In addition to the most familiar reasons such as hunger and defecation, there are many reasons why babies cry:

The lower body is uncomfortable.

There may be sudden pain: for example, the thread in the clothes caught the little hand and foot, and something poked him; There may be physical discomfort: for example, the material of clothes makes the baby uncomfortable, such as diaper rash or eczema, such as colic.

● Tired and sleepy, I want to sleep.

Newborns should not wake up for too long at a time, and it is best to control it within two hours, otherwise some babies will be grumpy and cry all the time after sleeping.

● Spoil to hug.

For example, no one pays attention to his boredom, for example, he is a high-demand baby (Coke used to do this at that time, crying when you are tired of playing is coquetry, suggesting that mom and dad are going to hug)

● Environmental discomfort

For example, it is too noisy, family quarrels, and suddenly enters a strange environment.

Second, how to investigate the causes of newborn babies crying?

The baby may cry, although it's nothing, but the reason must be checked first.

There are many reasons mentioned above, so don't make a fuss. Although there are many things to check at first, once you are familiar with them, you can usually intuitively judge what is wrong with your baby. The most direct thing is crying. Babies cry when they are hungry, when they are in pain, when they are angry, and when they want to sleep.

● When you are hungry: Crying is usually short and deep.

● When angry: crying is intense and lasting.

● When you feel pain or suddenly feel uncomfortable: you will suddenly cry, and your voice is particularly sharp. Pause a little, and you will cry a little quietly.

When begging for comfort: more like when you are hungry.

Priscilla Dunstan, a 32-year-old woman from Sydney, claimed that she had discovered the "universal language" of babies. She found five unique "words" that parents use to send them special messages when they cry. This kind of language, regardless of ethnic and cultural background, is a demand that babies can express before they learn to speak. In brackets, Bian Xiao thinks this is a more vivid alternative text ... parents can understand it by themselves according to the baby's crying.

●Neh ("that", "Nene"): Hungry.

● Ow ("Oh" and "Ouch"): Tired.

● Oh ("Hi"): I'm not feeling well.

●Eairh ("Il "): The body is full of gas (flatulence, want to fart).

Eh ("one", "uh-huh"): The body is full of gas (burping).

This language is called "Dunstan". Interestingly, for Coke, it basically conforms to Dunstan. However, it should be reminded that if you respond to the baby's crying in time, then the baby will continue to use these squeaks to remind parents; If you don't respond in time, it will often become a habitual shrill cry.

In addition to crying, mothers can also judge by body language, such as:

● When you are hungry: smash your mouth, chew your hands, gag, and cry.

● When you are sleepy or tired: rubbing your eyes, fidgeting, making fists, yawning and crying (if you keep pulling and patting your ears, you should prevent ear infection).

● Excessive tingling: glassy eyes, clasping hands or comforting yourself with the body, and trembling feet.

● When the pain is uncomfortable: close your eyes, push your hands, concentrate on crying, and do little tricks.

The most meticulous observers are mom and dad. I believe that as long as you observe carefully, you will gradually grasp the information in your baby's crying. TA grows up, cries more and can express more and more demands.

Third, will a newborn baby spoil TA when it cries?

If you check the reasons one by one, you will find that most of the crying, as long as you properly appease and help the baby relax, TA will gradually calm down. But now the knowledge of parenting is rampant, some people think that holding too much will spoil the baby, and even a friend told me that western mothers just don't cry. (Western mother lying with a gun)

Bian Xiao is an advocate of Sears' intimate parenting method. In fact, such a small baby will not spoil him. Embrace TA more and listen to the needs of TA, which will help build the baby's sense of security. Therefore, Bian Xiao's point of view is: Don't cry, don't hug yourself, and cry at once.

Take coke as an example. When he doesn't cry, we will lie down with him and play with all kinds of toys (lying down when family members are present can exercise the baby's great sports ability), and when he cries, we will pick him up to comfort him. In this way, the baby can play easily. When crying, he will feel more secure knowing that his parents will coax him, but he doesn't like to cry.

