Most students don't like her, and they always feel that chatting with her is not in the state, and all they talk about is learning. The results are generally not excellent.
Later, I heard that I was admitted to the undergraduate course by repeating a grade, worked in a government unit, married a rich man, and lived a good life. Generally speaking, I belong to the kind of person who tries to change my destiny. It is not good to study hard. If children are willing to study hard, this is a good thing. It shows that he is willing to study hard and finally belongs to that kind of purposeful life.
I have two classmates, both of whom can be said to be typical of hard work. One is a junior high school female classmate, hanging her head and tying her head. During class, other students are just fighting. No matter what the environment, she has been studying, and she can't even remember whether she went to the toilet after class. At one time, her other grades were the first in the class (four parallel classes, with about 60 students in each class), and only her math grades were the first in the class. The expression is particularly painful. She slapped her thighs a dozen times with her fist and cried on the table for a long time. However, her grades in all subjects remain the first in her class, and she throws the second place with 100 at most. In the graduation exam, she scored 560 out of 600 points, successfully entered a book, and later went to graduate school. Now I work in the annual salary system of state-owned enterprises in Jiangsu Province. The other is also a female classmate, whose learning attitude can catch up with the last classmate. She is not shy about asking questions in class, and she is also a bookworm after class. Although the teacher has marked the key points of each quiz in time, she still fails every exam, which is sometimes unimaginable and unbelievable, and she has no puppy love. Everyone's memory of her will always be studying in class, after class, on foot and at night, but her grades will always count down! Of course, I didn't even get into high school in the end.
For example, when I was in college, there was a boy in my class. He is ordinary, poorly dressed and his emotional intelligence is not high enough. He often does things that offend people without knowing it, so that many students roll their eyes at him in private.
But it doesn't matter The important thing is that this product loves to learn! Very progressive! How motivated you are! Always sit in the front row in class, always read books, watch the teacher's ppt, take notes, and never go out to play. His roommate said that when he wasn't in class, he just ran in the library, read all kinds of books, skipped classes and studied all kinds of courses except majors.
Is this death learning? I think so, too. That's the kind of person. What do you think happened to him? Do you think such a person will be eliminated by society and still can't find a girlfriend? You are wrong! ! Later, I accidentally saw his QQ space and a photo of a girl! He was good-looking, and then we found that he was not sloppy at all! Nice clothes and neat hair! It's not very nice, but it's refreshing and clean! Later, they stayed in the same city to work.
Most people who study hard are single-minded and honest. Although they don't improve their study by playing Xueba, they are actually working hard, which is much better than those who are full of unknown addresses all day.
I know two students who are a little dead at school, one is a girl and the other is a boy. After high school, girls still study hard, study late every day, and even hide in the quilt at night, which leads to frequent illness. However, many things happened, and finally he was admitted to 985 University. He still studies hard in college and never dares to slack off. His academic performance in college is far ahead, and he gets a scholarship every year. After graduation, he worked in a small company.
Another male student is also, study hard, don't want friends, don't want classmates, don't belong to the class Committee, don't violate discipline, don't go out to play. He has always been a good student, even a little withdrawn, and finally did well in the college entrance examination. He went to a 2 1 1 university outside the province, but when he got to the university, he was too withdrawn and had a bad relationship with his classmates and teachers.
It has been ten years since I graduated from college. Now I can talk about how those people who are considered "dead scholars" by my classmates are doing now.
First of all, people who are regarded as "hard-working" are usually hard-working students who are not good at interpersonal communication and only know hard-working students. Let me introduce the future of these students, because they involve real people, so they are all changed to A, B, C and D.
Before the introduction, please pay attention to a problem, that is, the enrollment rate from primary school to junior high school in China is relatively high, but many people dropped out of school that year. However, the enrollment rate in junior high school is less than half, and the probability of entering the undergraduate college in the senior high school entrance examination is only one quarter. Taking 1983 as an example, the enrollment rate at each stage is as follows:
Take 1993 as an example, the enrollment rate is as follows:
Unit (ten thousand people)
It can be seen that an ordinary junior high school classmate has a high probability of not going to high school at all.
And an ordinary high school classmate, half or even three-quarters of the probability of not going to the undergraduate course.
As for my career, I'll talk about it later.
A:
Female, junior high school classmate. When I was at school, my academic level was moderate. I work hard and study hard. Later, I was admitted to the second-ranked high school in the county (probably at home) and went to college for two years. In the second year, I was finally admitted to a number of specialties in a provincial university. To tell the truth, as far as education is concerned, she is above average. After graduating from college, she took the civil service exam (family likes it, and she doesn't mind). First, I worked as a contract worker in a state-owned enterprise (remember the Highway Bureau), and then I have been taking the civil service exam. After six or seven years, she hasn't been admitted. I was surprised when I came home this year. Why did I take the exam anyway? She is stupid, but she is full of resilience. No matter how stupid she is, she will go up, and that's probably it.
