Indeed, we can choose not to contact strangers, but we often face the occasion of dealing with strangers.

As a salesperson, you need to be a stranger (visit strangers). How to start with an unfamiliar person?

At the party, I don't want to miss the opportunity to know t a when I see the girl or boy I like. How do you begin the first sentence?

When having dinner, how can I talk without being too embarrassed in front of some unknown friends at the dinner table?

The first impression at first is very important. What you say directly affects the customer's impression of you and the conversation atmosphere behind you.

There is no topic and I don't know how to start it, which is very painful for many people.

Even if some people are looking for a topic, they can often make a good atmosphere very cold or inadvertently fall into an embarrassing chat situation.

You: Where do you work?

Client: In a media company.

You: How did you get there?

Guest: By car.

You: Which bus do you take?

Customer: The subway.

You: Oh, do you want to reverse it?

Customer: Yes, I must go back.

You: What time do you go out every day?

Guest: It's still early. Well, I have something to do. Let's talk about it later.

When strangers get along, if they want to have a conversation, they need to find the right topic, not nothing to say and nothing to talk about.

Then how to find the right topic?

(1) Start a topic through the environment.

British people like to talk about the weather best, because the weather there is complex and changeable, which is very suitable for a topic. Although we can't use the weather often, it is a good way to find a topic.

"Recently, the weather is sometimes hot and sometimes rainy, which makes it difficult for people to get dressed."

"Yes, I just put away my thick clothes a few days ago, and it's cold again."

"But it's better than a foggy sunny day."

(2) Start a topic with the other person's dress.

It is a safer way to find a topic from the other person's dress. I wouldn't worry about going into a dead end. Especially for women, when you praise her dress and clothes, you will be far more sincere than praising their figure and appearance.

"Where did you buy this dress today? Too elegant. "

"Are you? I chose it in Wanda Shopping Mall some time ago. "

"You really know how to choose clothes, so I always worry about choosing clothes."

(3) Start the topic through the items in the other person's hand.

When I can't think of a topic at the moment, I can sometimes carry out my ideas smoothly from the items in the other person's hand.

For example, at a cocktail party, we talked about the wine in the glass and the books that each other read in the library.

In "Truant Veyron 2", Stephen Chow saw Athena Chu reading a book in the corner of the library, and started a conversation with the book in Athena Chu's hand as the topic:

Zhou: "The novel Rough Waves is not suitable for you. The hero and heroine met by chance, and the waves were stormy. Unfortunately, in the end, the whole family died and ended in tragedy, which was very miserable. You should pick the happy one. "

Zhu: "Happy?"

Zhou: "For example, Yi Shu's Dream of Spring, Tsusaka Kitano's City Hunter, Niaoshanming's Doctor of IQ, and Dragon Humen, I believe they are the best for you."

Stephen Chow took books as the topic here, which not only showed his talent, but also gave Athena Chu some suggestions, which increased his favor.

Of course, some people will ask, what if TA has exactly what I don't understand?

If you feel that you don't know much about the topic, you can be a qualified listener, mainly asking questions, talking less and listening more.

For example, if you see a handsome male photographer taking pictures in the park, you can ask for advice.

Of course, the advantages of observing for a period of time in advance are as follows: first, let the other party discover your existence, and avoid suddenly going up to chat up and let the other party be caught off guard. Second, you can show interest in what he is doing now, and pave the way for the opening.

"Handsome boy, do you usually only take pictures of scenery or people?"

"I take more pictures."

"When I used to climb the mountain, I also wanted to take some scenery photos, but I always couldn't take them well. Is there any simple way to do this? "

In the process of finding the topic, there are some details to pay attention to.

(1) Don't "audit".

Chatting is not a police account. "How many people are there in your family? What do your parents do? "Don't check the household registration.

A sincere and effective chat means that both parties have the will to express themselves.

It's not a question-and-answer conversation. The speaker is always trying to find a topic to ask, and he is tired.

The listener feels censored and more tired.

(2) Don't chatter, listen more and talk less.

Many people like to talk nonstop when chatting, only thinking about their height, but ignoring whether the other person wants to listen.

Therefore, it is wise to listen more and talk less in the face of unfamiliar people. On the one hand, we can gradually understand each other's information from each other's words, such as hobbies, three views and so on. On the other hand, I am also giving myself the opportunity to find the right topic.

(3) Don't have nothing to say.

Sometimes it may be because the other person is in a bad mood, or is really busy with other things and not in the mood to chat with you. At this time, you should be able to observe the words. Once you find that the other party has no positive response or appears impatient, you should stop here. Let's talk about it next time.

It is not difficult to communicate with strangers. The relationship between people is not how to maintain, but how to start.

Therefore, using the above three methods, it is no longer difficult for you and strangers to break the ice.