Enriching daughters has always been a hot topic, and "daughters should be enriched" once became a highly sought-after parenting experience.

But 90% people don't know the true meaning of "having money to support", thinking that as long as they meet their daughters materially, they are rich.

No matter what the family conditions are, many parents are willing to be extremely satisfied with their daughters' materials. As everyone knows, such a rich upbringing often makes children tend to go to extremes when they grow up.

So what kind of parenting can be called "rich parenting"? How can we grasp the degree of "having money to support"?

The book A Tree in Brooklyn will give us the answer. The author of this book is Betty? Smith, the daughter of German immigrants, wrote this book with her own personal experience. Francie, the protagonist in the book, lives in a slum in Brooklyn and leads a very difficult life, but Francie leads a rich life.

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Real enrichment is a girl's family happiness.

Francie's father Johnny is gentle and imaginative.

Johnny works as a waiter in a bar and likes singing, although sometimes he gets drunk. But he is optimistic and loves his children and his wife Katie. Will use songs to express their happiness, and call Frances "the little queen of songs".

Frances was treated coldly and unfairly in her old school. She saw her ideal school. Her father Johnny figured out a way to get it. Genvrain West sees that there are other worlds besides the world where she was born, and other worlds are not out of reach.

Johnny is very sure and concerned about francie. He was afraid that he would forget. He even asked Cece to prepare Frances's graduation gifts-flowers and cards-one year in advance of her period. His handwriting was all over the card, and it said, "To Frances, congratulations on graduation. Love your father. " This surprised Francie, and even made her have the illusion that her father never left.

Johnny stayed in McGarrity Bar for eight years, and he praised Katie and the children with McGarrity every day. I proudly read Frances's composition to McGarry, and put Nelly's books made at school on the bar to show off ... all these were mentioned by McGarrity, the hotel owner after Johnny died.

Francis's mother Katie is beautiful, strong and capable. She supports her family by working as a cleaner. She never complains about life and lives with dignity.

Francie was thin and small when she was born. Neighbors clamored that she was a sick child, fearing that she had no one to raise ... Katie hugged Francie tightly and said that she would live in Genvrain West, so that she could live as strong as that strong paradise tree.

Francie's parents often chat until dawn, and they love each other. Although their family is poor, they present us with a warm and loving scene.

After Quan Hongchan won the Olympic champion, faced with the temptation of money and goods, Quan Hongchan's father said, "I accept these flowers, but I can't have others." This is consuming my daughter's reputation. "

In an interview, Quan Hongchan said: "I train hard, and I will treat my mother well in order to get the prize money of the championship!" "

After Quan Hongchan won the championship, the first thing she thought of was to treat her mother with the prize money. After winning the championship, faced with the temptation of fame and fortune, Quan Hongchan's father thought of protecting his daughter's reputation.

Although Quan Hongchan's family is not rich, the whole family is working hard. Their family cares about each other and loves each other very much.

Children who are not afraid of being born in poverty and grow up in a loving environment will still cultivate valuable qualities.

Francie met Li, the boy she liked at the age of sixteen, and finally she restrained her impulse rationally.

A girl surrounded by a strong sense of family happiness will feel full of happiness and security, will easily resist all kinds of temptations, and will have armor and courage on the road of life.

Real enrichment is a girl's family happiness.

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What is really rich is a girl's sense of spiritual wealth.

Francie's grandmother Mary, though illiterate, gave her daughter the best parenting book.

On the day Frances was born, Katie asked her if there was any way to change the fate of her child. She doesn't want her children to make money only by strength in the future.

Mary told Katie that the secret of changing her fate is reading and writing.

Mary told Katie to read Shakespeare and the Bible to her children every day, one page a day, and stick to it until the children can read by themselves. She also said that children should believe in heaven, believe in dreams and own a piece of land.

Katie insists on reading a page to her children every day according to her mother's instructions.

In this way, Frances fell in love with reading.

Every weekend, Francie goes to the library. This passionate girl is determined to read all the books in the library, from books with prefixes A to Z, one a day!

Frances borrowed a book and went home, sitting on the fire escape and reading. She saw everything through the leaves.

She was holding a book with a bowl of snacks beside her, and the shadows of the trees were swaying. The warm afternoon slipped away without her noticing. This is what a little girl can achieve. She just looked at the book, lived in harmony with the world, and was happy inside.

Just open the book and you can sit all over the world. Frances will never be lonely again, nor will she be lonely because of lack of friends. Books are her most loyal friends.

Yu said: "The biggest reason for reading is to get rid of mediocrity."

At the age of seven, my mother arranged for Francie to take her brother to get vaccinated. Before the vaccination, the brother and sister played with mud to ease the fear of the upcoming injection.

During the injection, Francie heard the conversation between the doctor and the nurse, saying that she was really dirty and poor families were not suitable for having children. ...

Frances felt very angry inside. She boldly expressed her views and told them not to talk about his brother, because his brother wouldn't care. Just tell me about her.

Her words surprised doctors and nurses. They didn't expect the little girl to be so powerful that she dared to defend her dignity and protect her brother. They didn't expect such a knowledgeable little girl in such a poor and backward place.

