When boys and girls meet for the first time, no matter which side, try to say: Stop it, stop bragging. The best state is: awkward, giving people a very comfortable feeling, feeling that this person is very cultivated. Last week, when I asked the man with a question on a blind date, he always answered irrelevant questions and unconsciously extended the question. Obviously, he asked him: I take the liberty to ask who introduced our aunt to you. He
To sum up: whether a person has self-cultivation or not, the first contact is with words. Or one of the most important factors in blind date.
Wearing clothes for the first time.
Boys and girls must pay attention to their clothes. Once they met a man wearing a down jacket in winter with an empty cotton sweater inside, which gave a very bad impression. Everyone likes to be respected and valued. If so, they will definitely deduct points for blind date. Girls, too, will dress themselves up beautifully. No matter how you look at it, the result of plain face will only make men dull. Remember: men always like beautiful women, and women always do.
No matter what you look like when dating, you must pay attention to your clothes. Last time we talked about dress, now let's talk about how to dress appropriately. First of all, you should dress according to the season. Whether you are a boy or a girl, don't blindly follow the trend, and don't wear any clothes of Hari Hahan. Don't wear professional clothes. Of course, you can choose the former under the age of 25 and the latter over the age of 35. Or not all men are suitable for wearing pink shirts.
When you meet for the first time, avoid talking about your parents.
Today, I will introduce the taboo words in dating: Try to talk less about your parents when dating. Why? Talking too much will make the other person feel that you are not mature enough, and secondly, you will feel insecure with you. If you are a man, you will be associated with 24 filial piety. If you are a woman who wants to be king at home in the future, you can sum up one sentence: If you want to fail in blind date early, then move your parents out. Nine out of ten sentences are about parents, and the tenth sentence is about them. Congratulations, you will be eliminated by T.
Generally speaking, people who meet on blind dates should know something about their parents and family. There is no need to ask them when we meet for the first time. You can't help asking: Are your parents still working? Click here. There was once a GG who said: at home, parents' words are imperial edicts. It is absolutely unpleasant and even disgusting for a 30-year-old to say such a thing.
Suitable topic for first blind date
There are often problems with TF. Since there are so many things you can't say or mention on a date, what should you say? In fact, when we meet for the first time, we should talk about each other's work as much as possible. For example, you can introduce where you work and what you mainly do. This is usually said by men first. First, MM can understand what you do. Second, MM can also observe your speech through this. TF said that my job is poor and my income is not high. How can I express it well? The method is simple. You can just say: I think young people should practice more. I will read some similar books or study in my spare time. The following TF is free to play, but one thing is that this is only applicable to TF under 30 years old. If you are a male TF over 30 years old with a low salary, you need to put it another way. See tomorrow's post for details.
Time control of first blind date
It is often important to control the time of blind date. The best time to meet for the first time is about two hours, and 2-4 pm is the best. Why? For one thing, lunch has already been eaten, and for another, this election will not be too expensive. According to psychology, when men and women meet for the first time, the best time for them to talk is about 1 hour, because they usually decide to meet again after the first time. I'll talk to you tomorrow about the choice of blind date location.
The prologue of the first blind date.
Today I want to talk about the prelude of blind date. Many times, when men and women meet for the first time, they always like to ask: Have you eaten? Is it convenient to come over? In fact, such words should be placed in the third and fourth sentences. The first and second sentences should be: Hello, nice to meet you, with a natural smile when you speak. Don't underestimate this sentence. It's far warmer than how I feel about you. It's not that you can't say those words, but that you should speak some natural languages on this occasion. Eating and convenient transportation are all conversation topics, which are not suitable for opening remarks.
It's best not to shake hands on the first blind date.
Some people say that for the first time, if you feel good, you'd better shake hands. Actually, it's very risky. How can I put it? When the two sides haven't confirmed their feelings, don't feel good about yourself on the grounds of "we talked very speculatively" or "we are very interested". Sometimes it's just a superficial phenomenon. Don't shake hands on the first blind date. One is unnecessary, and the other is easy to give people the illusion of dealing with business.
Be sure to be on time for the first meeting.
The first blind date, we must have the concept of punctuality. Many men think that women are always unpunctual. In fact, they are all only children now and don't pay much attention to the concept of time. They always think it's okay to be late. Even some people don't know where to go in advance, so they wait until then, or there is a subway or taxi anyway. In fact, they would rather leave early than be late. Imagine, there is no time at all.
The first meal on a blind date
When eating, I usually invite my sister to dinner. MM said she had already eaten, but she was only being polite. You must not think that she has eaten. If MM doesn't care where to eat, she can choose Pizza Hut and other places to eat. One is that the price will not be too high, and the other is emotional. If you like MM when eating, you can take the initiative to add dishes to each other. Eating western food can best reflect whether MM is a lady. Don't be too nervous. Ask MM first when ordering. If MM says it doesn't matter, you can order some general food and ask MM if there are any taboo foods. Don't shut the door too tightly. After dinner, if you are still quite speculative with each other, you can continue walking. Finally, whether you are interested in further development or not, you must ask MM for contact information. It is best to control the first meeting time within three hours.
What should you pay attention to when you go to the blind date's home for the first time? Speak generously, don't be coy, pay attention to the way you speak, dress neatly and don't wear bright colors.
