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Reading Notes on "The Weakness of Human Nature" 1 What do you think of when you see this title? Greed, jealousy, arrogance, or criticism of human nature? Of course, I thought so when I saw the title, so in the long sea of books, this book deeply attracted me. So I couldn't wait to glance at the catalogue, only to find that I understood it wrong, completely wrong. This book can be summarized in one sentence: "It makes you realize the weakness of human nature and teaches you how to correct it." In a word, this book is like an answer book. When you meet a special problem, you may find the answer you want.
This book is divided into seven chapters, which tells the weakness of human nature from seven aspects, namely, the skills of getting along with others, 6 secrets of being popular everywhere, 12 methods of cooperating with others, 9 skills of persuading others better, 7 coup of asking others for help, 10 suggestions of cooperation and competition, and 6 methods of making family happier.
In the process of reading this book of answers, I feel that every chapter I read will have new feelings and new inspirations, and many things are not fully understood at first. Only by reading and thinking repeatedly and combining with your own life experience can you truly understand the real connotation.
First of all, I understand the world difference between criticism and praise and a special desire for important people.
As the book says: "Criticism is like a domestic pigeon, which will always come back. If I want to create a sense of disgust that lasts for decades until I die tomorrow, I just need to spit out a vicious word. " This book is also proved by a concrete example. For example, Sulzer, one of new york's most notorious gangsters, said in a newspaper interview before Newark was knocked down by gunmen that he was a benefactor of the public and he was convinced of it. It seems that people who associate with crime have similar psychology of concealing defense, and deliberately use a wrong or reasonable reasoning to justify their anti-social behavior, thinking that this is a matter of course. The purpose of the examples in the book is that fugitives never blame themselves. Where are the people around you and me?
The same applies to education. The book gives an example of "a father who can't convince people". After reading it, he suddenly felt that one can't treat children according to their age. When a child has any problems, don't blame him blindly, but communicate with him attentively, fully understand and breed tolerance and kindness, just like the first rule in the book: "Don't criticize, don't blame and don't complain."
After reading Carnegie's book The Weakness of Human Nature, my thoughts sometimes collide. Our traditional concept is that strict teachers make excellent students. Is it not good to be strict? In fact, if you think about it carefully, you will understand that in fact, strict requirements cannot be compared with sharp criticism. Looking at today's society, in this competitive era, we must seize the opportunity and have our own "stage" in order to have the opportunity to "shine" ourselves. The "personal stage" is hard to come by, so we need the help of this "book of answers".
In short, in the journey of life, this "book of answers" will let you get the truth in the bitter sea of life.
The Weakness of Human Nature Reading Notes 2 "The Weakness of Human Nature" was written by Carnegie, the father of modern American adult education. This book tells the story of many ordinary people's continuous efforts to succeed, and it is an inspirational classic that sells well at home and abroad. It is like a mirror, which helps people to know themselves and know themselves, so as to improve themselves and control themselves, and finally become a successful person who is good at managing themselves.
Sincerely appreciating and praising others is my deepest feeling after reading it. Each of us wants to be recognized and appreciated by others, because realizing self-worth is the greatest wish of mankind. So, how can we sincerely appreciate and praise others?
0 1, learn to find bright spots
Everyone has her own bright spot, even if she is ordinary. And people who are good at discovering the bright spots of others know the true meaning of appreciation better than ordinary people. When you are good at discovering the bright spot of others, you can really understand him, appreciate him and praise him sincerely.
