Meet My Past Life is a work by Gao Yuan, a master of potential development who is proficient in Chinese and Western knowledge, and also a best-selling author of China's "subconscious" books. He inherited the ideological theory and practical experience of james allen, Dale Carnegie, Napoleon Hill, Tony Ebbins and other world-famous inspirational masters and subconscious experts, and was recognized by readers in potential guidance, self-awareness, self-improvement and self-change.
In the preface of this book, there is a topic "Meeting with another" I "unexpectedly, which caught my attention. I carefully read the preface word for word, in which I have the following words:
"Everyone has two complicated attitudes towards another self, great expectations or deep fears."
"The heart is like a solid bronze mirror, which always gives you a vague image, making you like a demon and a wise man; It makes you strong, but it keeps destroying you. What do you see? It doesn't depend on what it gives you, but on your own ideals and direction. "
"Everyone has a devil in his heart. When you overcome it, you become the master of your own thoughts; But when you fail, you become its obedient slave. It erodes your soul when you are weak, and makes you lose your direction and all powerful positive forces when you are afraid and helpless. "
Finally, the author said: "I hope my journey full of hallucinations, pain and release will be helpful to all who read this book." Indeed, after reading this book, I learned to think about such questions, and at the same time, I began to try to answer these questions:
"How can I face my life? What is the other me like? Is it an angel or a devil? "
In this book, the author shows us all kinds of magical self-healing methods and the spiritual course of self-awakening and self-consciousness through meditation cases and rich personal experiences of celebrities. This is not only a highly readable dialogue between body and mind, a novel with story style, but also an easy-to-understand spiritual inspirational classic.
This book is a double journey of body and mind in the face of the difficulties of plateau life-company bankruptcy, wife abandonment and physical illness ... When the career encountered major setbacks and life encountered major changes, the author once lost his way. In order to emancipate the mind, the author chose to travel, from Los Angeles to India, from Mumbai to China and Tibet, and from Tokyo to South America. On the way, I met all kinds of people, including entrepreneurs. The special experience gave him special inspiration. Finally, the author stood at the crossroads of life, awakened, awakened and suddenly enlightened. This feeling, perhaps, only comes once in a lifetime.
In the article "Call from afar", a monk's words made me think deeply: "A person's life is a process of constant pursuit. Wherever people go, there is always something to pursue. What people are pursuing and about to experience exists in their hearts. People's hearts are full of primitive power, which is directly subordinate to nature and the universe. Just like you, your desires and ambitions, confusion and confusion are not easily controlled by yourself, but in your body, in your mind and in your soul. If you want to change anything, you should start with your inner soul, not your appearance. Everyone should be 100% responsible for everything he has experienced in his life, and can't blame anyone, because everything starts from himself, and all karma is only the result of his own actions. This fruit belongs to you and should not be shared by anyone, even if its taste is bitter and sinful. "
After reading this, I was shocked This is the first time I have seen this kind of scenery. I think what he said is very reasonable. He looks at things in the world from a completely opposite angle. In fact, many people commit suicide. They don't want to find their true selves. They have a lasting fear of the unknown self, only pay attention to the problem itself, and never ask their own hearts.
I find that we are always repeating the conclusion to others, always asking others, not ourselves. We always want others to change things and meet our expectations. We want the world to be self-centered, and we want the world to run freely according to our will. So, if something goes wrong, we put the blame on the outside and we lose. The essence of life is to overcome confusion. We should feel great regret for what happened to us, not anger and despair. Facing setbacks and difficulties in this new way of looking at ourselves will help us heal our spiritual confusion to some extent.
Similarly, how can we alleviate our own pain? The only sure and effective way is to love yourself, which will be the password to open the door to healing. This method should be used on yourself, not others. Only by loving yourself and refusing to complain and escape can we have a chance to open the door to unknown energy.
