As a detail killer, let me analyze the details in the movie and comments on the concept of marriage. Maybe you will have a deeper understanding of love after reading it. If you haven't seen the movie, you'd better watch it first. It's a spoiler. The film is described by nonlinear narrative techniques.
This movie is not about love rat, a woman with a black belly and a spare tire who has been dead for 10,000 years. Many people on the Internet have misunderstood and don't understand.
Let me start with my own conclusion:
In fact, from the beginning, the two were pretending to make both parties fall in love with themselves (just like when they are in love in life, both sides are more or less pretending their shortcomings and showing more of their strengths).
A rich girl who pursues perfection, has a strong desire to control the upper class, and yearns for freedom and rebellion in her heart, falls in love with a poor boy whose family is divorced, but the poor boy is diligent and funny at first.
Then after marriage, the two people have conflicts because of class concepts. More sadly, the man began to show laziness, lack of progress and boredom after encountering setbacks. The woman tried to reform the man and wanted him to be her perfect man, but the man could not stand the woman's reform and control. In the end, the two men had conflicts in economy and life, and the man cheated, which was the final tipping point. The wife saw her ideal husband on TV.
This is a very dark but sad story.
So don't be a TA just because the other person likes it. Bad habits can be changed, but don't change your true self, otherwise one day you are tired and don't want to play, and the other party will say that you have changed.
Let me start with my wife's diary.
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The wife's diary mentioned many times in the movie is true or false. The diary of the wife in the movie exactly records the whole process from sweet love to torn marriage. There are different reasons for their failed marriage, such as family conflicts, children, money and other factors, but be careful not to be deceived by his wife's diary and memories in the film. Many people watch movies, which are very rough, and they simply can't understand which scenes are true and which are false.
On June 8, 2005, the two met at the party, and the man's humor touched the woman's heart.
(PS: as you can see later, in fact, at first, both of them were pretending for both sides)
Prove that the diary is true.
On February 24, 2007, the man proposed at the launch of the woman's new book "Magic Amy".
Proved to be true.
On July 5, 2009, two years before their marriage, the two still found it interesting, and they guessed each other from time to time to create romance.
Proved to be true.
On July 2010/8, they lost their jobs, their jobs were not smooth, and contradictions began to appear. In fact, this is what the police officer later said about the town's economic depression. Because of unemployment, great changes have taken place in her husband's personality. The wife's parents were in urgent need of her daughter's funds because of their high debts. The wife decided to use them without authorization, while the husband accused him of spending money lavishly and thought that she didn't trust herself.
Their marriage began to have problems because of the economy. Therefore, the marriage between husband and wife often has problems, and most of them are caused by money problems at first.
There was something wrong with the heroine's diary at first, but it may be true. Nick lost his job and spent all her money. In addition, the woman gave the man a lot of toys such as game machines, and he became lazy. This is the real contradiction between two people, because the husband became lazy and became a middle-aged man with a big belly. Instead of a young man he loved at first, the woman couldn't accept it at first, and the woman wanted to control, but the man couldn't stand it. The appearance of mistress in the back further deepened the contradiction and made her a woman with a black belly.
The fifth anniversary gift from my wife can prove it.
The heroine is telling the truth, so this passage of the children's protagonist in the whole film is the truth.
On September 23rd, 20 10, they moved to the man's hometown of Missouri, because his mother was in poor health and had to take care of her. The wife left the familiar place and was alone in a strange environment, but her personality was out of tune with the surrounding environment. Lonely, she couldn't get her husband's love, and the contradiction began to intensify. The failure of husband and wife to consider each other is also one of the reasons for the breakdown of marriage.
In fact, this is true or false. In fact, I moved there because I had no money, and what the hostess said was one-sided, so it was deceptive.
201165438+1October 2. The man's mother Maureen died, and the man was heartbroken. Later, we learned that his parents' failed marriage did harm to his young body and mind, and his mother became a warm pillar for him and his sister.
According to the man's situation, this is true.
Here, the hostess recorded that she tried to save their dying love with her children, and then her husband refused to allow himself to be pushed and so on. These scenes are all imagined by the hostess herself, and they are all false, which can actually be confirmed one by one. So many people can sympathize with the woman's revenge and don't be deceived. Although the man cheated, he still didn't do much for his original wife.