The story of Guan Zhong and Bao is the best example. Guan Zhong met Bao in his twenties, and they forged a deep friendship. Later, they joined the army together, and they lived alone. Once Qi was at war with its neighbors, and the armies of both sides launched a massacre. When charging, Guan Zhong always hides at the end and runs slowly. When withdrawing troops, Guan Zhong ran as fast as flying. All the soldiers laughed at his fear of death, and the leader wanted to make an example of those soldiers who were afraid of death with Guan Zhong's head. At the critical moment, Bao stood up and defended Guan Zhong: "I know Guan Zhong best. He has an 80-year-old mother to take care of, and if he dies, her mother will have no one to rely on. Therefore, he had to endure humiliation and drag out an ignoble existence to fulfill his filial piety. " After listening to Bao, Guan Zhong was moved to tears. He cried and said, "My parents gave birth to me, and only Bao Shu Ya knows that I am in charge!" Two years later, his mother died of illness, and Guan Zhong had no worries and worked hard for Qi. Sure enough, he played bravely and no one could beat him. He was quickly promoted and reused. It is precisely because of the discovery of Guan Zhong's bright spot that Bao understands and trusts him so much that he can stand up for him at a critical moment.
02. Learn to listen patiently
When you calm down and look back on the past, do you find that when you are in contact with people, it seems that you talk the most. Every time I speak, there seems to be an impulse in my heart to tell others what I think, do and feel. Even a little insight is good for other people's short-term attention. This is what you think and what others think. It is human nature to express yourself and win attention. Therefore, when you are in contact with people, you can make them talk more. You just need to be a patient listener and let them feel valued and concerned.
Carnegie is like this. He met a botanist at a publisher's banquet. During the conversation, he sat quietly beside the botanist and listened carefully without saying a word. Afterwards, botanists praised him as "the most talkative and interesting person". Interestingly, Carnegie almost never said anything. He just listened carefully, as if fascinated, and the botanist became more and more excited, which produced such an effect. "Listening carefully is the greatest compliment to people." Sometimes we don't say a word, and a serious look can make people feel very comfortable and blessed. Your little actions will also make others feel appreciated and affirmed.
03, satisfy each other's self-esteem.
The French philosopher Larochefoucauld once said, "If you want to make enemies, you should try to stand out in front of others. If you want to make friends, let others look better than you. " When others argue about making mistakes, it is better to think for yourself. If you are right, please win the recognition of others in a gentle way. Because when arguing with others, whether you win or lose, the final result is that you lose, because you have destroyed a friendship that can be made. If you are really wrong, then face it honestly and admit it sincerely. When arguing with others, you might as well put yourself in others' shoes. In this case, it is better to have one more enemy than one more friend, to satisfy each other's self-esteem a little, and to make others happy in a gentle way, so that they may win the greatest benefit with the least strength.
In interpersonal communication, what we face is not rationality, but perceptual living people. Learn and use this book, try to change the self-centered thinking mode, and learn to be sincere in interpersonal communication. Maybe we will all become better people and better ourselves!
Reading Notes on "The Weakness of Human Nature" 3 After reading Dale Carnegie's book "The Weakness of Human Nature", it is a very successful inspirational book. There is no universal truth in the book, but many vivid cases are written to reveal the weaknesses of human nature in ourselves and others. Only by knowing your own weaknesses can we foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, thus achieving twice the result with half the effort in life and work. Knowing other people's weaknesses can make us feel comfortable in the intersection and help more friends. At the beginning of the book, there are nine suggestions for using this book. I was wondering, do you have any suggestions for reading? I didn't know until I saw it. He wants every reader to follow in his footsteps step by step, so as to learn the greatest effect of this book.
First of all, he asked us if we want to play the biggest role in practical application after reading the real book. I thought, that's for sure! But one thing is indispensable. This is more important than any principle or skill in the book. Unless this requirement is met, a thousand theories are meaningless to us. Then what is this requirement? That is a strong desire to learn and a firm determination to improve interpersonal communication. So how to cultivate this desire to learn? In our daily life and work, we always remind ourselves of the importance of this principle. Imagine that these principles will bring us a richer, fuller, happier and more self-fulfilling life. We should remind ourselves repeatedly: "My interpersonal skills determine my popularity, my happiness and self-worth."