The "Dunstan language" mentioned above has a similar conclusion: if you respond to the baby's crying in time, then the baby will continue to remind parents with those squeaks; If you don't respond in time, it will often become a habitual shrill cry.

Fourth, how to appease the newborn baby crying?

"Breastfeeding" is the most commonly used way, but mothers should pay attention to breastfeeding only when their babies are hungry, and don't think of themselves as human nipples, otherwise it is easy to develop bad habits.

How to comfort a fidgety or uncomfortable baby?

1, gently shake to appease.

Ma Bao soothed her baby tenderly and lovingly. Gentle movements can soothe the crying baby and even put the baby to sleep directly. You can take your baby for a walk, gently shake your baby left and right or up and down, sit on the sofa and let your baby lie on your chest and shoulders, pat your baby on the back, etc. These can all be tried. Every baby likes different movements.

But be careful not to shake for too long, so as not to make yourself tired, and then you can put the baby in the cradle.

2. The baby lies in the arms of adults.

When holding the baby, lean slightly to one side, let him lie on his side, and let the baby's stomach stick to the adult's abdomen, so that the baby will feel comfortable and warm. Lying on your side is also one of the ways to make your baby quiet and comfortable. Changing the baby's prone position may stop him (her) from crying, but care should be taken to avoid the baby rolling into a prone position, otherwise it will increase the risk of sudden infant death.

3, the sound soothes the baby

Making soothing sounds can calm the baby down and reduce crying. Fresh sounds will interest the baby, attract his or her attention, and help relieve the previous pain. You can look around for any suitable sound, or you can make such a sound yourself. The following sounds may help to soothe the crying baby: turn the radio to a station with only static noise, sing softly, hum songs, play light music, play the sound of nature and so on.

4. Wrap your baby in swaddling clothes

This method can soothe the crying baby well, because the baby feels as warm, comfortable and safe as in the mother's son's palace. You should wrap your baby tightly with a thin blanket and keep your limbs close to your body. Don't let them show it, look wobbly and disturb the baby. In order to avoid sudden death or dyspnea of the baby, never wrap her or him too tightly to keep the baby lying flat. In addition, don't let her suck the nipple when you pack the baby, so as not to choke and ensure that the baby breathes smoothly.

5. Give your baby a hot bath.

For some babies, taking a hot bath is the best way to appease them. Giving your baby a warm bath at a fixed time every day can relax your baby, and proper bathing can avoid many skin problems. For example, skin problems such as prickly heat, rash and heat rash will make the baby uncomfortable and restless. But taking a warm bath can't stop all the babies from crying. Be sure to pay attention to the reasonable bathing environment and the appropriate water temperature.

Give the baby something to suck.

If the baby is crying, he may want something to suck. He may not need to suck the nursing room or bottle, so adults can try pacifiers. Bian Xiao has seen many babies sucking nipples in incubators in neonatal wards. You can also let your baby suck his thumb. These simple actions may soothe your baby.

7. Massage the baby.

Massage such as baby touching, passive exercise and exhaustive exercise can relieve the baby's nervous mood. You gently touch his palms, soles, shoulders and other body parts, and calm the baby down with a loving touch. You can also gently rub your baby with your fingertips to help ease his nervous mood. But not all babies like massage. Parents should carefully observe and choose different times to try.

8. Change the environment

The baby is crying, probably just because he wants to change the environment. Try to change the environment, take the baby to another room, or add some interesting items to the original room to attract the baby's attention and make him forget his previous irritability. If you don't have the extra energy to do more complicated things, you can take the baby to another room, or stand by the window and let the baby face the outside.

9. Try to make a "hiss" sound to calm the baby down.

Sometimes, the baby will be more upset because he cries loudly. You can calm them down a little and comfort them until they stop crying at all. Gently make a sweet and calm "hiss" sound to calm the baby down. Remember, it's not the harsh "shh" sound that the librarian makes students calm down.

Your voice just needs to be louder than the baby's voice, talk to him gently, pee, and then slowly lower the volume until it is consistent with the baby's volume.

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Question 2: How to choose building blocks and toys?