Psychological "consciousness" refers to the spiritual world opposite to the material world, which is a kind of awareness and a state of mind. The content of human consciousness includes its inner spiritual activities such as thinking, thought, emotion and will. The purpose of psychological research on consciousness is to reveal the laws of psychological activities. In this book, the author learned from Sister Pritana that the explanation of "consciousness" is:
"Consciousness is our soul and spirituality, and it is the ultimate power of life. It has many masks, just like this sad mask you are wearing now, and it is also an energy that belongs to her. Your pain, joy, sadness, excitement, despair and impulsiveness are all under its control. "
After reading this, I quickly began to recall what I had learned about "consciousness", took out my textbook and reviewed it carefully. Suddenly, I feel that the knowledge of psychology is very abstract, which will make people sprout various problems. I suddenly thought of the word "subconscious". When I read the author's profile, I was amazed to see that his book label was "subconscious". The knowledge of psychology is everywhere, showing its magical power to this confused world in various ways.
The book says, "Everything must have a bitter taste before it matures. No one can control everything. There are advantages and disadvantages, advantages and disadvantages. Weakness is the honesty of a wise man, and strength is the vanity of a fool. "
After reading this paragraph, I didn't understand it for a while, but it took me a long time to understand it again. Just like the author's doubts, I am also thinking about this question: "I have many shortcomings and make new discoveries every day." Should I hide them in case the enemy catches me and kills me? " However, as the leader of a company, I can't let my men and opponents see my shortcomings in order to show that I have answers and win every battle. I've been trying to do it, but I'm under great pressure because it's too difficult to do it. "
In fact, this idea of ownership is very pitiful and sympathetic. We should bravely tell others your shortcomings, including your opponents, enemies and all strangers who make you wary. This will release our own pressure. You know, sometimes shortcomings will become lovely and become advantages because of our frankness.
Yes, why hide the objective facts? People's hearts are not exposed too much, but covered up too much. In fact, we don't need to ask ourselves what we want or care what others think of us. We should learn to ask ourselves what else we can do. For yourself, for the people you love and the people who love you. Sometimes, when we have problems, we should ask ourselves well. There are some answers and truths that we need to give ourselves.
Everyone will encounter both physical and psychological oppression. Many people choose to commit suicide because they can't bear the continuous blows of career, marriage and disease, and some people have a mental breakdown, crying and living in sadness every day. Of course, some people are right. Faced with this desperate situation, they will suddenly have a strong desire to survive and desperately look for a cure. Sometimes, we feel that we can't grasp our wandering thoughts, feelings and energy. We want to talk, we want to release, but we can't find an exit.
At this time, we need to find someone we trust most, such as our best friend, or a psychologist, to completely relax our body and mind, or to travel. Yes, a strong man will always experience great and small hopes or despair in his life. What matters is not what you have experienced, but what you can do for yourself.
In fact, what we usually fear and fear is sometimes not as terrible as we think. The difference lies in whether we have the courage to face it. As long as we have the courage and strength, the power of success has been closely following us, which will let the belief that can promote our success enter our hearts, and we will also experience a brand-new life change.
The author said that it is necessary to know the "black sheep" in him. After a series of great losses such as bankruptcy, divorce and illness, he attached a new apple to the bad apple every day, hoping to cover up all the misfortunes. In fact, we use the expectation of the future to cover up yesterday's failure-if we don't come up with useful solutions and have no determination to let go of the burden, it's just a cover-up. As a result, our temper is getting worse and worse, our health is getting worse and worse, and we have fewer and fewer friends. Obviously, only slowly picking apples and gradually removing these useless energies is the most fundamental solution.
Forgetting is something we say we can't control. This is a terminal mental illness. Many people choose this way to escape the pain. Even if Ebbinghaus discovered the memory curve, we still can't control forgetting. Unconsciously, we forgot our home phone number, bank card password, relatives' birthdays, childhood anecdotes and friends' names. These simple or serious forgetfulness make us face a crisis at an important moment.
The author's description of "forgetting" reminds me of the explanation I have learned about the reasons for forgetting. According to the recession theory, forgetting is the result of weakening gradually because it has not been strengthened, so that it finally disappears gradually; According to the interference theory, forgetting is caused by the interference of other stimuli between learning and memory. Once the interference is eliminated, the memory can be restored. Repression theory interprets forgetting as motivation, which is the repression of painful and embarrassing memories; According to the theory of retrieval failure, the information entered into long-term memory can be preserved for a long time, but the main reason for forgetting is that the stored information cannot be extracted, and many memories cannot be extracted because of the lack of appropriate memory clues when recalling.