Secondly, the profound philosophy of various life and work relationships in human weakness has benefited me a lot. First, interpersonal skills: There are many real stories that tell us to be sincere with others, not to criticize or blame others at will, to think of each other when speaking, and to be a good listener. Only when a person knows how to put himself in others' shoes can he gain respect and recognition from others. Second, six ways to win others' likes: build interest in others, pay sincere attention to others, always smile when talking to others, say things that others are interested in, and sincerely let the other party know how important he is. Third: How to make others think of what you only think of: The book summarizes the principle of 12. In actual discussion, even if the other party is wrong, we should respect other people's opinions and never say "you are wrong". There is only one way to win an argument, and that is to avoid it. However, in our actual working life, who can really do not argue right or wrong and never give up? So we should read more books, find solutions in books and apply them to our working life. 4. How to change others and become a leader: If you want to be a leader yourself, in actual work, don't tell employees in a commanding tone, guide employees, praise others' small progress, and don't be stingy with your own praise. Always encourage employees to use it to change, so it sounds easy to correct mistakes, and employees are willing to do things for you. Don't pay lip service.
Finally, I think the book "The Weakness of Human Nature" not only teaches us how to get along with others, but also encourages us to know and analyze ourselves. It tells us that when we get along with others, we should maintain a good mental state, be tolerant, sincere and optimistic, and integrate knowledge with practice. I think it is necessary to read it several times, apply the skills learned in the book to life and work, and optimize it repeatedly. Finally, we can apply what we have learned and achieve a win-win situation in interpersonal relationships.
As long as you are really interested in people, you will make many friends in two months, definitely more than you want to attract others' attention in two years. In other words: Another way to make friends is to make friends with others.
A person's "first impression" is very important, whether it is others to you or you to others. In social interaction, if the "first impression" is not good, it will take a lot of effort to recover it, which has to be paid attention to.
The knowledge and art of entertainment cannot be learned in a day or two, so the accumulation of experience is particularly important. Gamboto, an entertainer, puts "experience" in the first place in his exposition.
Most leaders in the world don't want to be "how". Their specialty is "making others obey him voluntarily", which is the case in most cases.
If a young man wants to be famous and immortal, he must first win the trust of others. If a person learns how to gain the trust of others, he will be more proud than having a lot of money.
In order to gain the trust of others, besides honest products, decisive and correct work habits are also necessary. Even a man with abundant capital, if he is not decisive enough, his mind is not clear enough, and he lacks agile wrist and decisive decision-making ability, then his contribution will not last long.
The best way to urge people to develop their abilities to the maximum is to praise and encourage them. Criticism from elders or superiors is the easiest way to make a person lose ambition.
Focusing on others and putting yourself in others' shoes can effectively free yourself from troubles and let yourself have more intimate friends, so that life will be much happier.
We should not blame others, we should try to understand them, we should try to understand why they do it, and try to put ourselves in their shoes. This is more beneficial and meaningful than criticism; And this also breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness.
I don't remember how long it took me to finish reading this book. It was always intermittent. I feel that I can't stop reading this week. I have collected a lot of books and can't get stuck in this book. So I must set a goal for myself this week. I must watch 200p+, but I have already watched 500p+ this week. It is very meaningful to set a small goal for yourself, because it will remind you when you have nothing to do.
Many ideas in this book are very classic and have influenced our work and personality. Combined with our own experience, it also coincides with many viewpoints in the book. For example, everyone is an independent individual, and only by reducing dependence on the outside world can we be happier. If you have faith, you should take action, accept the facts frankly, face the results frankly, try your best to avoid bad results and establish the concept of financial management. But I don't feel so deeply about the views in the last two chapters.
In a word, this book provides many practical viewpoints and experiences, which are worth reading, but remember to regard it as a creed and need to be treated dialectically.
In the era of success, countless people have taught you how to succeed, but no one can guarantee a good result in the end. Therefore, "Carnegie" unfortunately became one of the "Godfathers of Success". I watched "The Weakness of Human Nature" during the holiday. Vivid and interesting cases and theories close to life will not be too boring to read. The harvest is not particularly great, but there is always something worth thinking about.