Sometimes we think that children "don't like to play", in fact, because we misunderstand the way babies "play". Let's first look at how babies of different ages "play" with building blocks:

1, 0-6 months: the baby likes to "taste" the building blocks with his mouth and grasp them with his hands. Just watch him take a bite and you will know, "Well, building blocks and pacifiers taste different." By tapping and holding the building blocks tightly, he is also learning the properties and touch of different substances.

2, 6- 12 months: Building blocks are essential toys for baby's growth. At this stage, he made new discoveries, such as knocking two building blocks together to make a sound. In your opinion, he still likes to "destroy" For example, push the building block you just built down with a bang, and then show a smile of "how great I am"-this is the child's ability to explore himself.

3, 12- 18 months: children start to pile their own wood. He may not be able to build a tall building, but with his control and understanding of balance, the baby has been able to pile 2~3 blocks together. Don't underestimate the "small short room" created by children, and don't force him to build higher floors in order to create tall buildings, because the fun is yet to come.

4, 2 years old: Now the child's balance ability is getting better and better, and he is already competent for stacking 4~7 pieces. In addition, he can classify different kinds of building blocks according to their shapes and colors. You can even distinguish building blocks with special shapes, such as ship type, automobile type and animal type.

5 or 3 years old: Children can build more and more things with building blocks. At this stage, he can build real-world models through his own creativity, such as castles, bridges and tunnels. So, you might as well take him outside to see more and provide him with some materials.

Playing with building blocks has so many benefits, so how to choose building blocks for children? Open the warehouse today and share your experience with you.

Eight types of building blocks suitable for different months.

1, BabyClub cloth hollow soft building blocks

Suitable age: 0- 12 months

The first set of building blocks I bought for my children were hollow soft building blocks exported to the United States. A group of four, made of cloth, very light. This kind of building block is specially designed for newborns, and it is very safe to use even within 0-6 months. Not only will it not hit the baby, but it will also put a bell in the building block to attract children to play. Each building block has different colors and patterns on six sides, which can stimulate the baby's visual development. When children are older, they can also be taught to know simple animals and numbers.

2. B. Toys pinch musical relief soft building blocks

Suitable age: 6 months -2 years old

B: Toy kneading music is the second set of building blocks I bought for my children. It is not unreasonable that his building blocks have been ranked first in Amazon China for many years.

First of all, the soft material is suitable for small-month-old babies, and children can chew and grab when they start teething. Secondly, the six faces of each building block are designed with different shapes and tactility, which is more impressive than the fabric building blocks above. It allows children to stimulate cognitive development by touching while playing. Third, each building block is a hollow cube with small holes, which will ring when children pinch it, and can also be used as a water toy when taking a bath in summer.

3. Gaomei's super block

Suitable age: 1-5 years old

The first set of jigsaw puzzles I bought for my children was Gao Mei, not Lego. Mainly because Lego's duplo for babies is not young (Gomez 1-5, duplo is 2-5), and many gadgets are unsafe for children to use. Moreover, in fact, children around one year old can't spell out the overall shape. Many parents buy them for their own play, which means little to their children.

My family plays with Gao Mei in this way now. Can be used for spelling, can prolong the service life of building blocks, and become an interesting teaching aid.

This 80-piece Gomez set at home was recommended by a friend. Once I passed the discount of catching up with 100 on R Us, I bought it (there was pink for girls, but considering that the rainbow color scheme used by boys is more conducive to visual development, I abandoned the girl's model). Children play well from 10 months. There is a car chassis inside, which children like very much and will always play in the car.

4. Lego Debao Lego

Suitable age: 2-5 years old

Comparison of disassembled parts of MGO and Lego in the above picture. On the left is Gao Mei, and on the right is Lego Debao. You can see the part size comparison.

Lego has been firmly established in the building block world as a king, which makes parents in China flock to it, forming an illusion that "Lego must be bought when buying toys", "Lego is high enough" and "there is no childhood without Lego". But many people ignore the fact that Lego's "high-end" will inevitably make it unsuitable for babies to play games. Even the duplo marked "2-5" is still difficult for children before the age of three to complete or even understand.