When we meet on a blind date for the first time, we usually just take the blind date to a restaurant or cafe to see what the other person likes, otherwise we can also go to tourist attractions, which is very good.
What should I pay attention to when I go to the blind date's home for the first time? 1, the effect of blind date is very clear and strong.
2. The blind date is a stranger and has no emotional foundation. The economic base of men plays a decisive role.
3. Both sides of blind date are basically unsuccessful in free love.
4. The blind date is generally older and has certain social experience.
Nowadays, older blind date girls are basically single (due to the popularity of social software, there will be some lovers on weekends), reporting a mentality of riding a donkey to find a horse.
6. Blind date women are basically materialistic and pay great attention to the man's conditions (looks, economic income). Some men with good conditions can find a beautiful woman in their twenties at the age of forty or fifty. The so-called insecurity of most blind date women is the level of the man's economic conditions. If the man is as good as the blind date, he will soon fall in love with him and get married. Otherwise, the talks will last for a long time and there will be no result in the end.
7, the society is very realistic, blind date, love and marriage are all realistic, and the man's economic income is the pillar of the whole family. The economic needs of blind date women, whether euphemistic or direct, will be revealed, and their gentleness and thoughtfulness need the man's economic pay.
8. If the concept and values of the blind date are suitable, talk about it, otherwise politely refuse, and both parties should not waste money and time.
9. If you can learn about it on WeChat or QQ first, it won't take long. Look below if you like.
10, the first date, just a cup of tea at most, don't spend too much. After all, the blind date is a stranger. If you are satisfied, you can talk about it. You don't like to find an excuse to leave, even if it is to save money for a cup of tea.
1 1, no matter what the result is, it is better for both parties to report to the introducer. Some things can be said by the introducer.
12, if the blind date is the best, everyone is happy. Even if the blind date is unsuccessful, be natural and generous. The blind date is a stranger, and neither side has invested too much. If you don't succeed, you can be a stranger
13, the blind date was unsuccessful, and there is only one condition for being friends: interest (economy, career direction).
14, some blind date people say that they are stingy and refuse to spend money just to take advantage of it without much effort. There is no need to spend a penny a minute on a stranger who has no interest.
15, in short, both sides of blind date are equal, and it is best for both sides to be suitable. Marriage is impossible. There is no need to ask for help. Doing so will only make the other party despise themselves more. It can be said that blind date is a comprehensive game between men and women. Don't rely on "if you take the initiative, you can do it". These words are just self-consolation for failure. Blind date should be confident, self-reliant and self-respecting.
Is it appropriate to send flowers to your blind date for the first time? Send them a second time! When we meet for the first time, if you have a good impression, bring a bunch of flowers for the second time!
What should I pay attention to on the first blind date? Be generous and decent, don't talk all the time, but guide the other person to talk. But I guess you should be nervous.
If you go on a blind date, be careful not to be nervous, just be yourself. Topic, you need to know something, and then observe each other's reaction during your chat. For example, if you are talking about political matters, and the other party seldom answers or just listens to you, you will want to change the subject. Until the other person wants to communicate with you more, it shows that the other person is interested in this topic.
When walking, just follow the distance between work and colleagues, or when going out with friends.
As a boy, you should take the initiative and try to find a topic. For example, hobbies, what do you usually do at home, what is popular in society now, and do some homework before dating.
If you have time, you should see each other. It is best to choose the time from 2 pm to 3 pm. Then see if the other person is interested in you. If so, try to have fun for a while. If there is really no topic, find some activities. Go to the neighborhood to see a movie or something. The most important thing is to have dinner together, and then at least send each other to the station. Remember the contact information.
Blind date is a new word for us. If your parents got married in the 1970s and 1980s, most of them met on blind dates. For us older men and women, blind date is a "work task" that the elderly at home will arrange for you every week. So what should we pay attention to on the first blind date? Let's talk about clothes first. This is very important whether you are a boy or a girl. The overall style of dress is: simple, simple and generous. Don't wear professional clothes, people will think you are here for the meeting. Besides the style of clothes, the most important thing is cleanliness and neatness. Clothes may not be famous brands, but they must be clean and tidy and smell like laundry detergent. There is also the problem of shoes, which must be cleaned. Anyway, my feeling is that if I see a boy wearing a clean suit but his upper is dirty, my impression of him will be directly reduced by half. Then there is the meeting time. Both boys and girls try not to be late, which is also a sign of your respect for each other. You can arrive one and a half minutes early, you can walk around earlier, and you won't lose anything. Generally speaking, the family situation of both blind dates is basically understood. No matter what your purpose is, not being late for meeting is the minimum respect for others. If you are reckless, traffic jams and other problems, you will feel very unstable. Talk about chatting. When two people meet for the first time, they don't know each other well. Common topics are work and salary. We can talk about our future career plans and study plans when we go in and out of the workplace, but we must be realistic, don't talk big, and don't blow our own horn. People who brag often think that others are ignorant, but in fact others just keep silent. To sum up, it is of course appropriate for girls to wear light makeup, and everyone will not miss the beautiful things. Because our blind date is to fall in love and get married in the future, I don't think it's necessary to be artificial and fake. Just try to keep yourself true, generous and natural, and leave the rest to fate!
Pay attention to the first blind date: your mentality, I think nothing is more important than your mentality.