Don't criticize others, condemn or complain often. Emotions can spread among people. People full of negative energy will not be welcomed by people around them, nor will they be liked by most people. Keeping the inner sunshine and positive will shape a person's unique temperament from the inside out, and it will make people feel like spring breeze when they get along.
Remember a person's name. When they meet for the first time, both sides will exchange names and introduce themselves, so that others can know themselves faster. But this is a link that most people will subconsciously ignore. A name is a person's label, symbolizing an independent individual. If you can firmly remember each other's names when you meet them for the first time and address them accurately when you meet them again, they will be surprised and feel your attention to them. This is an excellent way to greet them. For a person, remembering his name is the sweetest and most important language in the world. It is described in the book that the famous American President Roosevelt can take the time to remember the names of servants around him and take the initiative to say hello to them. This is a kind of ability, and it is also a manifestation of caring for others and attaching importance to others.
Give sincere compliments to people around you from time to time. Shortcomings and advantages always exist at the same time. Learn to actively explore and observe the advantages and characteristics of people around you, and then tell each other. Whether it is exquisite makeup or beautiful new clothes, it can be a reason to praise others. Of course, if praise can be sincere, you can get twice the result with half the effort. Negative people, with only negative eyes, always grasp the shortcomings of others to achieve the purpose of raising themselves, but this is also the usual trick of most people.
Learn to smile actively. Smile has a great effect on a person, and the changes it brings are also visible to the naked eye. If you want to pursue good interpersonal relationships and make a perfect first impression, then smiling is an essential factor, even a cost-effective skill.
Be a person who knows how to listen. In today's era, everyone is carrying a heavy load, and people are coming and going. However, more and more people feel lonely. For most people, it is normal to have no one to share when you are happy and no one to talk to when you are sad. Therefore, learning to listen to others has become an excellent way to harvest feelings.
Learn to respect yourself. Since everyone can't like you, try to improve yourself and love yourself more. It really doesn't matter if someone doesn't like you. Perhaps, you are sincere and kind, full of enthusiasm for study and work, enthusiastic about helping others, gentle and considerate to people, and polite in doing things, but after all, some people still don't like you. If you pander to others blindly, or even gain others' acceptance in an almost flattering way, it is really worthless. The way you try to please others is annoying and annoying.
Human nature is weak, and we may not be able to completely change it, but we don't need to be afraid. Thinking from another angle can actually provide us with the motivation to enrich and improve ourselves.
In fact, you are good enough, and the difficulties and challenges you encounter now are only because you are still climbing up.
Reading Notes on "The Weakness of Human Nature" 7 I recommended this book to my friends for the first time, not because it is really a must-read, but because it is rubbish. Because I have read the so-called inspirational book, this one doesn't count. As far as depth is concerned, this book is not necessarily that deep. Some ideas are simple, but the complicated society makes us dizzy.
I think I'm better at one thing. Even if it is a bad book, I can always have a heart that looks forward to finding some bright spots in it. Sometimes even after reading some online novels, I may feel that there are one or two sentences in this book that can be recalled.
However, when I recommended this book to my friends, I was certainly despised. After reading many books such as The Analects of Confucius, Zhouyi, Tao Te Ching and History of Western Philosophy, these friends made no secret of their contempt for such "deceptive books".
In fact, this attitude is also very good and demanding. I just feel something. It's like seeing larded school at the beginning. Li Zongwu said that if you want to see larded school, you should hide it. This should be a truth.
Sometimes, people's thinking is very single-line. If I read inspirational books, then I am a naive and thoughtless person. I pay attention to Buddhism, and Zhouyi is a superstitious person.
Many times only the parties can know their feelings. Just like a philosopher mentioned in Sophie's world the other day, he did something that can be judged as superstition. If asked if he had any faith, he said, I don't believe it, but I heard it's very effective.