In fact, the real situation should be that the man wants to have children, but the woman doesn't agree. The woman has a strong desire for control and wants to control the man. The man can't stand it and has an affair.
The man told the truth.
Here, the hostess also admitted that being pushed to this matter is simply not a thing.
(So what the husbands above do to themselves is actually false, and the director's narrative ability and arrangement ability are very strong. )
12, 14 February Valentine's Day, the hostess began to be suspicious. In fact, we can know later that the husband had a mistress, but the wife said in her diary that she began to cry again, which won the sympathy of the audience. There are false ingredients here.
Later, the man told his sister on the morning of his wife's disappearance that he wanted to divorce her, so it can be speculated that this is also the place where the woman framed the man.
That man told the truth.
In fact, we later learned that the woman had been studying psychology and criminology, and at that moment she had already begun to have this plan. Brainwashing neighbors, saying that they have been subjected to domestic violence, pretending to be pregnant, winning public sympathy, and then creating a husband's debt wiki and providing his own life insurance, creating a motive to kill his wife, because the husband's finances are in his wife's name, it can also be seen here that the man's life skills are zero, which is just in line with Ma Baonan's positioning.
Deliberately leaving careless evidence at the crime scene and so on. Then I left a real diary and the police got it. Then he committed suicide, which made the whole world spit on this man and killed his pregnant wife.
Amy said that she gave up the cello when she was ten. When the police come to investigate, they can see Amy's childhood photos on the desktop. Amy's parents forced Amy to give up cello, volleyball, puppy and so on. So later Amy wrote the book Amazing Amy instead of realizing her childhood dream.
Amy said that she was jealous of the characters she wrote, which implied that Amy had a strong sense of anxiety in her childhood, hiding the foreshadowing of her distorted personality. It's not hard to imagine that she was retaliating against her husband's infidelity. It can be said that she actually suffers from schizophrenia. In fact, she didn't live as others hoped, and her husband's cheating was just a tipping point.
In fact, there is a hint in the play that Amy has been living under the control of her parents since she grew up. For example, at the new book party, she admitted that her life was betrayed by her parents, and her trust fund, house and even clothes were inspired by her parents. So it's not hard to see that Amy lives a depressed life. Later, when she drove away from home, she drank coke and ate French fries. When she is happy, she can jump up and do something that a lady can't do. The director deliberately chose a group of female drivers on the highway, suggesting that Amy wants to be free (a little tribute to thelma and louise? )
In a sense, it is also the awakening of female consciousness.
They met and fell in love, and it was cheating from the beginning. The woman was fascinated by the man's humor and loyalty. Another layer of love was that the man was different from the men around her, or that her inner rebellion was at work, but she knew what kind of cool girl the man liked, so she pretended to be herself from the beginning and then got the man's love. The hostess has been controlled by her parents for a long time and is used to pretending to be herself instead of expressing her true thoughts. When she woke up completely, she decided to take a crazy revenge. In fact, she wants to resist. She has a strong sense of control and anxiety.
So don't be a TA just because the other person likes it. Bad habits can be changed, but don't change your true self, otherwise one day you are tired and don't want to play, and the other party will say that you have changed.
Later, the man went to Amy's ex-boyfriend, which is the same description. Amy actually retaliated against her ex-boyfriend before, faking the rape scene and labeling her ex-boyfriend as a rape. Later, she also carried out such a rape scene on his other rich spare tire. So she has hinted at men's desire for control and anxiety.
03? Personality and family influence of men with failed marriage
Nick's father appeared, but in fact Nick's family also had problems. Nick himself was influenced by his parents' failed marriage, so both the man and the woman were influenced by their parents, which is also one of the reasons for the marriage crisis. Both people are responsible, or both families are responsible. Think about it. In life, the quarrel between husband and wife will definitely affect two families in the end.
Nick abused his father in the play.
Later, it can be known that parents' divorce also has a certain influence on men.
This last detail actually implies that Nick is very resentful of his father.
The man mentioned his mother and taught him to be a gentleman. This is also the reason why the man refuses to refuse others. Many of his stupid actions have intensified the direction of public opinion.
It can be inferred from the combination that Chunik was protected by his mother since childhood, and his ability to resist pressure is very weak, so whenever he encounters difficulties, he will transfer the pressure to his wife, which is one of the reasons why his temperament has changed greatly after he lost his job.
