Children are good at imitating and learning from others. The good words and deeds of parents and teachers have a subtle influence on children's behavior habits. In the whole process of behavior training and habit formation, teachers and parents are the best education for children. Teacher Ailin wrote in the article: "As soon as I enter the kindergarten gate every day, I will naturally form a habit. When I find garbage on the ground, I will pick it up and send it to the trash can. One day, I found a baby in charge of the class. Her mother carried her to kindergarten, and when she entered the classroom, she suddenly squatted down. It turned out that she found a piece of waste paper. I looked at her when I saw her pick up the waste paper and run to the trash can to throw it. Therefore, teachers must pay attention to their own behavior and truly become role models for children. The artistic images of stories, nursery rhymes, songs, movies and other works have strong example power and appeal, and children also like to imitate them. These examples have the most direct, concrete and vivid influence on children. Through the study of a song "I don't pick flowers", the effect will be better than simply saying "Don't pick flowers and plant trees". By learning a "polite song", many children will take the initiative to greet their teachers when they enter and leave the park.
2. The principle of consistency.
We often find that parents often disagree on the education of their children. Parents often play the roles of "red face" and "white face". In some families, parents are strict with their children, while grandparents indulge them, making it difficult to form good habits. For example, during a home visit, I chatted with my parents and learned that the floor was clean and tidy when I was eating with my father, but when I was eating with my mother, the food spilled all over the floor. Why do the same person have two different results? The reason is also very simple. The two have different requirements for young children, one is strict, and the other is to give up the principle. It is conceivable that strict requirements can cultivate good habits. Family members have the same requirements for their children, so do teachers, families and class teachers, and all parties should cooperate closely to educate their children, which is the key for children to form good habits. Many parents report that their children listen to and do what the teacher says and admire the teacher very much. Therefore, if parents encounter any problems, they should report them to the teacher in time, and the teacher will cooperate with the parents to carry out individual education, which often has a good effect. For example, some children need the help of their parents to do everything at home, which is impolite to their elders, but the students on duty in kindergarten are serious and responsible and polite to their teachers. Some children can eat well and dress well in kindergarten, but not at home. Parents can promptly report their children's bad behavior at home to teachers, and teachers can carry out targeted education to change their children's bad habits. On the other hand, teachers should have the same requirements for children. Only when families, kindergartens and teachers cooperate with each other can we get twice the result with half the effort.
3. Adhere to the principle of educational consistency.
Once a reasonable request is made, it must be adhered to. If you can't remember, just put it down. Teachers and parents must have a strong will to ask their children to abide by the rules. After persistence day after day, children will be able to form good habits. This aspect is the most difficult for parents. Because you are busy with your work, or your child is unwell and crying, it will be easy to give up your principles, which will destroy or make it difficult for your child to adhere to the newly formed good habits. On the other hand, some teachers have no perseverance. They think it is impossible for children to do a small thing over and over again and play the same tune all day. But we should know that children's self-control ability is poor, and their cognition and behavior are often inconsistent. Even if they know and remember all kinds of norms and requirements, some bad behaviors and habits will still stir up and waste teachers' efforts. This requires parents and teachers to adhere to the consistency of education, seize the signs at any time and strengthen training. Otherwise, it will be difficult to cultivate good habits after they are destroyed.
4. Stick to practical principles.
Practical activities are the key to forming good habits. Children should learn how to eat, sleep and go to the toilet, learn the skills of communicating with others, cultivate good habits, gain the experience and understanding of "what to do and what not to do", and be strengthened in repeated practice, and gradually develop habits. Parents and teachers should give their children more opportunities to practice, and don't deprive them of the opportunity to practice by waiting for you to do it yourself. Children can only get used to nature through repeated training. For example, when many children just go to kindergarten, their parents will tell their teachers that "our baby can't eat, take off his clothes, urinate or …", but when the children really leave their parents, after a period of time, you will find that they have made progress. They can not only go to the toilet by themselves, but also learn to eat. We insisted on intensive training for him, and a few months later, his parents were surprised and amazed when they found that their children could handle it like this. In fact, the most fundamental thing is to insist on letting children practice by themselves, not to replace them.