According to a survey in China, more than 90% children gradually become interested in Lego after they are three years old. Therefore, parents are not advised to buy Lego for their children too early. Don't worry if they buy it and find that their children are not interested. Maybe they will like it when they are older.

5, magnetic building blocks

Suitable age: 2-5 years old

Magnetic flat building blocks are particularly popular in recent years because they are really fun for children. Children can assemble their favorite shapes by six simple methods, such as pulling, rolling, encircling, folding, combining and deforming, and are awarded "creative products" by mathematicians' associations and educational circles. Especially when children are one or two years old, fine movements are still developing, and it is not easy to insert and superimpose accurately. The attraction of magnetic disks saves a lot of trouble and is easy to arouse children's interest. Moreover, because the magnetic disk is transparent, it is especially convenient for children to observe and understand the 3D space.

However, the magnetic film market is mixed, so it is not recommended that you buy low-priced products. The magnetic difference is a trivial matter. If unqualified recycled plastics are used, the safety will be problematic and the health of children will be affected. Be sure to choose regular toys that have passed the China 3C and EU CE certification, and recommend big brands such as Magformers and Magspace.

6.HAPE wooden building blocks

Suitable age: 1 year+

Needless to say, traditional wooden building blocks are essential for growth. Slow growth Before opening a group for everyone, it was a famous HAPE, which can be said to be the benchmark of the current wood building block industry. When choosing wood blocks, don't just look at fancy accessories, mainly look at the following aspects: material, painting, color, technology and modeling.

wood tissue

List of wood building block materials (from good to bad): beech-rubber-basswood-birch-Schima superba-pine-miscellaneous wood-recycled wood-density board.

The best material for building blocks is beech. Beech wood is hard, delicate and clear, which is very suitable for building blocks of log color. Therefore, small brands should not use building blocks when making colored wood blocks. Since there is no need to expose the material, they simply reduce the cost and replace it with cheaper lotus wood or rubber wood. Only big brands with high quality requirements will use beech as colored wood blocks, such as HAPE organized by us.

pigment

Children will inevitably put blocks in their mouths, so don't choose oily paint blocks. It is best to use wood-textured, environmentally friendly water-based primer.

colour

Be wary of building blocks with too bright colors. If you have had HAPE with our group, you can compare it. The paint surface of high-end building blocks is rich and mild, and there will be no "gorgeous" feeling. Only building blocks with low materials will be particularly bright, because the color should be used to cover up the inferiority of wood.

craftsmanship

For babies under three years old, it is best to choose large pieces with a diameter of more than 3 cm. Observe the details of the building blocks carefully. All corners should be polished and smooth, and no sharp corners or barbs can appear.

systems modelling

Parents are easily attracted by some toys that look cool, but in fact, when choosing building blocks, the shape is the last consideration. Under the premise of ensuring the previous items and technical scope, it is best to change the shape more.

7. jigsaw puzzle blocks

Suitable age: more than 6 months

In the photo of children playing with HAPE building blocks in the above picture, we can see some building blocks of small animals. These building blocks were not imported from HAPE originally, but I made them for children alone, with the purpose of enriching the scene of building blocks and improving the interest and story.

It is worth mentioning that these small animals are completely different from the small animal accessories in some painted scene building blocks (such as ocean and farm theme). First of all, it is bigger (visible in the above picture), bigger than iphone plus, and each small animal has patterns on both sides, which can be divided into three parts and connected by magnetic force (the principle is similar to magnetic cutting music). Usually, it can be taken apart to make puzzles for children, or it can be folded up as building blocks, and it can also be used to play house or correspond to the characters in the picture book. There are many ways to play!

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Do you remember that I translated a set of spelling books before? The main purpose of this book is to let children spell small animals, but they are not afraid of spelling mistakes and encourage children to fantasize. So when I saw this set of small animal solid wood puzzle building blocks, I fell in love at first sight It feels like a three-dimensional version of a book, which gives children more space cognition and tactile feelings than books.