In fact, in the film, my sister is also very caring for the man. The play implies that she has been taking care of the man. When the man was accused by public opinion, it was my sister who always accompanied him. In fact, men have always been very fragile inside. Public opinion even thinks that their brother and sister are incestuous.
Moreover, he is full of distrust of his wife's ex-boyfriend and marriage, so he has always kept this pile of things from his wife's ex-boyfriend to remind himself that his wife may be taken away, and his wife is unreliable. This pile of things later became the key product of his wife's connection with the rich spare tire.
The latter guess is that the man can't stand the woman's control and finds a mistress.
The wife made up her mind to get back at her husband because seeing him treat his mistress like this is very similar to the scene where the hero and heroine want to kiss for the first time. This action is actually a metaphor, symbolizing the best memories between husband and wife. The husband does this action for the mistress, which shows that the husband has no feelings for his wife.
It's true that her husband cheated, which is a fact.
This action represents the best memory, and now it doesn't exist.
Finally, I woke up the memory of the hostess by this action.
This is the end, this action has become a form, because the man no longer loves his wife, he just goes with the flow.
At first, the two were full of longing for marriage, and gradually the husband was tired of this speculation and anniversary.
Even my own sister spoke of this man's boredom.
On the first anniversary of the paper wedding, she gave him a notebook and he gave her a kite.
On the second anniversary of Mian's marriage, she gave him sheets and he gave him sheets. (The hostess directly shows that they have a good sex life. )
On the fourth wedding anniversary, she took him to blossom.
The fifth anniversary, wooden marriage. On this day, my wife disappeared.
On the fifth anniversary, my wife played a treasure hunt for the man, and combined with the place where the man admitted to cheating, in fact, every clue reminded her that the man was cheating. And she played this game because her husband was tired of her game, and she used it to test whether her husband was still interesting.
I personally appreciate this film because it only borrows the shell of marriage and actually talks about the status quo of many classes in the United States.
There is a word Amy used to describe herself in the movie Westchester Girl, which is the suburb of new york and the old community of wasp.
The real "upper class" in America is Wasp, not that you are rich or upper class. White Anglo-Saxon Protestants, white, of British descent, Protestants. Amy's family background is Wasp. She is the so-called "Tust-fund kid", graduated from Ivy League University and graduated from Westchester girl. If such people are engaged to get married, they all have information about marriage in the new york Times. The media pays special attention to people with such background. These people think highly of themselves. In the play, Amy doesn't want to make friends with her neighbors, because class is the strangest, and Nick really married her. Tom and Daisy in The Great Gatsby are in this wasp background.
Nick is actually a poor boy, so we know why all his bars and so on are under his wife's name, because Amy's family is well-off and she is in charge of financial management.
Amy's love for Nick has another meaning. She has lived in high society since she was a child. When a funny poor boy appeared and was different from the people she had contacted before, she immediately became interested. This can be learned from the love between Rose and Jack in Titanic.
What his wife said to the spare tire actually showed their class view, but she loved the poor boy.
Their love was unequal from the beginning, including living habits and ways of thinking.
Amy wants to have sex with Nick in the library, which is also an aspect of her personal rebellion and excitement.
The most terrible thing is the last wife. She knows that her husband no longer loves her, but she must tie him down in her own life.
She likes Nick on TV.
Finally, she tied Nick and her children together. Why didn't Nick get a divorce? The genius of the hostess lies in using public opinion to know that Nick is the weakness of the single family. Nick understands that a divorced parent has such a great influence on his children.
After the marriage, you can't spell the card of children.
This is the most cruel darkness in this film, extremely cruel. The Lost Girl can be said to be an excellent film. It implies that Nick will leave after 18 years, and in this 18 years, he will show his love for his wife in front of outsiders.
This film is not only about marriage, cruelty of human nature, class opposition, the guidance of public opinion, legal defects and so on. My favorite david fincher is not just a boxing club.
In the above shot, the script says "Amy wakes up, turns around and shows a frightened expression" (Amy wakes up, turns around and shows an alert expression). In the following scene, the script says, "Amy turns around and gives him a smile." Amy turns her head and gives him a chilling smile. )
This is the cat's eye, and the cats that appear many times in the film are metaphorical.
You got it?
Pretend to love when you know you don't love.
We'll dig into the details in the next issue.