not everyone can communicate with you in this world. Although some people live on the same earth, they seem to live in a completely different world.
This is a very normal thing. We need to accept this reality instead of trying to change it. You cannot change this society. That is the reality.
People often say that silence is golden. In fact, this sentence has some truth. Who says people must use words to impress others, talk more and communicate more? Everything has two sides. Communication is important, but sometimes silence is also important.
Silence when it is time to be silent, and you will get different results.