The systematic description of "forgetting" in textbooks makes me think about how to improve my memory in my life and study and make myself do better. However, many times, we don't want to have a good memory and forget some bad and painful things, but we just can't forget them. Perhaps this is the strengthening of the unconscious, and it is difficult to forget them unconsciously.
Our life is just one performance after another, just like the life of most people in society. Society itself is a stage, and one person participates in the performance at the same time. People cooperate tacitly, cover up the inner truth, put on props and perform the plot of the script design. Everything seems to be normal, and there is no sign of any performance. What makes me sad is that we have been correcting other people's established impressions of ourselves and making ourselves as perfect as possible. We spare no effort to win more honors and beautiful results through large-scale activities, and we also hope that others will paint their own image according to our point of view.
All our efforts are to add our own color to other people's eyes, add our own camouflage to others' eyes, and create a very valuable "me in the mirror" in others' eyes. This is the deception and disguise of the mind. We constantly hide our inner feelings, ignore our real requirements, hide our true colors, blindly cater to others, and then gradually lose ourselves. We have been lost in the trap of hypocrisy, which seems to be a vicious circle. The beginning of a scam represents the arrival of more scams.
However, our posturing and performance is to make others change their views on themselves, and this process is also a process of constantly expanding and upgrading ourselves. In this sense, putting on airs and performing itself has its positive side, and its existence allows us to constantly make up for our own shortcomings and win the trust and respect of others, thus shaping a more "valuable" "me in the mirror".
As the most advanced creature on the earth, human beings themselves contain enormous energy-both positive and negative. In our body, thought has two parts: one is consciousness, not subconscious. Consciousness and subconsciousness are not evenly matched. The power of subconsciousness is tens of thousands of times greater than consciousness, which can help us realize our wishes. However, many times, we don't wake up the subconscious in the body.
Some people always complain that they can't make good use of their subconscious. The problem is that they don't understand the process of its formation: the subconscious mind comes from our hearts, and it will turn what we think into reality. The subconscious is also flawed. It can't tell the truth from the truth. It ignores lies or sincerity. The subconscious is too loyal to our brains. Once it accepts an idea, it won't ask you if it's true or not. Therefore, we can deceive anyone, but not our subconscious.
Everyone in this world will deceive themselves. The reason why we choose to deceive ourselves stems from our unwillingness to face up to the reality we escape. When we are used to deceiving ourselves, we will never realize that we are deceiving ourselves. Once this state becomes a stereotype, we can't recognize and reflect. In other words, each of us likes to justify ourselves. We find a reasonable reason to easily erase our dishonesty, the reality that we don't want to face and escape, and cover up our inner true values, thus putting on a suitable coat for wrong views and ideas.
Some people will call this kind of self-deception "introspection"-they even call it a rare advantage. However, in my opinion, people who hold this view are already deceiving themselves more seriously. Introspection belongs to the level of introspection to a certain extent, but in fact he is avoiding reality and finding a reasonable reason to excuse himself, which is his initial rationalization of his mistakes. The result of introspection is getting closer and closer to reality, while the result of self-deception is to make yourself more hypocritical and divorced from the real health requirements of yourself and your soul.
The author says that there are three obstacles to disturb and suppress the essence of our inner subconscious awakening for a long time:
1, I feel used to everything.
2. Find reasons for yourself.
3. Think positively.
In addition to positive thinking, there is another way to change the negative situation, and that is correct self-reflection. A good provincial capital helps us to take a wait-and-see attitude towards the inner changes and let the negative thoughts slowly resolve themselves. As long as one accepts the truth, one has the courage to abandon the fallacy. The courage needed for self-reflection is just to let us face the facts squarely. Therefore, if we trust in the truth, our life will be greatly rewarded.
In the article "An Emotional Test", there is a question at the beginning:
"What is the mood? How powerful is it? "
A study by Professor Nan Di Nathan of the University of Michigan found that ordinary people spend about 30% of their lives in a bad mood.
Maybe we don't realize in our daily life that our life is very objective. For a time, our hearts were filled with anger, anxiety, anxiety and other negative emotions. In this world, only a few people can really control their emotions rationally. In life, endless examples tell us that emotional changes are often reflected in some of our neurophysiological activities.
