On one occasion, Hera found that Zeus's eyes lit up because of a long emotional convulsion, and she couldn't help being jealous and decided to kill Alice. At the critical moment, Alice knew that she was no match for Hera, so she didn't fight to the death. She knelt on the ground and endured the injustice imposed on her by Hera, reaching out and begging and complaining bitterly. Although he was turned into a big bear, he finally saved his life and became a bright star in the sky.
Noboru takeshita, the former Japanese Prime Minister, has benefited from patience throughout his political career. When talking about his own experience, Noboru takeshita said that "patience and silence" was the political etiquette he learned when he assisted his teacher Zuo Tengrong as prime minister.
In China, the word "forbearance" has become the philosophy of life of many people with lofty ideals. Endure a moment's anger and avoid a hundred days' worries; All troubles are never unbearable. Both Gou Jian and Han Xin, King of Yue, were greatly insulted by others, but in the end, they both weathered the storm and achieved great things. Qing? Jin Lansheng's "Motto Lian Bi? The book "Raising" said: "I will be able to endure the unbearable feelings of others, and I will be able to be a man and not be a politician. "
Patience is really a good medicine for pain. On the one hand, forbearing people's temporary doubts and certain humiliation is a way to get rid of the passive situation, and it is also a tempering of will and perseverance, laying a foundation for future efforts, dedication and success that can't be obtained under normal circumstances.
Real life itself is not completely rational, but also full of helpless logic. For example, some people have aggressive personality, which means that others are often provoked for no reason. If we deal with all attacks, the environment we live in will be full of gunpowder. What are the benefits of health? What is good for people? What's good for life?
Patience, patience, humility. Generally speaking, if there is a contradiction in the social process, both parties may be responsible, but as parties, they should take the initiative to be polite and find the reasons from their own aspects. Patience is actually to let time and facts express themselves. Taking a tolerant attitude in social life can make many things cold and get rid of unprincipled entanglement and unnecessary quarrels. One day Goethe was walking in the park when a critic who had sharply criticized his works came face to face. The critic stood in front of Goethe and shouted, "I never give way to fools!" " "Goethe replied," but I am just the opposite! " He said this with a big smile on his face. Goethe's forbearance avoided a meaningless quarrel. Forbearance like Goethe can avoid all kinds of contradictions and conflicts, and can also eliminate one's own troubles and anger. In a sense, it can not only help you get rid of the embarrassing situation and step down, but also show your mind and tolerance.
As the saying goes, "things are often unsatisfactory." Those who look forward to the sweetness of love will inevitably have the distress of lovelorn; A family that has always been harmonious cannot lack the quarrel between the horse spoon and the edge of the pot; A friend who is considered trustworthy, the occasional misunderstanding actually creates a diaphragm; Struggle for the cause may be envied by mediocre people ... These disappointments in life often test a person's cultivation level: some take it easy, take it easy, and turn war into friendship with sincerity; Others are angry and bitter, and make enemies because of intolerance. Learning to be patient seems simple, but it has the power to solve all kinds of troubles in your life, making people's lives full of confidence, happiness and sunshine.
First of all, tolerance is a virtue. The mistakes of relatives, the misunderstanding of friends, the credulity caused by misinformation, and the right and wrong caused by rumors ... At this time, anger is helpless, and anger will not turn into rain, but temporary tolerance can help you restore your proper image and get fair evaluation and praise.
In the middle of Qing Dynasty, there was a famous story of "Liuchi Lane". According to legend, the prime minister and assistant minister Ye were both from Tongcheng, Anhui Province, and they lived together. Both of them want to build houses and have disputes over land. Mrs. Zhang has written a book in Beijing. Please intervene. After all, the Prime Minister has extraordinary knowledge. After reading the letter, he immediately wrote a poem to persuade the old lady: "A letter of a thousand miles is just a wall, why not let it go three feet?" The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, but I haven't seen Qin Shihuang. "When Zhang Mu saw Zhang Shuming, she immediately took the initiative to retreat the courtyard wall by three feet. Ye Jia was deeply ashamed to see this scene, and immediately put the wall back three feet. In this way, between the walls of Zhang Ye's house and Zhang Ye's house, a six-foot wide roadway was formed.