It should be said that life is ordinary, but if she didn't realize learning, she would be much worse than now.
B:
Male, a classmate of two and a half years in high school (arts and sciences next semester), the whole class is famous for its hard work. Now I am working as a quality inspector in a construction engineering company, and my salary is not bad. I just can't talk about my girlfriend. The woman I met on a blind date at home soon got married and had children.
C:
Female, my high school classmate, we have a good relationship. At that time, I was studying in the upper and middle reaches and worked hard. Later, I was admitted to a very ordinary undergraduate course. After graduating from college, I worked in Shanghai. After five years of graduation, my income is about 13000 yuan. It should be much higher now. Here, I'd like to mention an example of her fellow villagers who study hard and a famous male classmate in the class next door. Although this person is dead in study, he can do problems, but he is not very good at being a man, and he studies very well. He was in the top ten in his class (I remember there were about 75 people in Class One, Grade Three). Now entering the court is like a duck to water, and people have become much more cheerful. According to classmates, they have really changed. Maybe they were hit more in middle school, so they were not cheerful.
Ding:
She is also a woman, a classmate in the class next door to high school. Later, I came into contact with them. At that time, they were all stupid students, and their test scores were not very high. They were in the upper middle class. Later, I was admitted to a very general undergraduate course. Currently starting a business in Beijing. I should be rich. I didn't go home for the New Year and took my family to Beijing for the New Year. I should have bought a suite in Beijing (she is single at present). This man used to be fat and ashamed, but now he is a fitness expert.
e:
Male, primary school classmate. After graduating from junior high school, I went out to work, and now I am an electric welder. I used to be a coolie. I'm so tired. I studied electric welding for two years, but the job of welder is also very general. Wages are higher than coolies and much lower than skilled workers. Married very early, and the child is eight years old.
He himself:
Female, fifth grade primary school classmate. Junior high school is also in my school, but senior high school is not. It should be admitted to No.2 Middle School (a poor high school in our county), and then it should be a poor vocational and technical college. After graduating from college, I found a job in Jinan. Because my resume is poor, I have to start at the low end. After a few years, I didn't get any results, just enough food and clothing, and then I went home to get married. Married life is not bad, mainly because my husband's family is in business, which is spent in the store (it seems that most of us also spend our main time on endless work).
You can clearly see that among my classmates, high school students get along well, while primary school students don't. This is not because of my experience, but because there are many people in primary and junior high schools, and most of them have to be eliminated when they first get promoted. Those who are eliminated enter the society early and climb up from the bottom.
We say:
A person who graduated from primary school has become a big boss!
Let's say it again:
A graduate of a key university has become a butcher!
These two "unexpected" show the attitude of the world.
As we know, those nerds who used to work hard usually don't fall at the bottom of their studies, but it is difficult to compete for heights, and they will only wander in the middle school or upstream during their studies. Then you can basically enter the university (including this college), and it will be much easier to get married after work.
And "poor in learning but flexible in mind", and later made a fortune, after all, is a minority. "Those who study well in the past will work for those who study poorly in the future" is even more nonsense.
So for this old photo:
Students, if you study moderately and don't work hard, don't laugh at or despise those students who study hard but are stupid, and their academic performance is only in the middle, let alone those who get high marks through death. You don't hate high marks, you are afraid of hard work. A classmate whose intelligence is similar to yours works hard and gets excellent grades, or a classmate whose intelligence is much worse than yours gets similar grades through hard work, which will make you very angry.
But what's the use of your troubles?
The three schoolmasters I know all belong to those who study hard.
One is a classmate, and his legs and feet are inconvenient. He was ill when he was a child, and he was lame in one leg. I use crutches at school. It is because of my physical defects that I can only attack my life by studying, so I study hard.
Later, I was admitted to a 2 1 1 school, and I didn't have much contact when I went to college. It was not until a few years later that we met again at a classmate's party, saying that the journalism department could not find a job after graduation, and no unit was willing to let him practice. The company doesn't want disabled people (there was no corporate policy to help disabled people at that time), so what should they do if they are very upset?
When I came back, I heard that I took the postgraduate entrance examination and studied law. After my master's degree, I went to practice in a law firm. I got a lawyer's license two years ago and finally found my own life development direction. But I'm in my thirties now and I'm not married. It's really difficult to find a partner, and society still discriminates against the disabled.
This inspirational classmate lives in the countryside. If he hadn't studied hard at that time, what kind of life should he live now? I really dare not think about it.
The other one belongs to my sister, Don.
She really seldom laughs at home and doesn't want to talk to anyone. My parents are usually fierce and care too much about her study. If you can't get into the top three of your grade, going home will definitely be all kinds of humiliation. How did your pig brain come into being?