Second, six ways to cultivate children's good behavior habits
1, create a good educational environment and promote the development of children's good behavior habits.
Educational environment refers to the material and spiritual environment that directly affects children's psychology. Creating a rich and harmonious material environment and spiritual environment for children and stimulating their yearning and pursuit of truth, goodness and beauty are the prerequisites for cultivating children's good behavior habits.
First of all, we have created a rich material environment for our children. For example, we set up a book corner on the balcony of the class, which is a quiet place, and a repair corner next to the book corner, with the purpose of cultivating children's quiet reading and developing their hands-on ability, and cultivating children's good habit of caring for books. In view of the fact that all kinds of beverage bottles can be seen everywhere, we mobilize children to collect, sort out, clean and decorate all kinds of bottles, and then decorate and beautify the environment of the activity room together, which not only enhances children's awareness of environmental protection and cooperation, but also cultivates children's practical ability, so that children can discover and show beauty while enjoying success.
Secondly, we create a positive and healthy psychological environment for children. We insist on communicating with children every day and try to accept their thinking and behavior from their perspective. If one day, Danny is found pulling small vegetables. The teacher didn't criticize her immediately, but asked her why. Through understanding, we know that she wants to explore what is under the green vegetables, so our teacher affirmed her inquiry behavior, invited an old man who can grow vegetables to talk about the process of growing vegetables, and brought pictures to guide children to observe the growth of vegetables, and then put the small green vegetables in a bottle for hydroponics, so that children can observe the growth of roots. Even if children's behavior has shortcomings and mistakes, we should stand in their perspective and give them opportunities for information and exploration, which will also help to cultivate habits.
We set up the concept of modern children's education, build an equal, cooperative and harmonious relationship between teachers and children, take trust, respect and understanding of children as the premise, take encouragement, protection and promotion as the means, pay attention to the art of communication with children, and at the same time fully explore and reasonably organize the educational factors in the material environment that are conducive to cultivating children's habits, including the indoor and outdoor environment of kindergarten activities and the materials of district activities. Strive to let children give full play to their individuality in the process of democracy, harmony, autonomy and automation.
2. Use "one-day activities" to cultivate children's good habits in various forms.
Children's daily life includes all kinds of activities, which are indispensable links in children's development. Effectively use and play the complementary role of these activities to realize the unity of knowledge and action.
Children in small classes have just left their parents and come to a strange environment because of their young age, and they are very dependent. In our usual activities, we should pay attention to adopting random, infiltration, situational and other forms of education to gradually cultivate children's self-care ability and interpersonal skills. First, learn about children's preferences at home, and then create some scenes in the activities. The teacher starts from entering the park, eating, going to the toilet and taking a nap. And teach children the most superficial self-care skills, and teach them how to button and undress with children's songs. In the activity area, we put some small clothes and set it as a "doll dressing" scene, so that children can practice dressing and buttoning skills and make some progress in it.
Children in middle and large classes have certain self-care ability and skills, but lack cooperation, sharing and hands-on ability. We launched the "I am on duty today" activity, which gave children the opportunity to cooperate, distribute bowls and chopsticks, arrange toys, help nurses fold quilts and clean tables. To serve everyone, so that every child can experience the fun and pride of serving everyone while exercising.
One-day life is a good opportunity to cultivate children's habits. We use every link in our daily life and adopt various forms of education to promote the development of children's good behavior habits.
3. Play various games to guide children to develop good behavior habits.
Games are the most popular among children, because they are voluntary activities. With happy emotions, children are in a state of excitement and complete devotion, so it is easy to cultivate their behavior habits.
At present, the only child is the "Little Sun" at home, and his parents love him very much. All the toys and articles are his own. Therefore, in kindergarten, it is often because there are not enough toys or when he likes to play with similar toys, because he can't use appropriate language to negotiate, it often happens that peers compete for toys. In the face of conflicts, we adopt situational training. For example, in sports activities, when children compete for the ball, we set up a scene of "Little Ball Crying" for children to discuss: Why is Little Ball Crying? What should I do? Let the children know how to play together in the discussion. When children have conflicts, we also let them learn to consider the needs of others through stories, nursery rhymes, simulated scenes and situational performances. Carry out activities such as "traveling to the toy kingdom", "sending toys home" and "crying about bad toys" to let children reflect on themselves in fun games and get rid of some bad habits.