American scientists have found through long-term research that negative emotions are immeasurable harm to our health. People who are often angry and hostile are more likely to suffer from cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases than normal people. The survey of Harvard University also found that among 1600 patients with heart disease, more than 50% are often anxious, depressed and grumpy, which is more than three times that of ordinary people.
There is no doubt that this is a scientific conclusion, and bad emotions are always the most useless emotions in the heart. For us, emotions are like pulses, like blood vessels. We can't completely peel them off, but the most important experience is to adjust our nervous personality and try to stifle bad emotions in the cradle so that they can't grow and deepen. Only in this way can we build the most positive emotional fortress for ourselves. If we want to strive for a new world for good emotions, we must be brave enough to fight against those negative emotions, resist and guide them to change in a positive direction.
There is no excuse to avoid and delay the improvement of bad emotions, because the harm of bad emotions will not automatically escape to one side because of your forgetting, it will always exist in our bodies. Whenever there is an opportunity, it will make waves, dominate our subconscious and pollute our hearts.
Therefore, to improve the bad mood, we need to change the wrong cognition and start from the following aspects:
1, the principle of finding bad emotions.
2. Respect our laws of physics.
3. Make sure you get enough sleep.
4. Create time for yourself to be close to nature.
5. Develop a good habit of regular exercise.
6, a reasonable diet in life.
7. Cultivate a positive and optimistic attitude.
Also, to treat bad emotions, we should give ourselves hints and warnings in time, learn to adjust ourselves, get rid of the control of negative emotions, and how to adjust ourselves. The author gives the following suggestions:
1, divert attention at the right time.
2. Change your old view of things.
3. Be good at inspiring our hearts with the power of self-suggestion.
Only when we are convinced that "everything can be changed" can we change things. We must constantly tell ourselves what I "must" be, not what I "should" be.
Sometimes, positive hints can be achieved through mirrors. When we are angry, find a mirror and try to smile in front of it for a few minutes, and our mood will be happy. Self-suggestion can be done not only in silence, but also out loud, even on paper.
As long as you can constantly give yourself positive hints, you can effectively offset your long-term thinking habits. Naturally, the more we often choose positive and inflated words and concepts to motivate ourselves, the easier it is to have a positive attitude.
Everyone's attitude towards himself determines the value given by his life. William james, a famous psychologist, once said, "Thought itself is a thinker". In other words, everyone needs to know their attitude towards themselves devoutly. The cognition of "self" must be completely separated from other conscious activities. Only in this way can the cognition of "self" be completely separated from other conscious activities at the brain level.
The way a person treats himself determines whether he can trust himself completely. If he can't trust himself completely, he will fall into the whirlpool of extreme inferiority and self-confidence. I know that many times, self-confidence is actually very close to me, and all kinds of facts hidden in my heart are the reasons why I feel inferior or not confident. However, what does inferiority and self-confidence have to do with our own prosperity or adversity? Inner self-confidence is actually only closely related to a person's inner affirmation of self-worth. It's true, no matter what the environment, a truly confident person can always find live high's strong style.
Putting aside self-confidence for a while, we can discuss inferiority complex. Inferiority, in essence, is an invisible killer of a person's personality, which creates a morbid personality and a distorted mind. , and make people become losers on the road of life, and even become suicides who hate life. Only by deeply discussing the causes of inferiority complex can we find ways and means to eliminate inferiority complex, find evidence and data, and finally overcome and conquer inferiority complex.
Mentally, inferiority complex is actually caused by the deviation of self-consciousness. Simply put, inferiority is a kind of self-contempt, and it is also the heart that others look down on themselves. It will give people an illusion, just like movies. People with low self-esteem will lack basic beliefs, do nothing, and even fail to complete tasks that can be completed with a little effort. Specifically, they often bow their heads early in the face of difficulties and give up helplessly.
Obviously, people with inferiority always suspect that others subconsciously look down on themselves, and always regard other people's remarks and actions that have nothing to do with them as contempt and contempt for themselves. As a result, they fall into a seemingly endless vicious circle, and their inner inferiority will increase day by day, just like a malignant tumor lurking in people's bodies.
People who have been shrouded in inferiority complex for a long time will not only lose their healthy body and mind, but also lay a negative psychological barrier for their behavior. These people can't see their own strengths, let alone explore their own potential. In short, this is the result of a lack of trust in yourself.