Then I got angry and tried to be strong. The senior high school entrance examination is the first in the city, and the college entrance examination is the first in the city. Studying at Tsinghua University is regarded as a schoolmaster among schoolmasters. But emotional intelligence hasn't changed at all, and I don't talk to my relatives at home at all. I got married the year before last and married a graduate student, a native of Beijing. I still don't want to chat with my brother and sister. Maybe I feel sad about my family.
There is no problem at work. After all, I am a master (doctor) in Tsinghua, and my employment starting point is very high. Generally speaking, reading has changed her personality and her life.
The last one is the neighbor's daughter.
As long as I can remember, I have been wearing a pair of glasses, and the lenses are as thick as beer bottles. This elder sister is really diligent. She goes out early and comes back late every day, always carrying a thick stack of materials.
When I was in college, I was admitted to Beijing and married my classmates from other provinces in the same school. I felt sorry for them. The boy's family is very poor. He has two younger brothers. At first, the family disagreed, but the elder sister insisted that he would not marry. Later, the family agreed.
If you want to buy a house when you get married, boys can only get 80 thousand at home. Everyone knows the house prices in Beijing. What's the use of 80 thousand yuan? The eldest sister ran home again, asking her parents to sell all the two suites, a facade and an internet cafe in her hometown, and made a down payment in Beijing.
Later, when a child was born, he couldn't work, and the man couldn't afford it alone. The old man couldn't take care of his grandson at home, so he had to call back and let the woman's parents go to Beijing to take care of his grandson. I came back from my trip and said the child was too poor. I made up my mind to sell the last house in my hometown directly. Paid off part of the loan for my daughter. My parents also left their hometown and traveled to Beijing.
A few years ago, my parents and I went to Beijing to play and made a special visit. Big sister's father works as a security guard at school and lives in a dormitory. The elder sister's mother is boarding at school and living in a dormitory.
what can I say? The two old people in their hometown are also middle-class, with houses, facades and businesses. For my daughter, it is really bankrupt and completely broken. Poverty inherits the wind!
I was severely beaten the other day! We were severely beaten by the classmate who died in school that year!
For a long time, high marks and low energy, hard work, have always been called ignorance of learning and secular affairs, and naturally become the object of ridicule by many naughty students and "smart people."
I used to think they were stupid, but now I know who is really stupid.
At that time, my deskmate was such a person. His talent is not high. With hard work and painstaking efforts, he was among the best in his class 15.
He doesn't take part in any activities that naughty children like. After school, we played wildly outside, and he read at home. This is true all the year round.
Students in the class often make fun of him and give him a wooden code name.
He went to an ordinary university during the college entrance examination. But in the group, it is still rare to see him speak. According to his classmates who went to college with him, he still runs back and forth from school, library and canteen every day.
Later, he went to graduate school. Later, I went to a research institute.
I haven't heard from him for a long time. At the party, the students said that the dead Nianmu must have become a "walking corpse", hunched, wearing thick glasses, walking with his head down and thinking often.
But before the Chinese New Year, a classmate who started a small company insisted on organizing classmates' parties to get everyone together. The classmate who died in school was also dragged in.
That day, the door of the hotel was pushed open, dressed in a decent suit and tall and straight. He came in with a smooth face and a slippery and heavy trench coat on his arm.
We didn't recognize it at the moment.
Yes, what about the pimple on his face, the bookworm who always bows his head? Woodhead, for his part, only smirked shyly at people.
Finally, we learned that this classmate who runs a small company wanted to invite him. He is already a technical authority in the special metal material industry.
When the students talked about these years, we found that the students who really lived well and made some achievements were those who died studying in those years.
Therefore, at the age of "need to learn", it is the most "smart" choice for them to focus on reading. They are like fruit trees. In the first few years, they only took root in their hearts, silently absorbed nutrients, cut off redundant branches and leaves, and experienced storms. Finally, it can always bear sweet fruit.
In a person's life, good luck is a kind of fate. Indulgence and waste in youth should be repaid in half a lifetime.
People who study hard are not stupid, they just don't want to spend too much energy on useless things. I'm not stupid. I just don't want to talk to you.
It's not that I don't have emotional intelligence, I just don't want to show it to you. It's not that people are ignorant of the practice of world affairs, but just want to do a good job in reading.
People with high IQ, how low do you think their EQ will be? People who can read, do you think people will become dogs when they read?
High marks and low abilities are just words used by people with low marks and low abilities to deceive themselves. It seems to be laughing at other people's high scores and low abilities, just like their own high scores and low abilities.
Those students who study hard have a much better life than most people.
I was the one who studied hard.
I graduated from college at the age of 20 and graduated from graduate school at the age of 23.
