Among the causes of adolescent depression, China's parents will always have an unshakable position. Everyone knows, but only they don't know. 1. Not long ago, the antidepressant history of a champion in the college entrance examination went viral online. The writer is You An, a student in Peking University. Like many students facing the college entrance examination, You 'an went through a very tense period before being admitted to Peking University. You 'an has a very strict mother, and her requirements can be said to be harsh. /kloc-after passing the level 0/8 exam, I was asked to get up at six o'clock every day during the holiday. You 'an is not allowed to participate in any activities other than study, and repression and denial are also common. Under such high pressure, she was finally admitted to Peking University. As the champion of liberal arts college entrance examination, she thought that her life had entered a brand-new stage, but she didn't know that at the moment she stepped into the school gate, her worldview also collapsed a little. People around me have read a lot of books and participated in various interesting activities. They have different interests and hobbies. Their high school life is interesting and full, but in their own memory, there is nothing to tell others except the pain of reading. She suddenly fell into confusion. She doesn't know the significance of her past efforts. She doesn't know what she likes and what career she wants to pursue in the future. Even when she applies for a volunteer major, she chooses finance according to her mother's wishes, even if she doesn't like it. It's like completing a task. After the task was completed, no one taught her how to go on. Under the contrast of many outstanding students around me, my anxiety and embarrassment are gradually amplified. High flyers, who was crowned the top student in the college entrance examination, gradually became inferior and insignificant. In her junior year, she chose psychological counseling on the verge of collapse before she knew she had depression. In the eyes of ordinary people, high flyers of Peking University and the top scholar in the college entrance examination are enough to make people envy and marvel. This is why many people don't understand why such people suffer from depression. In fact, this is just a microcosm of thousands of students in Qian Qian, China. In China, there is a strange phenomenon: if a child's academic performance is excellent, then any problem will not be called a problem. On the contrary, if children have poor academic performance, there will be no problem, and parents will also create problems for their children. Under such a deformed concept, academic performance has become the standard to measure whether children are excellent, but few parents pay attention to whether their children are psychologically healthy. They are more willing to blame their children's depression on melodramatic, fragile and self-worrying. I have come into contact with many adolescent children. Some of them refused to go to school because of the ridicule of their classmates. Some people stay with games all day because they think school is boring; Smoking, drinking, fighting, running away from home. Depression, internet addiction and weariness of learning have become the most prominent manifestations of teenagers' emotional and behavioral problems. But many parents still don't realize that depression is really not far from us. According to "20 18 China Psychological Counseling Industry Report", there are nearly 80 million patients with depression in China, among whom 30%-40% are teenagers, and the number is still increasing.
These children who have shown symptoms are ignored by their parents and think that their children are melodramatic.
My friend Mu Mu is such a mother.
Mu Mu's child 13 years old, just in the first grade.
Since childhood, children's academic performance has been excellent, but after being severely criticized by their parents and teachers for failing an exam, they are not so concerned about learning.
Parents have been scolded, and they have earnestly told their children the truth, but the children still have no interest in learning.
Sleep in class, go home to play games, lock yourself in the house and don't want to communicate with others.
Mu Mu is still unaware of the child's heart disease.
She still expects that the child is just confused for a while, and when she wakes up the next day, she can become a good boy in the eyes of others.
Until one time, when Mu Mu cried about his hard work and hardship, the child remained unmoved and even threatened: If you push me again, I will jump from the window.
Mu Mu was desperate and wanted to ask a counselor for help, but she only cared about one thing:
When can children nowadays get rid of these bad habits of being tired of learning?
When will she be as obedient as before?
Children want to die, and parents are still struggling with their children's unwillingness to go to school and dislike learning. What should I do?
Imagine, with such parents who value their children's achievements more than life, how can their children remain enthusiastic about life and study?
In the previously popular TV series "Little Joy", Xueba Eiko suffered from depression.
She couldn't sleep well all night, and every minute she felt that her energy was exhausted.
She wants to communicate with her mother and is eager to be understood.
But mom can't see it, and she will even ask Eiko to give up the university she yearns for.
Eiko was overwhelmed and jumped into the sea to try to escape from this suffocating relationship.
Perhaps for most people suffering from depression, getting depressed without the trust and understanding of their relatives is the last straw to crush the camel.
Fortunately, Eiko is lucky.
Her parents are willing to change for this, and she has always been accompanied by friends. She finally overcame her depression.
Relevant surveys show that:
Depression is actually one of the psychological diseases with the highest cure rate, but every time you enter the public eye, you will always see people with suicidal tendencies.
For family and friends suffering from depression around them, only by correctly understanding depression and actively helping patients to fight this kind of depression can tragedies be avoided.