Ancient enlightened people could still do this. Today's colleagues should be better than feudal literati in dealing with small problems.
Tolerance is not cowardice. On the contrary, what it needs more is self-confidence and tenacity. The rich can endure to protect their homes, the poor can endure humiliation, the father and son can endure filial piety, the brothers can endure kindness, the friends can endure affection, and the husband and wife can endure peace. The word "forbearance" used by the ancients has at least the following two meanings: First, tenacity and tenacity. Jin people said: "The two enemies are opposite, but they should be tolerant; He can't stand it, so can I, and it's for the ears. " Tolerance is the embodiment of tenacious spirit here. The second is inhibition. Xunzi? Confucianism said: "I endure private, and then I can be public;" Be patient with inertia, and then you can repair it. "Lu You, a patriotic poet of the Song Dynasty, who is known as the" eternal man ",has the ambition to serve the country and dismount the grass, and also wrote the famous sentence" Endure often needs an inscription ". This kind of patience, isn't it the precious character of their tenacity? Who says they are weak and can be bullied?
Secondly, the key to the problem is to see what is "intrigue". Endure small anger and make great plans. This is the true nature of a hero. Because of Lin Xiangru's forbearance, the story of the idiom "offer a humble apology" was passed down as a beautiful story through the ages: Lin Xiangru, as a prime minister, was in a high position and didn't care about Lian Po, but he was humble everywhere. Why? For the country. Peace will unite the whole country, there will be no bad blood between countries, and the enemy will not dare to take the opportunity to enter. Lin Xiangru's forbearance is precisely for the stability of the country, and forbearance has achieved great things. On the contrary, it is not uncommon for people to be unwilling to give in and make great plans. When Chu and Han contended, Xiang Yu told General Cao Blame to stick to the elevation and not to go to war. As long as he can stop Liu Bang 15, it is meritorious service. Don't want to xiang yu left, liu bang, made a plan to scold the city, sent troops into the city, named abuse, and even drew a picture, abuse Cao Guai. Now, Cao was provoked by heartfelt complaints and anger, and forgot Xiang Yu's instructions, and immediately led the troops to the city gate. It's really "General Chong Guan didn't know what to do, and he lost the public in a rage." The Han army had already ambushed, just waiting for the Chu army to leave the city and enter the urn. In an instant, the earth shook and Cao was killed.
Third, forbearance is a kind of vision and measurement. People who can control themselves and forbear are profound and powerful, which is the embodiment of great talent.
"If selfish people want to take advantage of you, ignore them, let alone take revenge. When you want to get back at him, you hurt yourself more than that guy. " This famous saying is very intriguing.
A word "forbearance" has been emitting magical light since ancient times. Almost all successful people at all times and in all countries have been deeply touched by the word "forbearance".
When Masinley just took office as the President of the United States, he appointed someone as the Minister of Taxation. Many politicians were against this man at that time. They sent representatives to the presidential palace to meet Masinley and asked him to explain the reason for appointing this person. Headed by a short member of Congress, he was grumpy and rude, and cursed the president from the beginning. Masinley didn't say a word, just let him curse at the top of his lungs. Finally, he said kindly, "You are finished, so your anger can be calmed down?" In principle, you have no right to accuse me like this, but I am still willing to explain to you in detail ... "These words made Members feel very ashamed. But before he apologized, the president kindly said to him, "Actually, I can't blame you, because I think anyone who doesn't know the truth will be furious." Then he explained the reasons one by one.
In fact, before Masinley could explain, the senator was moved by him. He regretted blaming a kind president for such a bad attitude. Therefore, when he went back to report to his companions, he just said, "I can't remember all the explanations of the president, but I can report one thing, that is, the president's choice is not wrong."
Unexpectedly, the "submit to humiliation", which has always been despised by people, also has its own advantages. Not being angry not only makes Masinley's explanation effective, but also makes members repent from now on and never make embarrassing moves again. Others deliberately use various tricks to make you lose your temper. When you are angry, you will do irrational things, which is undoubtedly asking for it.
Nothing can subdue a man who loses his temper like patience.
Endurance is a kind of self-cultivation, an idea and a strategy of taking defense as the attack. The effect of a gentleman's patience often exceeds strength and catharsis. As the old saying goes, there is a profound truth that "submit to humiliation, be lenient with others, and sweep the snow from the front door". If a gentleman takes a long distance, he will rule, and if he takes a big one, he will endure.