Games are a representation of children's social life and are group-oriented. Children reflect the most interesting things through their own or peers' activities and learn from them. So games are the best activity to cultivate habits.
4. Seize the opportunity of festival activities to cultivate children's good moral habits.
Festivals carry a certain cultural tradition, and the festive atmosphere brought to children by festivals is often an important opportunity to educate children. Children like the festive atmosphere, and are easy to receive the education of traditional culture and love in the rich festive atmosphere. We combine holiday commemoration activities to cultivate children's good habits of respecting their elders and caring for others.
Children's birthdays will not be forgotten in life, but the birthdays of parents and the elderly are often ignored. Our teacher specially invited children's grandmothers to the garden on the Double Ninth Festival to listen to their stories about their childhood life, hard work and how to take care of their children and grandchildren. In contrast, the children really felt the love given by the old man, and grandma's simple words touched the naive children, who all said they would perform programs for grandma and make her happy. With the help of the teacher, several capable children made "fruit dolls" and gave them to the elderly with flower chains made of various paper flowers. They beat their backs, I beat their legs, you sing, I dance, and send double ninth festival cakes to show their love.
5. Pay attention to typicality, individual differences and correct bad habits.
Many bad habits are formed under certain circumstances. To cultivate children's good behavior habits, it is necessary to analyze, guide and correct children's bad behaviors, and gradually transform them into conscious behaviors through persistent and repeated reinforcement in daily life. After carefully observing different children, different training measures are implemented according to their characteristics.
Due to the deviation in family education, we found that some children are very picky about food, don't eat green vegetables or meat, refuse to eat by themselves, wait for feeding, play with spoons when encountering dishes they don't want to eat, and even vomit. So we first use stories, nursery rhymes and other forms to let him know the nutrition of various dishes and the truth that he can't be picky about food, and then encourage him to eat by himself, starting with eating less and tasting more. In addition, in order to improve children's picky eaters, on the one hand, we contact parents and let children participate in the process of buying, picking, washing, cutting, making and releasing. Let children taste the fruits of their labor while participating in labor. On the other hand, we discussed with the canteen staff to change the color and variety of colors, and made efforts from the aspects of color, fragrance, taste and shape of food to arouse the excitement of children's central nervous system and correct their picky eaters, which has already affected them. We also organized a buffet dinner, in which children introduced the names of dishes, cooking methods, nutritional value and the choice of "delicious dishes" by each family, and guided the children to taste various dishes, effectively correcting the phenomenon that children are partial to food and picky eaters.
6, family cooperation, * * * with the cultivation of children's behavior habits.
Kindergarten and family are two different environments. Some children's performance in kindergarten and family is inconsistent, and some even have a great contrast. Therefore, the cooperation between home and home directly affects the development of children's behavior habits.
In the work of parents, we find that many families have some misunderstandings in the process of educating their children. Some parents like to influence their children's choices with their own thoughts. Some parents love their children too much, which leads to their excessive attachment, willfulness and excessiveness. One morning, a child was lying on the ground crying, but his grandmother refused to get up. We learned that his mother had a broken bone and was resting at home, but it was useless for her to say so. Grandma had to drag him into the garden. So we had a heart-to-heart talk with him, helped him analyze the reasons why his mother couldn't get up, let the children talk about what they should do, and launched the activity of "I do it for my mother ...", which inspired the feelings of loving my mother, encouraged the children to do some small things for her, and alleviated her pain. A few days later, his grandmother happily told us that the child was sensible, knew to care about his mother, and brought water to his mother to take medicine, which did not affect her rest. I also showed her the skills I had learned. In order to strengthen this behavior, we specially rewarded him with a big five-pointed star in front of the whole class.
The close cooperation of home has effectively cultivated children's good habits of being polite, loving their parents, respecting their elders and caring for others, and effectively improved their language, hands-on and communication skills.