Francie's spiritual enrichment mainly comes from reading, which makes her different and makes her humble life noble.

After her father Johnny died, she missed him very much and wrote several short stories about her father. The teacher severely criticized her, saying that her subject matter was not good and she shouldn't write about the life of drunken people. The teacher said that she should write beauty, and writers should look for beauty in imagination like painters.

Frances thinks she misses her father. Although his father has some shortcomings, he is a good father and a good man.

Francie would rather fail the composition than agree with the teacher's prejudice. Later, she burned all the flashy A's compositions, leaving only a few articles about her father.

With spiritual wealth, Genvrain West has a broader vision and thinking, which makes her not superstitious about authority, dare to pursue her dreams and never give up.

A good life is inseparable from the pursuit of the spiritual world, and one of the important sources of spiritual wealth is reading.

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What really enriches is the girl's ability to love life.

On the day Frances was born, her grandmother Mary told her mother Katie that children must believe in Santa Claus, God and Jesus, and tell their children fairy tales and folk stories before they are six years old.

Because children should have imagination, and imagination is priceless. Even if life is hard in the future, I will not be trapped in trivial days.

Frances likes to smell coffee, but she doesn't like to drink coffee. Every time she eats bread, Katie will pour her hot coffee, and finally Frances will pour it out. Ivy menstruates that it's a waste to pour coffee like this. Katie says it's good to waste something once in a while. If a cup of coffee can make children feel chic and luxurious, then this cup of coffee is also worth it.

When attending the graduation party in the ice cream shop, Katie generously gave the waiter only twenty cents as a tip. Ivy said that her mother was really stupid. Katie said it was cheap to spend 20 cents to feel like a millionaire.

I want to buy a pile of cheap moldy bread every week as a week's food. Katie's moldy bread is great. The children think that this moldy bread is processed by their mothers one by one, which is really memorable.

When there is no food at home, Katie takes the children to play a food distribution rescue game, a game called "North Pole". With such extraordinary imagination, they imagine that they are exploring the North Pole, and it is nothing to be hungry.

Even if she is poor, Katie tries her best to make the children feel free and rich.

Francie has a rich imagination, and even if the surrounding environment is very bad, she will not be affected.

When Francie looks at the golden brown golden lotus on the library table, she will think of her unique future, which is quite "muddy but not stained, clear but not demon." Field.

Francie said that Brooklyn is a magical city, a bit dreamy and full of mystery. She loves this city. Nelly said that Brooklyn is full of poverty and dirty appearance, just like other cities, but Francie's imagination makes it different.

Imagination adds a little luster to the cruel life, and the life of the Genvrain West family is full of vitality.

Einstein once said that imagination is more important than knowledge.

Imagination is by no means a novelist's patent, and it is necessary to engage in any field of work. If Einstein had no imagination, the great theory of relativity would not have been born. If Newton had no imagination, he wouldn't think of gravity from falling apples. ...

Francie had to drop out of school temporarily after graduating from junior high school, giving up the opportunity to go to school to her younger brother. She has worked as a gardener, archivist, reader and telex typist.

After work, Francie taught herself college courses, skipped high school and passed college exams. /kloc-At the age of 0/6, she was admitted to the University of Michigan, becoming the first person in her family to be admitted to the university, and became a writer when she grew up.

Although Francie's family is poor, everyone loves life so much, and poverty has not stopped her positive enthusiasm.

Even in poverty, the Francie family lived a dignified and decent life. Even if he is poor, Johnny always dresses brightly and cleanly when he goes out, and takes every singing seriously. He is full of enthusiasm and sense of ceremony for life. Even if she is poor, Katie can make moldy bread beautifully. Even if she is poor, Katie can let her children experience the feeling of becoming a millionaire once in a while.

As Roman Roland said: There is only one true heroism in the world, and that is to love life after recognizing the truth of life.

The real enrichment is the girl's ability to love life and positive spirit, which can bloom even in difficulties and hardships.

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Write it at the end

At the end of the story, I was deeply moved by a scene:

Two yards away, Frances saw a little girl sitting on the fire escape, with a book on her lap and a bowl of candy in her hand. Francie waved to the little girl and shouted, "Hello, Francie."

That little girl is like Francie when she was a child, a Francie who swam in the sea of books with a bowl of snacks.

Enriching girls does not lie in the level of family material conditions at all.

But in the process of raising a girl, did you really water her spiritual garden, did you let her live in a loving family, did you give her inexhaustible nutrients, such as reading, thinking and imagination training, and did you teach her to be independent and self-reliant?

The most important thing in raising a daughter is spiritual enrichment, which enriches her strong heart, broad vision, high emotional intelligence and ability to love life.

Children who really eat well can enjoy the best and bear the worst, and are not easily tempted by outside money and interests.

I believe francie's story will inspire you.

May every girl be truly "enriched".

Author | Childhood talent, looking for poetry and distance in the text. Journal author, self-media author, whose works were reprinted by People's Daily in the evening.