1958, a man named Willard? Scott's man returned to Washington, D.C. after serving in the navy for two years. As expected, NBC is waiting for him to go back to the air. I just didn't expect a new boss. For some reason, the new boss seems unwilling to accept him.
So he tried his best to meet the boss's requirements in all aspects, so he started his work calmly and cautiously. After the new boss rescheduled the show Happy Boys, he couldn't watch it anymore. He and his old partner (and friend) Edie? Walker has been hosting this comedy show, and the timing couldn't be worse-it didn't air until nearly midnight.
He was furious and prepared to have a big fight with his boss, even though it might get him fired. However, before he went to war, he remembered a sentence of King Solomon in the Bible: "Patience reflects wisdom, and generosity is glory." His mood gradually calmed down.
Etienne? Walker and he accepted this unfortunate schedule and worked hard. Finally, three years later, "Happy Guys" became the dominant program in Washington. What is especially rare is that his new boss realized how immoral it was to do that in the past, so he sincerely apologized to him. What his boss did filled the emotional gap between them.
One day, the new boss invited him to a radio party, but this time he couldn't escape. He met the boss's fiancee at the party. She is a smart, lively and pragmatic girl. How can a girl like her like someone who has nothing to recommend? Through the boss's fiancee, he has a clearer understanding of the boss's character and conduct.
As time went on, his attitude changed and so did his boss. Later, they became good friends. He still works for NBC and hosts the weather forecast on TV's Today program.
I really should thank King Solomon for his teaching.
Patience is the art of creating hope. Endurance is really a brilliant way for people to do things, a lever for people to do things, and a shortcut to their careers. There are many happy experiences and many bad experiences in life. Only by learning to be patient can we be comfortable.
How much pain, how much torture, how much difficulty, how much danger ... almost everyone will be teased by fate on the journey of life. When you are unwilling to be a slave to fate and fail to hold it by the throat, you should learn to be patient-let all the pain fade away and all the tears turn into smoke in patience.
Patience is not resignation, nor submission to the temptation and disposal of fate. The vicissitudes of life have buried unspeakable hidden pain in the abyss of life, but patience can make people believe that the hidden pain will inevitably disappear and the sky will be brighter after the storm.
Patience is not negative and decadent, but quietly lowering the sail of faith in silence. The turbulent life makes people feel confused, but patience keeps unbearable loneliness, anger and hardship in the bottom of my heart, preventing it from slipping out and soaking away, and even tilting the balance of the soul.
Patience is the tempering of will and the accumulation of explosive power; Is to break the net with silent struggle and melt the hard ice with invisible flame. Anger in patience, struggle in patience, and pain in patience can make life shine. The burden of life is often the glory of life-towering monuments and brilliant achievements in the world are born from patience.
Learn to be patient, learn to pursue persistently in patience, and feel life more deeply in patience. "Genius is nothing more than long-term patience! Do it well! " -Mo Bosang practiced Flaubert's message and eventually became a dazzling star in the world literary world.
So how can we achieve the best state of "forbearance"?
First of all, I am always clearly aware of the existence of the goal, so as to constantly improve my thinking ability with my brain to achieve this goal.
Secondly, try to understand the meaning of everything you do. Once understood, the attitude towards work will change from "should do" to "must do". In this way, we can reduce the tension and oppression in our work and finish our work happily. Otherwise, forcing yourself to do things you don't like will not only add a lot of trouble and pain, but also make you mentally exhausted and inefficient.
Third, cultivate the habit of being content with difficulties. When a person is faced with difficulties, he often shows a tendency to escape. But in order to achieve self-control, we must endure the pain caused by this dilemma. After a long time, you will naturally develop a kind of endurance that you can take difficulties calmly and concentrate on your work.
Fourth, learn to suppress impulsive emotions. At first glance, it seems difficult. However, as long as we calmly analyze, it is easy to find that it is actually very simple to suppress impulsive emotions. But for strong impulses or desires, it is more appropriate to choose a suitable time and give them a chance to vent as much as possible.
If we keep training ourselves, soon, we will naturally enter the best state of forbearance in the subconscious, and our life will shine accordingly.