This set of small animal solid wood puzzle pieces comes from Germany, and I personally and my children like it very much. It is necessary to play with building blocks now.

8, hedgehog building blocks Hedgehog building blocks

Suitable age: over 2 years old

Hedgehog building blocks are new building blocks I bought for my children recently. This bucket is very big, even bigger than 100 before HAPE, and each bucket has 150. The plastic bucket not only has the storage function, but also has a three-dimensional convex splicing base, which is the same as the Lego game table common in the toy city. It is very convenient to insert building blocks on it.

Each building block is like a small comb or hedgehog, with many round-headed thorns on it, and children can use these thorns and the gaps between them to insert them. For children, the shape of this building block is very fresh, and it is also a stimulus to tactile cognition.

There are many kinds of accessories inside, which have more connection methods than other building blocks, and also have many effects that can be put together to maximize the baby's imagination and creativity. Children like playing very much.

The hedgehog building blocks on the market now are also of uneven quality. This kind of building block requires high raw materials, which is not only safe and non-toxic, but also needs good toughness (polymer nylon is added to PP), so that the "thorn" will not be easily broken and the danger of swallowing will be prevented. Therefore, when buying again, for safety reasons, everyone should keep their eyes open.

9. Snowflakes insert building blocks

Suitable age: over 3 years old

Snowflakes inserted into building blocks were all played by us when we were children. The advantage is that, compared with Lego or magnetic disks for modeling purposes or wooden building blocks for scenes, snowflakes only provide the most basic components and have no constraints on children's imagination.

But on the other hand, snowflake's parts are very small, which is not suitable for playing games for babies. Moreover, children need to be older to really use it to construct, not just the "spelling" in the eyes of parents. It is recommended that children play with snowflakes after 3 years old. Whether for children or parents, the enthusiasm for games is higher.

How to play with your baby?

Building blocks are a particularly good medium for parent-child games. Parents should accompany their children when they play with building blocks. On the one hand, for safety, on the other hand, under the guidance of parents, children are more willing to spend time focusing on learning and understanding the combination and composition of objects than when playing alone.

Playing with children's building blocks is not just stacking together, but more divergent thinking and more game guidance. Here are a few ideas for everyone:

Babies can play like this:

1, image cognition and association

Show children various shapes and colors with building blocks of different shapes, such as square, circle, triangle, half moon … red, yellow, green, blue, etc. When the children are older, you can associate with them. For example, are round building blocks like cookies and the moon, and are square building blocks like small boxes and stools? It can not only stimulate children's curiosity, but also cultivate children's expressiveness and imagination.

2. Guess what this is.

When children are young, their ability to build blocks is limited. Parents can help build some shapes and then let their children guess what they are. Such as airplanes, trains, ships, small animals and so on. When the children are older, they can be allowed to ride, and parents can guess, or who will ride more and more like a race. This is very helpful to cultivate children's practical ability and imagination.

Older babies can play like this:

1, play house

Children can play house games when they are about two years old. You can guide the baby to build a house or small furniture for the doll with building blocks, you can also put the building blocks in a small bowl as food to pretend to eat, and you can even build a scene for the doll's activity space to make the game more interesting.

2. Read the picture book and restore the story

After parents read fairy tales to their children, they can let them build the situation in the story with building blocks. For example, in the story of "Three Little Pigs", we can build three different houses with building blocks of different materials, and the magnetic film represents the straw house, which will be deformed at a beat; Wooden building blocks build wooden houses, which will fall down when pushed; Mosaic building blocks can build a stone house, which is not easy to dismantle and is the strongest. In the process of spelling, children should recall the stories they have just told, which can exercise their memory, logic, expressiveness and creativity.

3. Cultivate self-care ability

Building blocks can not only be played, but also cultivate children's self-care ability in the process of cleaning up building blocks. In the video, when my daughter is over one year old and just can walk steadily (there is a fence at home), I am guiding my child to put the playing blocks into the bag.

In fact, children can learn more than we think. As long as we are willing to miss the opportunity, little people can do great things!