When I was in college, my hobbies were running, fitness, reading, all kinds of novels, poems, history, philosophy and society.
When I was about to graduate, I saw many working conditions of undergraduate seniors and didn't like them. Most of them are doing their daily work in the personnel department of a traditional enterprise.
So continue to choose to go to graduate school.
After graduate school, my hobbies are still reading and fitness, but I began to concentrate.
I began to make clear my career development direction, then read systematically around this main line and started writing at the same time.
I also specially recommended some books to people, and then thousands of people agreed and thanked them, and more than 10,000 people collected them:
My graduate students have read hundreds of books, not thousands. Every time I move, the most troublesome thing is to move books.
So what's my situation now?
Now I focus on talent training and career development, set up my own studio, and brought a few small partners to be a small team;
If the income is average, it can only be said that it is still on the road.
But slowly, I made some progress in my career.
So what do I want to say?
Everyone has his own characteristics and unique endowments.
So, go your own way.
Find the path and direction that suits you, and then devote yourself to it, so that you can become good at it and excellent.
If you like reading and thinking, don't worry about whether you are introverted or extroverted. As long as you can become good at a certain field or direction and provide services and value to others, you can occupy a place in this social division of labor and exchange.
Thanks to her daughter who died in school, her primary school, junior high school and senior high school all worked hard as always. I never watch TV after school every day. I compete with the books in front of my desk, and I can't sleep a few minutes a day. Because diligent primary school has always been the monitor, the brigade is dry, and the second day is not bad. In the class, I can take the third test before the exam, and I often take the first test in English. However, physical chemistry began in the third grade, and the grade dropped to about ten in the class. After that, she never laughed again. Every time there is no big test or quiz, I will secretly cry. Her father and I. I also know why children are not good at science. She never changes her mind to do the problem. I often communicate with teachers in various subjects, and teachers praise her for her hard work. As for her poor grades, there is nothing we can do. The teacher thinks she is under too much pressure in the exam. I talked to her before every exam. I didn't finish the middle school exam very well, but I was admitted to the provincial key points, just narrowly missed.
High school is still very hard, and senior one is quite good. I advised her to study liberal arts, but the children didn't agree, and I didn't ask for it. However, after the second year of high school, her grades plummeted, and science was still not good or even failed. My daughter didn't talk to me and her father every day after she came back from school, but she was studying. She choked up when we talked to her. I knew that the child must have difficulties in learning. I didn't dare to say it in depth, so I discussed it with her. The reason why I disagreed was that I was reluctant to spend money, afraid of flowers, and embarrassed to do badly in the exam. Our family's conditions are average. I said nothing, my mother has money, and making money is for you. After a long discussion, the child finally agreed. I invited a graduate student from a famous university to help her with math and physics, basically three times a week, mainly to answer questions for children. Seriously, I have always been grateful to this graduate student. This child is a country girl.
But the college entrance examination is not ideal. She only got two exams, and her major was not ideal. Even after graduation, she can't find a job. Her daughter is unwilling to study hard for the postgraduate entrance examination in senior three. She is also a cross-major. She applied for 2 1 1 university, which is still a popular major. Her children seem to be preparing for the college entrance examination. They get up early and study in the dark. I often say that other people's children are forced to study, and my children are forced to study. After the initial test and re-test, I finally received an admission call. The moment my daughter received the phone call, her voice trembled and confirmed it. Putting down the phone, my daughter cried with joy. Her father and I also cried. It's not easy for children. I have always seen the hardships. Now my daughter is still working hard during her master's degree, and she won the first place in three subjects in the final exam. I thank her for her hard work and say that my daughter has worked hard!
Below is my daughter's desk. I bought her such a big desk in kindergarten. At that time, the chair was short, and she couldn't reach the desk for her homework, so I put a small stool on the chair.
The picture below shows three blank sheets of paper on the wall, written by my daughter to cheer for herself, and the number of days crossed out in the countdown to the exam.
There are more than 60 students in our class, and more than 40 of them are university tyrants. Some of them are like this: I go to Internet cafes to play games every day, stay up late when I take the college entrance examination, and play basketball when I have no classes, so I can still do well in the exam! The scores of physics 1 10 are all above 90, mathematics 150 is at least 120, and science is at least 250. A great god also passed the first pass in the city, that is, my deskmate, who is not awesome, is very nice, especially graceful and treats everyone equally. The teacher asked him to take me. In Beihang University, in Wuhan University ... a great god is a great god. There is no death in our class. Only by staying up all night before the college entrance examination can you get a good exam, and learning by rote is also a skill. Don't look down on others. At least people know that they are working hard. Dead learning doesn't mean dead brain. Man will certainly be happy in the future, because he knows how to take life seriously. In this world, you will get what you pay, which is fair. If you have such a person around you now.