Perhaps, negative self-evaluation and suggestion are the fundamental reasons for our inferiority complex. Negative self-suggestion is not influenced by our background, but we can do nothing about it when we are young, and we don't even know which emotions belong to negative self-suggestion. In this extremely helpless situation, we can only passively accept their influence. People in the ignorant stage have no choice but to accept this negative state. Therefore, if a person underestimates himself, he will be shrouded in endless inferiority and give up on himself in life. There is only one realm that a person can only reach in his life, that is, the balance within the mind and the establishment of solid self-confidence.
There are two ways to bid farewell to the dilemma mentioned in the book.
1, we should fully grasp the scope of self-evaluation.
2, determine a reasonable comparable object for yourself.
People should learn to release their inner pressure. Nowadays, many people are "hermits" who escape pressure. Most of them have a huge mental burden that ordinary people can't bear, so they will adopt this extreme lifestyle and find a place to hide themselves in order to escape the pressure.
If we want to keep our hearts clean and tidy, we must start "inner cleaning" to clean up useless energy. The way of "suppressing" or "escaping" can only make useless energy accumulate continuously. Facing, accepting and dealing with those feelings is the basis of keeping your heart clean.
A really smart person who cares about his mental health will not only carry out "internal cleaning" every day, but also pay more attention to internal daily maintenance. No matter whether there is external pressure or not, we should always pay attention to our current feelings and ensure the immediate release of useless energy.
The article "Overcoming Fear" says that many people feel very nervous before exams. They had reviewed well and were quite familiar with some difficult knowledge points, but as soon as they walked into the examination room and stared at the blank paper, their brains would be blank and they could not remember anything! In fact, not only students, but also ordinary people will have this experience.
There is an important subconscious law that can explain this phenomenon: everyone will focus on what they can realize. People who appear this phenomenon will focus on the idea that "I may fail", and as a result, the subconscious will turn this "possible failure" into reality. Fear of failure will bring real failure experience, which is "suggestive amnesia". Because of fear, people get the result they are afraid of.
There is no doubt that fear is the killer of the mind. A little fear is part of the dead cells of the mind. Although small, it can kill the whole life.
The only way to keep the consciousness and subconscious in harmony is to learn to relax and calm down the whole mind. Under the constant stimulation of positive thoughts, the omnipotent subconscious will slowly begin to play a role. The subconscious mind adjusts the thoughts in the consciousness accordingly, imagines a beautiful result, and constantly gives orders, while the mind will help us achieve this beautiful result in various ways.
If you want to gain courage and let fear "starve to death", you must try your best to create these situations:
1, love.
2. here you are.
3. Help others.
4. rest.
5. Set clear goals.
6. Clean and tidy.
7. Get in touch with positive people.
8. Embrace nature.
9. A reasonable, healthy and balanced diet.
10, read positive books.
1 1 and encourage yourself.
12, love to share.
13, encourage self-change.
A person, who has lived in the world for too long, bears too much desire and pressure, and his mind is bound to be contaminated with dust, polluting and deceiving our original clean mind with all kinds of information. A psychologist once said that on this planet, man is one of the animals that will make garbage to pollute himself, and at the same time, man is also the spiritual creature that will deceive himself the most. People not only can't see their true selves clearly, but often don't know how much divine power they have.
If a person's heart is full of dirt, his dusty heart makes his spirituality gloomy and confused, his subconscious "divinity" is weak, and his conscious mind is exhausted. The garbage in our hearts is hidden deep, such as troubles, desires, sadness, pain and other invisible garbage hidden in various angles that are not easy to be found.
Only by sweeping away the thick dust in the mental room and making more positive and happy space can your gloomy heart become bright, your messy heart become clean and bid farewell to the troubles and despair of life. At the same time, strive to do the following:
1, when you need to choose, please think carefully, based on thinking.
We should make the best choice in time.
3, let the spirit lose, even if someone finds your shame.
4. For your own life, you learn to weigh and think deeply.
Cherish your old friends and don't complain.
At the end of the work, the author reviews his mental journey and draws a conclusion: be happy every day, regardless of gains and losses, because your mind will always leave rich memories in its journey.