I'm helpless to bring this up. I feel like an agnostic. I'm skeptical about everything. So I don't deny ghosts and gods, and I'm not sure about evolution, because the existence of a thing needs to be proved and falsified. But many people's so-called scientific world outlook is nothing more than indoctrination by books and public opinion. You are not qualified to deny Taoism and Liu Ren's gossip unless you have a thorough understanding, systematic research and confirmation.
I feel my tone is a little stiff, but it's just my own request. I can't ask everyone, including the mother-in-law who sells snacks on the street, to think and demonstrate scientifically before making a choice and decision. But I don't want to discuss it with those self-righteous people, because it's better to talk to books than books. This kind of communication is on their own runways, without collision, and it is impossible to have problems and contradictions in the end, thus promoting the discovery of truth.
My way of thinking has always been like Socrates midwifery, but I have always asked myself and answered myself. Many times, communicating with people is like a debate, and both sides hold their own words. There are winners and losers, but there is no result.
It's hard to be a man. I used to look at hiding myself, but now I think it is. Maybe I just want to know Ma Shen and deny it, but people around me may think I am the guardian of feudal superstition. Without investigation, there is no right to speak boldly and cautiously.
The answers to many things are simple, but not as simple as we think.
A famous person in ancient Greece once said, "A word is often more effective than gold in persuading people."
In life, when we hear others praise our advantages, we will naturally feel better after listening to some unpleasant words.
In this article, the author lists the most famous letters written by the famous Lincoln. In the content of this letter, we can see how Lincoln changed a general who always talks big, and at this time, the success or failure of the whole country may depend on the actions of this general. The author points out that this may be the most incisive letter written by President Lincoln since then, but we should still pay attention to that he praised General Hook before talking about his serious mistakes. Lincoln did not misjudge General Hooke, but showed this point more tactfully and tactfully. He wrote in his mind, "There are some things that I am not very satisfied with you." Lincoln also said in the letter: "I believe that you are a general with both wisdom and courage, which is of course what I like." I also believe that you will not confuse politics with positions. In this matter, you are right. Your self-confidence is a valuable and indispensable character. You are ambitious, which is quite beneficial and harmless. However, when I asked General Burncy to lead the army, you tried your best to stop him out of your own will. In this matter, you made a big mistake to the country and a colleague with outstanding military achievements.
In this letter, Lincoln generally hides a very serious condemnation in his bones, but he is still tactful and sincere in his words. This is Lincoln's outstanding feature. This philosophy of life is extremely effective in our daily life and work.
Therefore, the first principle of changing a person without causing harm is to praise and thank others.
Behind the seemingly effortless reading notes of "The Weakness of Human Nature" is the long-term emotional intelligence cultivation and environmental edification.
After reading The Weakness of Human Nature, I put this book in front of me when I was in middle school, but it was superficial and I didn't read it deeply at all. When my life is approaching the threshold of 40 years old, I still have a regret of being late.
Behind those seemingly effortless interpersonal relationships are long-term emotional intelligence cultivation and environmental edification. No one is born good at dancing, and no one can always be loved by God. The only thing I can do is to understand human nature, use human nature, restrain human nature, and finally realize the continuous climbing of my life ladder.
I was impressed by the following points:
1, a lot of truth is common sense, I have known it for a long time, but I just can't use it. The reason is that you take yourself too seriously, care too much about your own interests, and ignore the interests of others, just like a genetic defect-selfishness.
2. Greed and ignorance from human nature have caused many irreparable mistakes. Even if you feel dangerous, you will still be lucky.
Be kind to others, not only to your family and relatives, but also to foreigners. Lubricate the relationship with praise, and don't criticize it easily. Even criticism can be used indirectly.
I know I want to be a better self, but I can't. Complaining is worthless. I can't stop complaining. Only act now to change, starting from every detail every day, starting from now.
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